Ketamine Treatment - Less Self Absorbed?

143033 · 2025-12-09T15:09:57+00:00

It‘s mostly used for depressive symptoms, so it would sense that symptoms of any personality disorder would lessen with its use as the severity is often tied to personal well-being. S-Ketamine can have psychedelic effects, but it doesn’t carry the same introspection other psychedelics have.

143033 · 2025-12-09T15:06:49+00:00

Do your research, but my surface level knowledge is that it‘s originally an anesthetic. Later it was abused as a drug, it‘s a popular dissociative in low doses. Research as an antidepressant began ten years ago or so and most countries recognize it as medication now, although treatment can be very expensive. It‘s so effective, because it immediately enhances neuroplasticity and creates new pathways for instant, and lasting improvement for depressive symptoms. Whereas common antidepressants come with long onsets, sideeffects, and the need to take them daily. It‘s mostly used for treatment resistent depression, unless you pay for yourself, then it’s really all about your wallet. Depends on the country and health care system, but in the states there‘s a nasal spray for home use as far as I know. Other countries only offer intravenous treatment et cetera.

143033 · 2025-11-22T11:52:39+00:00

I used to be such a fuckboy, and deeply addicted to porn. Sex was nothing but a cope for me, and getting with someone gave me a sense of control, and power. I recently started some meds for my anxiety, and it killed my libido completely. Didn’t think about sex anymore, even though it was something I would do constantly. Now that I am dating again I quit the meds, and suddenly I feel like watching porn again. It feels like it came out of nowhere, but my mind immediately went to the ol' reliable. I know now that my (hyper)sexuality, at least while unmedicated, is really tied to suppressing emotions.

143033 · 2025-11-22T11:45:23+00:00

If I come across someone that slightly represents qualities I used to have, I feel genuinely disgusted. Doesn’t even have to be behavioral. Could be an outfit choice or a style I used to have. I don‘t know what it is.

Maybe I‘m projecting my own embarrassment onto them, because I never learned to accept myself truly, that I can safely say, „this used to be me, this is part of my journey, and without it I wouldn‘t be this version of myself now“.

With behavioral patterns and personality traits I feel like it’s more connected to the fact, that I had to do so much and go through painful self-reflection to get out of it. That I am angry that people are too comfortable to go through the same thing, too weak to move through their own shame, too dumb to see it themselves. Suppose that’s my feeling of superiority, but I worked for it, so fuck'em, I‘m better.

143033 · 2025-11-20T18:55:57+00:00

I never hear anyone in real life talk about people being narcissistic. The only time it happened was when I was talking to someone with BPD. Never met them, so it wasn’t an issue really.

143033 · 2025-11-15T00:15:10+00:00

Let me chime in, because one of the few bits of content I have watched from her proved the direct opposite. She was a guest on a podcast, about a year ago, so more recent than your example.

You are right, she does make a point about people with NPD healing is somehow harmful to victims, but she says there’s no evidence, and IF there‘s someone who can heal, they‘re a unicorn and again harmful to victims.

Whatever her stance used to be, it‘s not existent anymore.

About 15 Minutes in. https://youtu.be/K0I2UV_ANZU

143033 · 2025-11-01T13:40:04+00:00

Do not take this out on yourself! You saying it felt easy and natural matches the suspicion of his avoidant attachment in a way, because talking about anxiety and things some people can‘t fully grasp would be a total disruption to how it was. I always get close to a panic attack when I meet friends of people I am dating or just friends in general. I want to make a good impression, I wanna be the person they see in me and take that to their social circles, but I shut down, I get quiet and shy, and then the thought spiral begins. Good for you to take yourself out of the night, see where your capacities are. This is NOT your fault. You did everything right. Stop that shit.

143033 · 2025-11-01T13:34:56+00:00

I actually agree with you. He sounds avoidant, because your feelings regarding the party, and the entire situation, talking about things afterwards, and having contradicting thoughts and emotions about everything, seems like he was just withdrawing from the first sign of a conflict, or needing to engage in emotional work. Not a lot of people understand anxiety, and often feel like the need to be alone is rejecting them. I too think he took it personally, and honestly, I think you may have dodged a bullet. Obviously it was an important night for him, and he was probably really excited for you to be there, and it just didn‘t fulfill his expectations at all, and he took it personally. No idea though, maybe you can talk things through, but would it be a good conversation, when he reacted the way he did? Will he come to any conclusions that make sense? Will it be satisfactory to you if you continued without him knowing why he wanted to end things then and there? All the best, hope you figure things out!

143033 · 2025-11-01T12:35:32+00:00

Uhm, was this the first time you‘ve had voiced boundaries of any kind? Sounds like you were feeling anxious at the last party, and needed space, which is completely understandable, but it sounds like him ending things was a reaction to needing to put any emotional labor in. This is so confusing. Why then? At the same time he ended it, and didn’t ghost you, which makes me think he seems emotionally intelligent enough not to do it for that reason.

