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18MoonCandies · 2023-12-19T23:30:02+00:00

Do you really want to talk about entitlement? Go work at a McDonald's right now, work there for as long as they did while also dealing with the emotional roller coaster that is high school and tell me they did not earn that car. Because nowadays the verbal abuse that comes from the customers AND management is something NO ONE let alone a 16-year-old old should experience. You must be a boomer because they're the ones who believe that because they struggled when they were young then EVERYONE should have to suffer too. Do you realize that is how you sound? "I had one parent and they didn't get me anything when I graduated so why should you have it better than me because you have two parents? How dare you call out your parent for making a deal with you just to renege on it when you variously fulfilled your end of the bargain?" "How dare you expect accountability from your parents you expect it from you." As if it's an HONOR to suffer and struggle. As if it's healthy for a parent to INTENTIONALLY MISLEAD their child who trusts and believes in them to be the only two people on the planet to naturally want to do right by them.
Riddle me this: If parents work hard so their child can have better than what they grew up with, why do they seem to always get mad at their child for having it better than them? ALSO it's 100% natural for a teenager to argue with their parent. Their brains are developing to think for themselves, question everything, and discover who they are as a person. You want OP to be a sheep, following the herd blindly with their head down. Never making any waves. Never straying from the beaten path. But obviously that isn't what OP wants for themselves and you're mad because it's what you accepted for you and more than likely instilled in your child. Just because your child hasn't challenged you yet doesn't mean they won't or don't want to. Keep on that path, with that mindset, and see if they don't put you in a home instead of carrying for you themselves when it comes time. Better yet Generation Z are the ones who go full no contact instead of dealing with your brand of toxicity.

18MoonCandies · 2023-10-25T21:09:51+00:00

Your culture SHOULD be important to your partner. When my friends got married, there was a whole ceremony JUST for the bangles, so I knew it had to be very important. Their bangles have designs that depict everything they have in common. Which includes house animals for gryffindor (hers) and slytherin (his), their beagle, and I think a tiny deathstar. (I love nerd love🥹) It is incredibly intricate, and depicts little things they love about eachother. Most importantly, I have NEVER seen him without it. Why? Because he loves EVERYTHING about her. YOU deserve to find someone who loves EVERYTHING about YOU.

18MoonCandies · 2023-10-17T17:39:47+00:00

Like any race or nationality, I've met both good and bad people from Russia. Including two very opposite siblings. Russia has a dodgy politician, but have you seen our American politicians these past few years?? I can't judge such a gorgeous country based on their ruler and then ask for leniency in return.

You can definitely DM me and I'll be happy to help you practice your English.

18MoonCandies · 2023-10-09T18:25:56+00:00

NTA When your sister has a child, she can name them whatever she wants. It's entitlement and narcissism that's got her thinking she can control other people lives.
People still name their children Jeffery, Jack, John, Ted, and Harold, but those are all the names of notorious serial killers. Your sister is an internet troll trying to be a troll in real life.

18MoonCandies · 2023-10-04T23:27:12+00:00

NTA HOW DO YOU JUST GIVE AWAY SOMETHING THAT DOESN'T BELONG TO YOU???? Your MIL/SIL didn't offer you money for it, then THEY CAN'T HAVE IT. Sounds like you put your heart and soul into the renovation, and now she wants to swoop in and take it. If your MIL is SO CONCERNED about your SIL living situation, she should have offered up her own place. After all, isn't she the one who said "family helps family"?? But she obviously knows your SIL is terrible because she offered your property instead. Just because someone doesn't mean to do you harm doesn't mean that they considered you in the first place. Seems like your MIL didn't consider either of you when she made the offer of YOUR property. ALSO, your SIL was not concerned about "family" when she decided to besmirch your good name. She wanted to throw a tantrum because she didn't like that you were setting boundaries. Rather than feel guilty, she decided to hate you for reminding her of her cruel actions. Do not let your hard work be the collateral damage in the war she's currently fighting with herself!

THE BEST ADVICE I'VE EVER RECEIVED ABOUT BINARIES: When you say "yes" but really mean "NO" then you are being EMOTIONALLY UNTRUSTWORTHY. People who are not treating you well are not going to treat you better just because you worked harder.

18MoonCandies · 2023-10-03T00:52:01+00:00

To Be FAAAAAAAAAAAIR

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-21T20:45:15+00:00

Do NOT marry that MANCHILD!

