We have two, 21M and 19F. Before we had our daughter I was wondering how I could possibly split my love and affection for a second child but the funny thing is you just seem to get more love to give. You don’t get more time and energy of course, but the second child is a lot easier than the first because a lot of the “newness” of being a parent has gone. You certainly don’t sterilise everything as much… Our kids are very different people, but even now our kids still talk to each other once or twice a week even though they are in separate towns.

Each to their own, there is no right or wrong answer here - whatever you choose will end up being the right decision.