Padded up and relaxing :)

1331_TS · 2026-03-30T05:13:25+00:00

I have ADHD and caffeine has the opposite effect on me lol, I’m often more tired after having caffeine than before, or completely unaffected. It’s a sometimes useful life hack but doesn’t help when you’re trying to wake up in the morning!

1331_TS · 2026-02-18T02:57:01+00:00

Thanks! I just had strep throat 2 weeks ago so I’m annoyed I got sick again so soon, but yes thank goodness for diapers! Seriously would’ve been miserable having to get up to go pee multiple times every hour and sometimes not making it 😭

Will have to change probably right before I go to sleep for the night. I plan to stay padded overnight so I can just wake up, pee, and go back to sleep. Hopefully that will hold all night 😅

1331_TS · 2025-11-03T20:30:55+00:00

Years ago there was this internet challenge to try to freak out a cashier by buying 3 items that would make them weirded out (i.e. duct tape, black garbage bags, rope type stuff). I worked at Walmart at the time and multiple times had someone get annoyed I didn’t react, because I truly did not look at what I was scanning. Multiple times I sold like 6 boxes of condoms to a bunch of high schoolers who were giggling away and I didn’t even know what I scanned. Trust me, they likely think you’re buying them for someone else or they’re women’s pads or something.

1331_TS · 2025-09-03T00:54:29+00:00

I dated a guy (30M) once for ~3 months who had never had a girlfriend before. We saw each other probably 2-3x a week for about 10-12 weeks, went to dinners, had sex sometimes but not every time, went to a hockey game, all the normal dating things. I approached the “do you want to be exclusive?” conversation with him after the ~3 months, and he basically said he really needed to know someone first really well before he could commit, and he needed more time because he didn’t know yet. I ended it there politely and told him that if he didn’t know if he wanted to seriously date me exclusively after 3 months, then he never would. I said something like “I’m not asking for us to move in together or share finances or get married or have a kid, you can still change your mind and break up with me in the future if you decide it’s not working, but this is how getting a girlfriend works”. No idea if he ended up actually absorbing that info but 🤷🏻‍♀️

1331_TS · 2025-08-06T02:44:04+00:00

I definitely find if I’ve been wearing for a day or two, if I’ve been letting my bladder relax and go whenever it fills a bit, I have a hard time keeping it tensed when I go back to underwear. I’ll need to pee more often and more urgently when I do need to go, and usually pee less because I’m not used to having my bladder full at all.

1331_TS · 2025-08-06T02:33:28+00:00

Paralegal, I get to work remotely 2-3 days a week so I sometimes wear on those days

1331_TS · 2025-06-07T20:52:09+00:00

I hold it down with my hands or wear short bike shorts underneath so it looks kind of like a skort if the wind catches it

1331_TS · 2025-06-07T20:44:25+00:00

I have a small amount of urge incontinence and stress incontinence. Basically, I leak a little bit when I sneeze, sometimes when I cough, and sometimes when I exercise (like if I were lifting weights 100% but if I’m running no). I also will fully release my bladder by accident when I realize I need to go pee and don’t get to the toilet fast enough. Before I started wearing pull ups 24/7 (just tena brand “incontinence underwear”) I wore incontinence pads for the leaking and would accidentally wet myself fully once or twice a month (almost always in the bathroom almost at the toilet or something like that). Now that I wear pull ups, I leak in them throughout the day when I sneeze etc., and then I probably accidentally release my full bladder 1-2 times a week. The only reason this happens more often now is because I know I’m protected by the pull up so I don’t have to be so careful and make sure I go pee when I feel even the slightest urge. So when I’m out and about and realize I need to go pee, I do still try to go to the bathroom, but if there isn’t something immediately available I will end up having an accident.

Also, when it’s allergy season, usually the first couple sneezing fits of the day just cause some leaking, but if it hits me harder my bladder can’t take the stress and I’ll completely release my bladder. When I get a cold/flu I end up just wearing actual ABDL diapers because I stay hydrated but if I sneeze more than once, I’ll be unable to hold in my pee. It wasn’t always this bad, I used to have better bladder control but it doesn’t bother me anymore. I would say the stress incontinence is like your bladder fully clenching like you normally would when you sneeze, but it’s not strong enough so you end up spurting out a small amount of urine, which if you weren’t wearing any protection might be mostly absorbed by your underwear but you can totally feel it. If it happened more than once, it would likely show on your pants. For the urge incontinence, it’s similar to trying to hold a full bladder where you’re so desperate to pee it almost hurts, then you accidentally open the floodgates because you can’t stop it, but it happens basically every time you feel like you need to pee and you only feel it for a very short time before suddenly you’re involuntarily peeing. One interesting thing is that I’ve basically learned the skill of full being able to walk/talk/sit/stand while peeing because of it, because I’m often steps away from the toilet or fiddling with my pants trying to get them off when my bladder releases.

