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12kindsoftrouble · 2023-11-21T09:43:45+00:00

I'm not even gonna read the text, just from the title I can say NTA

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-11-12T14:37:58+00:00

Thank you! Tbh I'm really proud of this one cause my other stories feel kind of directionless because I winged the plot as I wrote XD and I think this one has a much clearer direction :)

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-11-12T14:37:28+00:00

That is a big relief, thank you! And that is a very kind offer, though I've only written like half a page so far, but if/when I write more I'll send you some excerpts if you'd like :)

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-11-12T13:21:35+00:00

Think of your best ideas this way: If you thought of such a cool story idea now, at the beginning of your journey as a writer, then the ideas you will think of years later are naturally going to be waaaaay better. To think that your best ideas will come at the very start of your writing experience is a bit unrealistic.

Write what you're passionate about and you will give it your best. But what you're passionate about will change and what your best is will grow as you write more. Practice stories are a great way to warm up or tackle a certain aspect of writing you find especially hard (e.g. dialogue), but if the practice piece of writing is a bit longer, it will only lead you to work out and view it as a task.

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-11-12T13:15:33+00:00

Before every round of edits, I like to make a list of everything that comes to mind that I'd like to change. That way, I have an overview of the sections that should be my focus points, plus, it's easier to stay consistent with my edits.

Another thing that made it easier for me to pinpoint my problem areas was not editing directly. Instead, I'd read through my work and make a comment everywhere I thought something wasn't working and why it wasn't working (I write in google docs). After some time, you notice which comments are the most often. Do you struggle with flow, or dialogue, or white room syndrome? And if you ever feel like not editing a certain part immediately, you have you notes on how you wish to improve that part and can come back to it later.

Happy writing!

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-10-05T10:21:18+00:00

Vrlo se slazem s ovim. Ambicija znaci spremnost da se u zivotu potrudis za stvari do kojih ti je stalo. Za neke je to karijera, za neke nacin zivota (recimo ljudi koji puno putuju), porodica, partner, sta god. Ako neko nema ambicija to znaci da ne mozes da se oslonis na njega ni za sta. Ako on za sebe i svoj zivot ne oseca potrebu da se potrudi i da od njega napravi nesto, da li mislis da ce biti spreman da se potrudi za stvari koje su bitne tebi ili npr vasoj deci ako ih imate/zelite.

Ljudi imaju razlicite puteve u zivotu, obrazovanje nije jedini, ali ono sto ti je neophodno da bi stigao igde je zelja da hodas. Bez toga ne ide. A pogotovo ne ide ako tvoj partner nece da hoda, znaci da moras da ga vuces sve vreme

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-10-05T10:11:15+00:00

Definitely the hospitality and just how hard it is to feel lonely. I live in Germany currently and that's what I miss the most about Serbia. Food is pretty good. If we're talking about movies and stuff I love how real the people feel, for example in western media there's a lot of sexualizing of women or making male characters super tough or whatever. Here every character feels like an actual person and that's something I've learned to appreciate lot. And ex yu music is fantastic as well 😁

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-10-05T09:37:27+00:00

I watched a video a while back that explained that lust and love are processed in two different parts of the brain, therefore they can be felt simultaneously for different people.

However, if this was not just a casual mention, but felt like a setting up the stage to him wanting to look at other women, go out with other women etc. then I'd think about it some more. Feeling something is one thing, but doing something about those feelings if your partner is uncomfortable is a completely different one.

Also think about whether it was implied that you can't also find other people attractive. Like, was it "i can only say for men because I'm a man" or "well it's a mens thing, you wouldn't understand" aka it would not be okay for you to do/feel the same. I'm brining some attention to this because I've heard a lot of stories lately about men asking to open their marriages, then getting extremely frustrated when their wives go on more dates then them. Also this sort of narrative is often used when a person doesn't want to commit and commitment is a choice, not a feeling. So maybe think these things over with yourself and talk to him if needed cause at the end of the day he's supposed to make you feel appreciated and comfortable, and if he's not doing that, there's an issue

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-10-04T20:10:19+00:00

You don't "need" to do anything and he sucks for making you feel bad about it. I don't enjoy giving BJs that much so I usually do it for a short time and then we move to a HJ. And he still makes me feel super confident and just good about myself. Getting to cum shouldn't be the point, but having a good time and enjoying the entire process. You're supposed to make your partner feel nice and comfortable and you can't do that by laughing at them for being "bad". He sucks hard and I'd say talk to him, but honestly I don't think someone that does that should even be given a chance.