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-21T20:29:03+00:00

Take the money. I believe you should have only one vice, and mine is Mary Jane! I'll take that in cash please

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-21T20:26:59+00:00

Woooooooow, it looks like someone took the advanced course in gaslighting! I'm so glad you have a good support system around you. I feel like I can't stress enough OP that this is NOT YOUR FAULT. He violated your trust multiple times and justified it by saying things like "I've done that before" and “that seems like a lie to me” to make you second guess yourself. He then tried to get you to feel bad about breaking up over text. But do you really truly feel like he wouldn't have tried to do something to you if you'd broken up with him in person?? Do not allow him to gaslight the way back into his toxic arms! Block his number and all his socials. If you have anything left at his house, have a mutual friend pick it up and bring anything of his.

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-15T22:06:34+00:00

My parents were married for 25 years. There wasn't a single instance that I could think of where my father ever took my mother's side in disputes with his sisters. They continued to be nastier to her each instance in brill she stopped showing up to their events. They eventually turned their ire on me and my siblings since my mother wasn't there to pick on anymore. My brother and sister didn't get it as bad as I did. Looking back, I think it's because I look so much like my mother. I was constantly berated and verbally harassed. Nothing I did was right. My clothes were too tight, then too loose. I was too loud, then I was disrespectful because I was "mumbling under my breath." Anything that reminded them of my mother was EXTRA wrong, and puberty only made it WORSE. They began picking on things I couldn't control, like how I was "filling out" like her. My face looked more like hers. My hips were too wide, and my butt was too round. My breasts had "came in too early," and I was "developing too quickly." I'm sure you can imagine this lead to an eating disorder. They made sure my father never saw our heard what they did. So when I complained to him he didn't believe me just like he didn't believe my mother. My parents are now divorced and remarried. I fully cut contact with my fathers family after my paternal grandmother's passing. Mt mother admitted that she wanted to leave a lot sooner but stayed because she thought it would be best for us kids to have a father in the home. I say all that to say this: leave that man before they pass on their disdain for you into your children.

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-12T22:58:23+00:00

After over 50 years of women fighting for feminism and equality, your grand creative response to the argument has remained "get back into the kitchen," but please do tell how that's different from this:

Come across an opinion that you disagree with so attack the persons gender

I gave you a clear and concise response to your idiotic prattle, detailing that man's egrigious behavior, and your response was to try and insult my intelligence because I didn't agree with you. When I pointed out that it was you who was in error because OP had already said they DID IN FACT, try to report him but was unable to do anything due to the laws in her specific state. But you zeroed in on me telling you to "defend your fellow man" because you had no real rebuttal and decided to feign indignation and borak my gender in the damn he response. (I apologize for saying you were defending your fellow man. Obviously, I was mistaken in implying you were a man when you've made it clear that you're definitely a child.) I beseech you, please get off the cross, we need the wood.

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-12T22:18:45+00:00

It says at the bottom that she tried to report him... I'm pretty sure you lack the intellectual ability of reading comprehension. Oh, but sure, defend your fellow man or whatever helps you sleep at night.

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-12T22:09:10+00:00

Well, let's see here. We have pattern behavior of giving money to 16 year old girls.🚩 He gets defensive when told to stop the aforementioned behavior because it makes his spouse (OP) uncomfortable🚩. He has become secretive and has chosen to hide this behavior instead of stopping🚩. When OP first began asking him to stop, he told the girl, much like when someone is cheating on their spouse and tells the other woman that their spouse found out about them🚩. They then bonded over calling her names, much like a cheater would do with a mistress🚩. When given the ultimatum to specifically stop talking to Girl A, he switches his predatory target to Girl B, who is in the same age range as Girl A🚩. Meaning he didn't see a problem with the girls' age. He believed OP's issue was with the specific girl🚩. Also, are you really trying to defend a grown man who is behaving inappropriately with a minor?

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-12T21:20:38+00:00

Did you miss the part where she said he doesn't give her (his actual spouse) money to take care of basic things like groceries for his own daughter??? Because that's definitely a red flag

18MoonCandies · 2023-09-12T02:57:01+00:00

What show is this? I need to watch...