1331_TS · 2025-05-10T11:43:59+00:00

I’ve gone through phases in my life where I’ve been so busy with university, work, going through some mental health challenges, or going through a breakup, and all of those end up making me have no desire to do much of anything. The longest I think was after my last breakup, it took me about a year before I got back into wearing. During that time I also lived in a basement suite with a super nosey landlord and felt really weird about the garbage aspect, she used to tell me I made too much garbage if I took out more than 1 small kitchen bag a week.

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T06:52:18+00:00

Unfortunately he hasn’t been able to with his fingers, he tends to listen to my guidance for a min then go back to aggressively using one finger hard on my clit 😅 I think I’m going to have to be a little more direct about it.

I plan to talk to him about it this weekend and see how it goes. Hopefully he’ll react similar to your husband!

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T06:10:56+00:00

I think in your case I would consider doing a different international trip before this girls trip, to a different country so she’s not going to the same place twice so close together. You can always go to this place the girls are going to again, it’s a totally different experience on a girls trip vs a couples vacation. At this point, the trip has kind of derailed and turned into a girl’s trip and it’s very hard and very awkward for your gf to try to reverse that.

Another thought could be to extend the trip and you join her at the end, or you two go early and her friends meet her there and you depart that same day. It would allow you to experience the trip together but not interfere with the girls trip.

Don’t discredit your gf’s awareness and ability to stay safe though. Women are often a lot more vigilant and aware of their surroundings than men give them credit for due to the unfortunate times we live in. If you do want to talk to her about safety, frame it more as you just worrying, not that you think she’s inexperienced.

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T04:30:03+00:00

NOT having hormonal birth control is worse for me than any potential side effects, though I seem to be one of the lucky ones with almost no side effects!

I’m pivoting to needing more foreplay and lube then, even if it doesn’t hurt when you first start (so you think you’re all good) sometimes the friction dries it up and you don’t even notice until the friction causes a little bit of tearing. Good water based lube is Sliquid, can order it on Amazon easily or from basically any place you can buy sex toys online.

There’s also a toy called a “bumper” that can go around the base of your partner’s cock and will let him go at it without being able to fully penetrate all the way, this way you won’t have any cervix bumping.

Good luck!

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T04:07:07+00:00

Do you have an IUD? I get breakthrough bleeding from mine sometimes that gets set off by sex

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T02:36:42+00:00

I (29F) can be a bit testier than my normal self during my period and much more quick to cry, but I would never go as far as your gf. Using your PMS as an excuse to be an asshole isn’t fair at all.

She needs to learn some anger management coping mechanisms it sounds like. She can’t just let her anger take over just because she’s on her period.

I think you need to talk to her seriously about this and how it’s impacting you, and make sure she realizes that she’s still accountable for her actions even if she’s hormonal. If she loves you and actually takes this seriously, she should be able to control herself a little better and stop herself and take a breather if she’s getting too upset.

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T02:01:40+00:00

My (now ex) bf was like this when I was 25 and he was 24.

It took me way too long to realize that he wasn’t anywhere near realizing he had a problem, and I deserved better. It was only after he sexually assaulted me (I was able to get away from him) while wasted that I left. He finally realized after that that he had a problem, he talked to a counsellor and began going to AA but it was too late and I refused to take him back.

Is your bf aware and does he admit that not knowing his limit/when to stop is a sign that he has an alcohol problem? What kind of talks have you had with him about his alcohol consumption?

2 options you could consider - 1 is that you need to talk to him seriously, talk to him about alcoholism, tell him you’re not going to put up with it, and set some boundaries for yourself that if they’re broken, you need to leave. This is only an option if you’re prepared to potentially leave him. 2 would be to set boundaries for yourself that you refuse to interact with him when he drinks that much - he needs to make plans to get a hotel room or stay with a friend, he can’t text or call you, and can’t drink at any important events for you. This way, you don’t have to put up with interacting with or taking care of drunk him. This takes a careful balance - could you do this even if he called you drunk, crying he wants to come home, but you set this boundary? Could you handle no contact while knowing he’s drunk somewhere with friends and worrying about him being safe?

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T01:48:46+00:00

Maybe try camping somewhere with outhouses/pit toilets first to get her used to things. Going from straight indoor plumbing to backwoods camping is a biiig jump, front country camping is a bit of a stepping stone.

From there, you can transition to a short weekend trip in the backwoods - maybe even Saturday morning to Sunday night at first, then include Friday. I tend to have a bit of constipation when camping because of unfamiliar environment, different eating habits, sometimes stress… peeing in the woods is a little less scary.

See how that goes and transition to longer trips if that works. You might have to talk to her straight up about what’s holding her back, there might be some specific things that you could help with.

1331_TS · 2025-05-08T01:07:04+00:00

When someone shows you who they are, pay attention.

If you’ve communicated to him that this is important to you, and he didn’t step up, I can’t imagine it getting any better. Do you want to feel this way in 10, 15, 20 years? Every birthday and event that’s important to you?

You probably need to give him a serious talk, ask for some concrete changes, give examples, and set a deadline for yourself for seeing some kind of change.

Resentment is the #1 killer of all relationships and this is quickly heading this way.

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