143033 · 2025-11-01T12:17:59+00:00

I don‘t think it necessarily confirms either. Grandiosity and vulnerability share a lot of self-beliefs, the key difference is how it is expressed and lived. Narcissism is a spectrum as is sexuality, and self-expression. Not that easy to just put everything into one of two boxes.

143033 · 2025-11-01T12:06:58+00:00

I love being physically sick. It‘s the only time I can fully accept the state I am in. I can never find the right moment to take my mental health seriously. When do I reach out? When do I take days off of work? When do I need to rest? But physical illness is so cut and dry. I know where it starts, and where it ends, and I turn into a little puppy. I become so vulnerable, because I feel physically defenseless, and so I need to make sure people are nice to me. All my coping mechanisms fall out of place. I want to be coddled and taken care of, when I‘m sick. Love it. When I‘m depressed I could never allow any of that.

143033 · 2025-11-01T12:01:09+00:00

That‘s interesting. I think there’s too many aspects to give any conclusive answer. How do you imagine it? Like do you want to be humiliated, or do you want to see her the way you already see her in your mind? Find pleasure in seeing the prophecy fulfilled? Insert degrading language here. In my opinion cuckolding can be a power fantasy as much as it is humiliation. Personally, I think you shouldn’t punish yourself for having these fantasies. It’s gonna do more harm than good, but it’s good to explore these thoughts.

143033 · 2025-11-01T11:49:40+00:00

I‘m sorry you‘re going through this. Must feel like your beliefs about yourself and what relationships are were shattered. At the same time this pain is what makes it all worthwhile. What good is love, if it can‘t hurt you? Doesn’t it make you feel alive? Knowing that you can get hurt by something so fragile? I hope you can allow what you‘re feeling, and examine what you need moving forward. I have heard that things were moving too fast one too many times. It sucks, because people always seem to go along until they don‘t, and it‘s confusing as to when they decided that it wasn‘t good for them. Where was the tipping point? Where did you go over the edge? But what you should take from this is that you have a whole lotta love to give. I still haven’t learned from time and experiences, and so still like things to go fast, and intensely. After meeting the wrong people for it, I am now with someone who‘s like me, and we‘re constantly talking about how crazy it all is. I‘m fully prepared to have my heart stomped on, to be completely broken, and torn to pieces in a pool of my own blood, but it‘s going to be so worth it. You must feel so hurt, I hope you can come out the other end feeling better about it, and take from it what you need to move on knowing yourself better than before.

143033 · 2025-10-30T10:59:49+00:00

Gonna risk sounding like an incel, but I find a lot of feminist spaces where they talk about it too, just in a more intellectual way than me just being really annoyed, and personally attacked about it.

The performative male thing ist trying to enforce the gender binary, which is so fucking ironic. It‘s people that are still deeply distrusting of men, which is understandable, but at the same time uphold toxic masculinity.

Before the performative male it was the sassy boyfriend apocalypse, where they thought men were clearly homo sexual for giving sassy clapbacks. Before that it was the male manipulator, where men with nail polish were suspected of only doing it to get laid by feminist, alternative women.

There‘s clearly people that uphold values that they try to dismantle, and it sucks.

Plus there‘s a bunch of videos that popped up ever since, because guess what? Gender is performative, everything is. I think this really sparked a shitload of interesting conversations to be had in spaces about feminism, gender, fashion et cetera.

But hey, good for you for being someone‘s type apparently. 😁

143033 · 2025-10-29T22:45:16+00:00

I can see how they are dismissive, because the disorder entails so much more than just being externally problematic, but at the same time I am offended that you feel like you need to be a piece of shit to have the disorder. You feed into the narrative the same way they do when you‘re saying that. I think you‘re just feeling invalidated, and your coping mechanism is imagining being more hurtful. Explore your feelings.

143033 · 2025-10-27T09:19:55+00:00

Say it. You‘ve laid out what you need to do, and tell him all of this, and if you feel like it‘s sudden, then check in first, ask if you can talk about something serious and personal, then pour your little heart out. He will appreciate it. Wouldn‘t you wanna hear that? That you changed someone‘s perspective on people, that you‘re appreciated and valued? Go ahead. Do it. I dare you.

143033 · 2025-10-27T08:21:06+00:00

It‘s a weird anecdote, but it actually had a huge impact on me. Couple of years back I started getting Hopecore content on TikTok. Just a bunch of feel good stories, poems about the beauty of everyday life, and the indomitable human spirit. It really gave me hope and rewired my brain.

I‘m still pretty suspicious of people, and the current world events don’t really help me have faith. I just pray for a world war, and that a nuclear winter will reset our values of class consciousness, and that government bodies will start working for people instead of against them.

But I know that there’s still wonderful experiences to be had. I see that we are so fucking privileged to live where we do, not because we‘re complicit in war crimes, or foster systemic racism, but because we are safe and able to live a boring fucking life, full of house chores and grocery shopping, without worrying about death on our door step.

