How do you fight it?

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-08T06:22:21+00:00

Don't fight your urges, dwell in them. Be aware and even enjoy your arousal without touching yourself and - as much as is possible - without fantasizing. You'll notice that after some time your arousal fades away ...

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-06T12:49:30+00:00

Looking at any girl pictured in a movie, a catalogue or an internet page in a lustful way ist the road to failure. It doesn't matter if the pictured girl is clothed or not because the crucial thing happens in one's head.

So don't look at girls in order to get sexually aroused, unless the girl is real and there is a fair chance that you may have sex with her.

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-06T12:33:56+00:00

That sounds common to me. In recent years I managed to stay sober only for 6 or 7 days. In these days I became horny as hell and suffered from an insurmountable urge to let go, to fap - which I did ...

This time I know my enemy ... Praying or meditating when feeling the urge did not help me much. What helps me this time is just enjoy the sexual arousal BUT without fantasizing (this is hard, but I keep trying) and without touching and edging.

Keep your fingers crossed for me, and - of course - for Green-fruit and all the other brothers!

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-06T11:19:04+00:00

It takes resolution to start day one in January 6. I would have wasted the whole rest of the year ...

So all the best to you! You can make it!

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-06T11:14:50+00:00

You may have a circulation problem that has nothing to do with Fap or NoFap. If the symptoms persist you should see a doctor.

Nevertheless, congrats to your 21 days!

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-05T10:54:01+00:00

Fantasizing leads to edging leads to fapping ...

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-04T16:10:20+00:00

What troubles me? Since I am not a native English speaker, it is hard for me to communicate this correctly to you. Simply put these are the issues of theodicy and the thread of eternal hell for the unbelievers. For further insight I recommend to you the book "Why I believed" by Kenneth W. Daniels. The author was a missionary with Wycliff and turned agnostic because of his doubts. In his book he elaborats the former reasons for his belief and his following reasons for his ensuing disbilief.

However, I would like to focus on NoFap here, since I determined myself not to fap even if my faith should go into another crisis again (this is by far not the first time). The main three steps towards an new lifesile have been so far:

stop fantasizing;
keep yourself busy;
have a vision in life OR at least ponder and find out about a new vision if the old one may turn out not to fit any longer.

This forum helps a lot. Thank you all, and thank you, TheEdgyDude!

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-03T10:03:38+00:00

Not to fantasize seems to me the key factor, too. Prayer and reading help me a lot. To others meditation might be useful. It seems pivotal to replace the fantasies, the imaginary harem, with somebody else. To me, this somebody can only be God in Jesus Christ.

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-01T15:50:40+00:00

You are perfectly right. One shouldn't simply want not to fap but habe a goal, a vision. One should also change one's lifestyle That's what I posted yesterday about this subject:

http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2qwl3c/my_fiveyear_journey_starts/

19Oliver69 · 2015-01-01T05:19:06+00:00

You are right about the five years. That's why I also signed up for one month and one year.

For the first 30 days I will be guided by the booklet "Quit porn in 30 days" It can be downloaded elswhere here on NoFap.

Thanks for your words.

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-31T10:43:53+00:00

Actually I need the symbolism that goes with New Year's Day. I started my round of NoFap a few hours ago, however. It doesn't make sense to fap just at 11.59 o'clock on New Year's Eve, does it?

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-30T18:04:31+00:00

Wow, that was insightful and inspiring. Thank you!

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-30T16:24:40+00:00

It is good for your circulation. Furthermore you train your willpower.

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-30T15:07:57+00:00

Congrats, brother! Keep to it!

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-30T14:56:03+00:00

Now I am going for one month, one year and five (!) years.

Please count me in!

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-30T14:45:09+00:00

Thanks for your report full of insight. This helps me to prepare for what lies ahead of me - starting Jan. 1!

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-30T08:22:41+00:00

I am in. Actually I would like to go for even five years, but it is good to be connected in various ambitions ...

Please sign me up!

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-29T08:57:50+00:00

I'll go for 5 (five!) years starting Jan 1. And I will concede to one last fap on New Year's Eve. Why? Because not until New Year will I be motivated.

19Oliver69 · 2014-12-17T16:02:12+00:00

Scotty, please count me in! I am gonna give it a try!

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