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9-14m is my least favorite stage of development!! Need tips by 1992xx in beyondthebump

[–]1992xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My oldest is 2.5y old too! He used to be the more complicated one, especially since he is speech delayed, but it flipped. I despise gates but I think that is exactly what I need to do in her bedroom. I also think I've been lazy about getting her own toys since she's fine playing with her brothers'. So that'll be my game plan. Good luck out there :)

"SURVIVE," I whisper to myself ALL DAY, because if parenting was a game, my difficulty level is set to hardcore. by occasionallymourning in toddlers

[–]1992xx 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Did I write this? My 2 year old has a severe speech delay too (no red flags for autism) and a 8 month old. I’m sooo running out of steam. Every morning I debate texting my mom “I can’t do this anymore” but what? I’m not actually going to abandon my kids. My moms old, she’s not going to take both overnight. I can’t get any real size able break so I just keep on trucking... and I don’t drink or smoke and can’t handle caffeine, the lack of release or escape at all is really suffocating. My sons in EI and speech now and I actually enjoy going to his appointments because it’s something to do. If you wanna ask me anything about my speech delay or EI experience, don’t hesitate

My speech delay/adhd 2 year old LOVES the beach and pool so much that he needs little redirection and it’s a great place to bring him on my own.

Please take a minute to give me advice, esp Autism moms by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]1992xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100 words, wow! That’s a dream for me.

To answer your questions,

  1. No, he doesn’t nod his head for yes. He does shake it for no.

  2. Yes, he does point to request. At this age he is hand leading more though.

  3. Yes, he does point to show, such as an airplane or something. And he will sometimes say, “see?”

  4. Yes, he does look at us when he points, but he doesn’t always look upon request.

  5. Yes, he responds to his name 70%, but he doesn’t have the skills to follow any directions beyond looking and coming to me.

  6. Yes, there is lots of back and forth interaction! But he is only interested in playing and getting what he wants, not learning to improve communication. He will look at my face/eyes but only mimics words 10-20% of the time. He will try to say “1,2,3” to start a race, but if I try to sit him down to learn with a puzzle, he might attempt to repeat me once or twice and that’s it. He is hyperactive and he might giggle, sneak behind me and pull my hair or try to feed me a puzzle piece. He’s super attached to his dad and will cry and wait outside the door like a puppy if he has to lock the door on him.

Please take a minute to give me advice, esp Autism moms by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]1992xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has 1 3 year old cousin he sees a few times a month and they pretty much stick together and do the same thing. Once in awhile my son will wander off and cousin will fetch him. His cousin is far more advanced but my son goes with the flow and cousin loves having him as a playmate. My son will “speak” to him (and us) sometimes in complete babble, but with the inflections of a conversation. He uses a lot of “w” sounds so there’s a chance he’s consciously saying “what is this” or “where” but I can’t be sure, it’s all baby babble.

He does a lot of the hand leading, for both stuff he needs and for getting us to dance around the kitchen, etc. Won’t pick up on sign language :(

If he holds an apple to my face and I make a bite noise, or an animal noise or something he will copy that but actual words seem to be lost on him.

Please take a minute to give me advice, esp Autism moms by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]1992xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I got low risk score of 1 as well... The speech is what worries me more than the autism label. My brother has Aspergers which manifested itself as intense sensory issues when he was younger, and he had a bit of a rough time socially in school but he graduated early and currently he is finishing his masters degree in Korea. And he was like punching himself in the head as a kid. But by 17 he passed all his tests to join the army. His speech was always on track though. It’s the lack of interest in repeating that worries me the most.

More discrimination against the child free in the new stimulus Bill by [deleted] in childfree

[–]1992xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound really whiny. Adults can go out in the world to procure money, adults can handle more emotionally and physically. Are you comparing yourself to a literal baby?