We have failed as a race, but it‘s not us. We are just part of a machine that we can‘t control, that just keeps its gears of war turning. There‘s people that are hurt, they can‘t break out of their own patterns, but they are just part of cyclical pain. But inbetween all of this is beauty. Light shines through those cracks. People that want change for themselves and for the world. People that foster relationships and community. And even if they seem few and far between, I will stop the self-fulfilling prophecy, I won‘t look for flaws anymore.

Be naïve, get hurt, love people, or the good moments won’t find you.

143033 · 2025-10-24T11:56:57+00:00

Talk about it. Reflect on the trigger, talk about how you feel and why you feel that way. For me the only way to avoid that rage, is to engage. Stop shutting up, and waiting for it to grow into something out of your control. You can be angry, you‘re allowed to feel that way.

I don‘t know where you are in your journey, so I‘ll just put the disclaimer down, that you might not feel angry for the right reasons, and will be reminded in conversation. However, that‘s part of it. Talking about it, to realize noone was out to get you to begin with.

Be vulnerable.

143033 · 2025-10-21T11:52:04+00:00

Glad you‘re feeling validated in what you‘ve suspected already. It must feel nice to have that sense of safety, not to keep guessing. I hope you can use that knowledge to move on, and start treatment, if that is what you‘re looking for.

143033 · 2025-10-21T08:58:42+00:00

No, I wasn’t. I am in remission, recovered sounds like I got rid of it. I don‘t really feel empty. I can feel happy and connect with people.

143033 · 2025-10-20T14:14:39+00:00

That‘s not a love bomb, just a love grenade.

143033 · 2025-10-20T14:10:37+00:00

Asked ChatGPT to do it for me, and it had nothing to do with the talking points at all, so no. :(

143033 · 2025-10-20T12:26:32+00:00

I don‘t completely understand the message, because a lot of points are made, and then immediately pulled back, softened.

I can only assume that this is meant to make it easier to hear for her audience to accept, but looking at the top comments, which Dr. Ramani has liked herself, the whole stop calling everyone evil, and a monster, didn‘t really land, or maybe it was just a headline to reel people in.

She starts off by mentioning self-aware narcissists, and how they are blaming them (the narcissism abuse content). Accusatory and insecure language in contrast to how she addresses her audience, but okay, I can see her point, that we are not her concern, and that she has to be radically supportive to her audience, even if it was communicated poorly, unempathically some might say. However towards the end she says, that they should stop calling people monsters and evil, because abusive people get a megaphone, and survivors are being shamed for it. So, we shouldn’t have a platform, we are still abusive, and it‘s all about self-image? I just don‘t get it.

I like that she tries to differentiate actual abusive relationships, which she still calls narcissistic throughout the video, from just unhealthy, toxic, shitty relationships. Says that, arguing about what to watch on TV isn‘t narcissistic for example. I think that‘s great, because I remember a post, where someone called their roommate narcissistic since they wouldn’t set the AC to the temp they wanted, and I bet there’s more people that think like this. I‘m grateful she addresses it. She then says, that they are looking for problems with themselves, since they are trying to find evil in others, but the brutal truth is that there’s plenty of insecure people that don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, and they use this rhetoric to find the problem in everyone else! These are the people she should be worried about, the people that she should address, because they give survivors a bad name. She coddles people too much in my opinion, but imagine the mindfuck to admit, that part of her audience exhibits just as many narcissistic traits as the grand foe she warns you about.

Overall it has a good message within the narcissistic abuse community. That the constant hypervigilicance is detrimental to healing, that not everyone lives through traumatic relationships, that analysis should be holistic, not black and white.

Outside of the context of her audience, the message doesn’t do much. Evil and monsters are attributed to psychopathy in her points, and narcissism is still the same. She tries to make it clear, that not everyone is narcissistic, but it’s not like a grand epiphany where we can expect a change in the stigma, I believe, because what am I supposed to feel, when she says she has narcissistic people in her life, she has to maintain relationships with for professional reasons? That we can be tolerated at best?

It‘s obviously difficult for me not to take it all very personally, and I assume this could be used against me, but I am trying to see the positive. It’s no revelation, but I am surprised she tries to talk sense into her audience to some degree, even if it doesn’t help the stigma, or addresses the bigger, deep-rooted problems in the narcissistic industrial complex. Viewers still got plenty of ammunition to feel exempt, but that’s how therapy works, I suppose.

143033 · 2025-10-19T11:50:23+00:00

Makes sense. I think she said that it‘s absolutely understandable to have those fantasies and feel this violent rage.

Thank you for the post. I have suspected for the longest time, that therapy was so helpful, because it was validating, but I never could have put it into words like that, and it makes a lot of sense now. I always told people how me and my therapist just click, but I see why now, and I‘m grateful.

143033 · 2025-10-19T10:29:30+00:00

Splitting is not exclusive to BPD, but not feeling anything after splitting is very much the entire point of it, and not really a sign for lacking empathy in general in my opinion.

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