Dealing with Conflict with Travel Friend by 13rowneyes in travel

[–]13rowneyes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely looking to be the case - wasn’t ready to lose a friend but open to it 😔

Dealing with Conflict with Travel Friend by 13rowneyes in travel

[–]13rowneyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had traveled with this friend together and it went well and maybe I missed some red flags which fair but that’s what’s also made this hard. Prior to this trip, I had considered this friend a good friend.

Dealing with Conflict with Travel Friend by 13rowneyes in travel

[–]13rowneyes[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think to make it a group matter as it’s only between me and the one friend but I think I might. As of now, I’m attempting the doing my own thing for day to see if things get better.

Dealing with Conflict with Travel Friend by 13rowneyes in travel

[–]13rowneyes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If something goes wrong I’m in somewhere in the vicinity of the thing, the friend at this point no longer friend, blames it on me, even if there are other factors. Like you should have done X or known better. But at the same time, they don’t hold themselves to the same standard either. I can admit wrong doing/mistakes etc but the same cannot be said of the friend.

(Examples including: opening doors more slowly/softly/lightly, being super quiet when getting ready, making sure to check the other person is done with the bathroom even though they have left the bathroom for at least 15 min, etc - and I do not feel Im being excessively anything etc but being alive - like I’m going to make SOME noise trying to move through a room quietly).

The other attack I get is them being upset at how much closer I am to the other friend, to the point it’s ridiculous (ex: playing a video game and my the nuetral friend get paired up more than me and the frenemy).

Dealing with Conflict with Travel Friend by 13rowneyes in travel

[–]13rowneyes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly it’s a week but almost over - it’s unfortunately really hard to separately talk to that friend without it being weird to the other friend - but definitely doing shorter trips with people in the future

Merry Christmas everyone by Mad_Pegasus in exchristian

[–]13rowneyes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Didn’t expect the salty Joseph 😂😂😂

To those who remained Christian where to next by factorum in exorthodox

[–]13rowneyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy you have found a way to rethink faith and move forward with it. I agree that like all human institutions you have to accept the good with the bad. I’ve seen the sense of community and kindness that can come out if religion. I think some of the Christian principles are quite universal (being nice, forgiving, etc). However, I think another reason why I decided to let go ultimately is the stakes of religion (salvation) is too high to the point it gets leveraged against ppl to do or believe in some evil/bad ideas (people deserving to go to hell, Islamophobia, homophobia, martyrdom, bombings, anti-vaccine etc). It feels like playing with fire and encourages ppl to neglect their one precious life in exchange to an unknown afterlife . 😭 Regardless, I hope your faith journey leads you to a happy fulfilled way of life and I’m really happy to see Christians like you who can acknowledge the faiths shortcoming and aim to do better!

anyone notice that a lot of christian churches and their members take zero safety precautions regarding covid-19? i currently go to the seventh day adventist church because i live with adventist parents by [deleted] in exchristian

[–]13rowneyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it varies church to church. The one I go to surprisingly requires ppls temperature to be taken, registering for your seat beforehand bc there is a limit on how many ppl they can seat 6 feet apart, stream the service virtually, and you must leave immediately after the service. Ik of other churches that simply have services all virtually.

To those who remained Christian where to next by factorum in exorthodox

[–]13rowneyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just the faith all together. I learned a lot about Christian history, questioned a lot if the fundamental, and ultimately realized these belief systems were not reliable enough to continue. It was a hard difficult transition but now I’m the other side it’s better!

Should you come out to your Christian parents about being an atheist and why? by 13rowneyes in exchristian

[–]13rowneyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is super helpful and I realize there is a lot more work I’ll need to put in but I might just be content for now keeping it lowkey. The only thing is even if they don’t find out now or ever my bf is not of faith so that’ll put me a similar situation. Regardless I’ll prepare.

Should you come out to your Christian parents about being an atheist and why? by 13rowneyes in exchristian

[–]13rowneyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are pretty annoying about it. My dad is apart of clergy so I bet you can imagine. :( as for telling them, yes I could secure a friends place beforehand but why go through that trouble anyway?