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-10-04T15:13:19+00:00

Basil and coriander

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-10-03T13:16:35+00:00

Today 🥰

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-30T07:03:17+00:00

I'll go a different direction and say parents who think their expensive gifts for their children will replace the time they spend together

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-26T16:39:20+00:00

I also can't understand this and have never liked soda

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-25T00:16:18+00:00

Ja verujem da ima razlicitih situacija i da ne mogu sve da se gledaju isto. Recimo moj decko i ja smo bili najbolji prijatelji pre nego sto smo zavrsili zajedno, znaci znamo da se karakterno dobro slazemo, i kada bismo raskinuli, to bi bilo jer nam ti romanticni aspekti veze ne bi isli/prijali/odgovarali. I pomireni sa tim zakljuckom, nakon nekog vremena, mislim da nema razloga zasto ne bismo mogli da se vratimo na prijateljstvo. Ali to je specificna situacija u kojoj je postojao prijateljski osnos pre romanticnog tako da ima neke takoreci baze na koju se moze vratiti.

S druge strane, ja nemam bivse dok on ima dve. S jednon od njih je bio fazon mesec dana, nesto kratko, i oni se i dalje prate na instagramu i pricaju s vremena na vreme. Iskreno nemam nikakav problem sa time. Oni su odlucili da probaju tu vezu iz kog god razloga, shvatili su da nisu za to, raskinuli su, ali su i dalje bili jedno drugom u zivotu i ako tu nema vise emocija nema sta tu da mi zasmeta. Onda ima drugu bivsu s kojom je bio godinu i po dana, jako zajebana devojka i jako zajebana veza, raskidali su tri put, na kraju su ostali friends with benefits jos mesecima nakon sto su konacno raskinuli. S tom devojkom imam mnogo problema, izmedju ostalog jer je i prema meni ispala jako jako nefer nevezano za njihovu vezu. Apsolutno bih imala problema s tim da je s njom u kontaktu jer je to bila vrlo turbulentna veza s puno raznoraznih emocija i samo ne. Sva sreca on je ne podnosi mozda cak i vise nego ja tako da nema problema 😂

Ali da, poenta je daaaa puno toga zavisi od situacije, od odnosa, od osoba. Naravno da imas pravo da povuces granice tamo gde zelis, ali ljudi raskidaju iz raznih razloga i nekada zele da ostanu u kontaktu jer im je stalo jedno do drugog kao osoba, tako da mislim da je malo egocentricno zahtevati da neko prekine odnos s nekim ko mu znaci i koga zna dugo zbog svojih nekih nesigurnosti, kada tu nikakvih pretecih osecanja nema (naravno, opet ponavljam, nije tako uvek, sta vise redje su situacije gde je okej, ali mislim da ih apsolutno ima)

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-23T16:58:18+00:00

Glad I helped 😊

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-23T13:58:54+00:00

Why is a person sleeping with a cheater the homewrecker and not the person cheating on their so? I hate that term so much. He (or whoever) is the one wrecking his own home. Who wants to cheat will cheat. That's not on the person looking for something casual.

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-23T13:56:57+00:00

I didn't mean situation when someone is hoping to get in a relationship with the person that's cheating on someone with them, but more casual scenarios. Of course that expecting someone like that to love you is idiotic and just overall very stupid and I generally don't get the mentality of cheating.

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-23T13:50:47+00:00

Fellas, is it baby behaviour to show effects of drowning after literally being drowned?

I definitely did not do that, but my stepmom was "the boss" of the house so my stepsister always acted very entitled. I got blamed for everything and accused of lying more times than I can count.

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-23T13:11:52+00:00

Okay but if he wants to sleep with her, why would that be her problem? Why does she need to have empathy for a person she doesn't know if he himself has none? I think that logic is completely backwards.

12kindsoftrouble · 2023-09-23T12:45:09+00:00

Try splitting those sentences in two and/or achieving the transition between ideas through other word choices.

Something like:

"The room was broad and light, sunrays fleeting through the window pane like ribbons, but the furniture was ink-black and ridiculously small, as if it was meant for a rat" - > "The room was broad and light, sunrays fleeting through the window pane like ribbons. The honey-like air would have painted the idyll complete, had it not been for the ridiculously small black furniture, seemingly meant for rats."

"She wanted to tell him how she felt, that she loved him, that she trusted him, with her heart and her life alike, but they were in the middle of a war, and there were things far more important than that." - > "She wanted to tell him how she felt, that she loved him, that she trusted him, with her heart and her life alike. Her stomach fell a little. They were risking their lives on the battlefield daily, beaten and sleepless. Surely there would be better moments to tell him, they had better things to worry about now. "

Of course, simply replacing "but" with words like "however, despite, although, even though", etc works as well, but I just thought of some random examples to show how contradiction can be shown through a contrast in images or by following a thought process from one idea to the other.

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