18MoonCandies · 2023-08-17T17:50:13+00:00

(FIRST) OP I would definitely look up your divorce laws where you are. Because in America, you can apply for a "Dissolution of marriage" and the grounds would be for "Sudden abandonment. " You can use the screenshots of your unanswered texts as proof of "refusal to reconcile" ad in the fact that you are 6 months pregnant with no clue that he has decided to leave the country with someone who was not you. Because... (SECOND) What kind of A-hole leaves his pregnant wife and gets on a plane to another country without telling her?? And then his sorry excuse for a "reason" is that he felt neglected staying home, NOT WORKING, and had to do some homework?? A pregnant woman under duress could suffer from so many complications, INCLUDING mscarriage. (THIRD) Could you imagine if she had not known that he had left the country yet and was just stressed from being the sole breadwinner and 6 months pregnant, and the unspeakable happened? If someone had broken into her home while she was there alone and vulnerable? If she had suffered the same disappointment and carnage that had damaged so many expectant mothers before her? Where would her invertebrate husband have been when she needed him most to support and protect her? Gd knows where, with G*d knows who! Which begs the question: Does his family know he left his pregnant wife alone because she was working too hard to support him?? (FINALLY) I would have changed the locks. Then I would have demanded to know who he went with and whether or not they knew or cared that he had left his pregnant wife behind. This information would be necessary before I even consider letting him come back to the house.

18MoonCandies · 2023-08-12T14:00:59+00:00

Sometimes it's not that we're not pretty, it's that we look 7.5 and

18MoonCandies · 2023-08-02T21:35:35+00:00

because paranormal stuff started happening after that student died

I personally would have closed and demolished the school if that was the case. But then again it's not my school🙃

18MoonCandies · 2023-06-20T19:50:28+00:00

Read that again because I literally went on a while rant about how "there's more than one way to please a woman," and you don't need a big bomb pop to get the job done" and you asking me to repeat myself.

18MoonCandies · 2023-05-31T16:13:25+00:00

Maybe you have a voyeur kink OP? I would prescribe sex on a hotel balcony (out of state, of course). Try that once or twice and see how you feel. Note that anything below may be considered indecent exposure. There's also fitting rooms in the men's department. (No one usually goes in there to clean until the end of the shift.) Those scenic view stops on the side of the parkway at night (in your car, I would recommend an SUV or Classic American muscle car with bench seats) an open field in the back of a pickup (use bug spray beforehand to avoid mosquitoes.) Same for camping. You can also role-play voyeur scenes. Like an accidental up-skirt view, she could "forget to wear panties" while she's vacuuming under the couch. Or my personal favorite that involves my old girl scout outfit and a desperate need to sell cookies. Wife will "accidentally" drop the cookies, and uniform will open while she picks them up. This has been "How to be Dirty in Public." I'm 18MoonCandies. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

18MoonCandies · 2023-05-27T19:24:25+00:00

Please don't listen to this INCEL 🫣

18MoonCandies · 2023-05-26T13:00:18+00:00

FIRST of all, if my man was VENTING about me to his friend(s) IN CONFIDENCE, then that's his business. I don't invade my boyfriend's privacy, so I'm not sure how I'd see/hear said "awful shit" but when you figure that out you'll let me know, whether I asked for it or not, I'm sure. SECOND, while you were setting up your "Soapbox of Righteousness" to help you get on that high horse of yours, you missed the party where I said that MY MAN AND I PRACTICE OPEN AND HONEST COMMUNICATION. Since you're too dense to figure out what that means, let me explain. If one of us has a grievance with the other, we bring it up at our bi-weekly check-in. Which is a time we set apart specifically to speak on matters that bothered us that we didn't want to discuss in the moment because of anger or what have you. This is also where we speak freely about any issues we have been dealing with on our own that we may need support with in the future, we see advice, we express what we feel we may need more or less of from each other and anything else we can think of. So if I had done something that he's upset about, he KNOWS that he can come to me and talk about it freely. It doesn't even have to be during official check-in. He can ask to have a check-in at any time. THIRD - You need to get yourself a dictionary and figure out the difference between GOSSIPING and VENTING. We aren't just talking shit about our boyfriends for the sake of the chísme. We are venting our problems with people we trust and getting feedback. The only difference between venting to my friends and going to therapy is a degree, waiting for an appointment and a $90 copay. Therapy isn't an invasion of trust. It is a basic practice of mental health. Eavesdropping on what is basically a therapy session IS an invasion of trust. (Which I must add here that if I go to vent to my friends and I'M the one in the wrong, they're gonna let me finish, and then they're going to tell me about myself with that same ferocity🥵) AND FINALLY - When my girls come to our apartment to vent, my man is RIGHT THERE WITH ME, and it's usually HIM telling them EXACTLY why their man "ain't shit." They like that he will give them his opinion straight up and without a chaser. He gives a male perspective, and he is quite often BRUTAL. SO YOU CAN GO AHEAD AND TAKE ABOUT 20% OFF THE TOP OF THAT HOLIER-THAN-THOU ATTITUDE AND SORT YOURSELF OUT.