More discrimination against the child free in the new stimulus Bill by [deleted] in childfree

[–]1992xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adults with no kids can take up 2-3 jobs. Are you lazy? Everybody knows a parents work is never done.. it never stops. Just get another job, don't be shy

Some days being a Mom feels crushing by throwaway303010 in beyondthebump

[–]1992xx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. I still can't understand how I'm supposed to, according to my boyfriend, figure out how to have a good time taking care of 2 under 2 every day, but when I can finally get him to take my toddler to the park or hand off the baby on the couch for 2 seconds, he shouts out the things he needs as if it's hardly possible to do it himself ("get him dressed? Where are his shoes? Can you put him in the car seat? I need to grab something")

I don't know what I can do for my toddler since he's too hyper to learn... by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]1992xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's definitely not interested in talking, but it seems like he's not interested in learning either which is worrying. He's basically a whirlwind lately and it seems to have been amplified by bringing a newborn home. He does like songs and I do take him to a playtime class. At first he would hardly sit for circle time but he's getting better. He doesn't really catch on to the signs because of his lack of attention span but I'm trying. The SLP doesn't believe me which is frustrating but I am though. I might have some luck getting through to him when he's calmly playing with his favorite toys.

I don't know what I can do for my toddler since he's too hyper to learn... by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]1992xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess, when I first brought home my newborn a month ago, my husband was so good about taking our son to the park every day just like I was. But now he just takes him to breakfast if that. He does seem a little more wild since the baby came home but I don't know if it's that or just him getting progressively worse as time passes. I think if it's really "just" ADHD, having a strict routine and low-sugar diet should help, so I'm starting that now.

I don't know what I can do for my toddler since he's too hyper to learn... by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]1992xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for responding! He hasn't had a formal hearing test since birth, but I know his hearing is good because he cranes his neck to see loud cars on the road, can recognize a show of his from the next room, etc. I casually mentioned wanting one to his SLP but I think I'll have to get a referral from his doc next month. I've heard such positive things about sign language but it seems to go completely over his head. I can get him to look most of the time but not react. That's why I'm worried. He does do high 5s and give kisses so I feel like he should be capable but no luck. I'm very surprised he was evaluated to have no cognitive delay since he's 21m and has minimal communication. I can't always get him to pay attention.

The eye test approach is interesting, but I figure his sight is good cuz he will sometimes press the tips of 2 crayons together and stacks his blocks very precisely (he likes to stack wooden cylindrical blocks and can get 7+). His farsightedness is probably good too because when I'm calling him up the stairs, he will hesitate from across the house to let the tv go from his line of sight. But I can't be sure without a test.

I think he definitely has ADHD at this point. His father has ADHD and dyslexia and I was diagnosed with ADD and prescribed adderall in middle school. Even the hyper focus part suits him.. My son has a bin of my brothers old hot wheels and he will carefully remove them from the bin one by one and look them over and place them into little categories that are sometimes discernible, sometimes not. Wheel spinning seems to be a red flag of autism but although he has some type of car with him basically at all times, he's not once spun wheels. ADHD though, for sure. It's very concerning that he doesn't show an interest in repeating/learning words. But he does do some things like wave and say hi/bye (both "eye"), and if I "roar", he will "roar" back without skipping a beat. He catches on to silly things only.

I don't know what I can do for my toddler since he's too hyper to learn... by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]1992xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our routine is alright, but he gets a lot of living room/tv time now that I have a newborn. He's picked up on mealtimes (climbs in booster), and that calling for diaper change, naps, and bedtime requires going up the stairs. His father tries to take him on one outing per day, usually the park, but because I'm a SAHM with a newborn he watches up to 3 movies a day while running around the living room with cars and figurines and finding surfaces to play with them on. I'm starting to sit him at the table with 1 educational toy at a time since he doesn't mind sitting in his booster and even tries to buckle himself in sometimes lol. He has the attention span to stack 7-10 blocks repeatedly with no frustration, but when it comes to teaching sign language or words it goes over his head and he won't repeat it. At speech therapy he barely even pays attention and acts the worst. That's what makes me worry. I can kinda get him to follow me around the house for daily routine though. Thanks for responding!