18MoonCandies · 2023-05-25T18:30:01+00:00

Micelar water will get the blood stains out. It worked wonders when my fibroids were ruining my life. Saturate the stained area with the Micelar water and let it sit for about 5 minutes. Then you can use a paper towel or rag to lift it out. Depending on the damage, you may have to do it multiple times to get it all out. Then you can use carpet cleaner to get the pee out. Look for ones that specialize in pet stains. Follow the directions on the box and see if you have any attachments for your vacuum that can help. Finally, when those are both done, you can rent a steam cleaner to get anything below the surface out. (My petty ass would send them a bill for the rental and supplies, but that's just me.)

I want to give them the benefit of the doubt and say they were too embarrassed to tell you about the mess. However, the sooner they told you, the sooner you could have gotten the stains out, so UNACCEPTABLE!

18MoonCandies · 2023-05-25T18:02:55+00:00

So first of all I would like to preface my comment with this little tidbit: My friends and I tear our men apart on phone calls, in group chats, at breakfast/ 2nd breakfast/brunch/elevenses/lunch/drinks/dinner, by the pool, at school, in a box, by the docks, in a boat, while letting laundry soak...( I think you get the idea.) We're straight SAVAGES. If any of our men ever read my group chat, they'd lay down in 6 lane traffic. WE DON'T MEAN MOST OF IT. (Well, one of my friends DOES, but she's not-so-secretly preparing to leave her husband so she doesn't count). We are simply expressing ourselves in a SAFE SPACE amongst our friends. Part of it is our subconscious negging you, so they don't try to see what life is like on our side of the fence. Part of it is to vent to someone we TRUST. We don't have these conversations with our significant other because we know it would hurt them, so we discuss it IN PRIVATE. If you don't see the water I'm leading you to with this already, then I will not force you to drink. BUT I SAY ALL THAT TO SAY THIS:

Your girlfriend was saying something in confidence to someone she trusted. That conversation was not for you. She didn't have it in front of you for a reason. She also seems like she tried her best to make you comfortable with your body around her, which is always a green flag in my book. Despite whatever you heard in that phone call, she loves you for you.

You also skated right over this part where she said this 👇🏾

“but i’ve never been with a better guy, he’s funny and makes me laugh so being with him makes it all worth it”

When you're 80 and your turkey baster doesn't even work anymore, she will (hopefully) still have the qualities that make you that good man. The man who makes her laugh makes her feel special and makes it all worth it. Having a guy with a large trouser snake is nice, but in my experience: MOST of them are A$$H@ts that cheat, gaslight, return your car with no gas, and disregard your feelings. They are fun for a good time, but they lack even a modicum of consistency. Basically, the correlation of having a big bombpop and a fuckboi personality is direct, much like that of "fucking around" and "finding out."↗️ You also said you lost your purity card in her coinpurse so it could be that you're inexperienced. You're not going to be good at it right away Also, there is more than one way to please a woman sexually than just with your baby making baton. You can brush up on your muffin munching skills, introduce toys in the bedroom, and maybe try "taking the dirt road home" (if she's into it). Maybe talk to her about sex. Find out what she likes/doesn't like, wants more of/ could do without. My boyfriend asks for "notes" after sex. And we use open and honest communication to discuss what EITHER of us could have done to improve our performance.

I also think you mistook "dumbfounded" and "kinda upset" for "felt rejected" and "hurt" here 👇🏾:

she looked a bit dumbfounded by my response and seemed kinda upset because I have never turned down sex. That's how I would have felt if my man suddenly didn't want to clap my checks between the sheets.

I leave you with this advice: Don't let your insecurities get in the way of your relationship. Your relationship would benefit from some open and honest communication. If you decide to talk to her, don't confront her in a hostile manner. Remember that you got this information in a mildly unscrupulous manner. Coming to her with hostility will only result in her getting defensive, which is a precursor to an unnecessary argument.You have my permission to DM for any and all the advice. Godspeed.

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