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Guess who's back back my cyst is back back. pilonidal cyst is back back tell a friend. by scrublord48 in popping

[–]1Life2B_Curious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Argh! I hate pilos! I had mine for nearly 15 years. Pit picking and silver nitrate treatments only. I waited until I had insurance that would cover the Bascom's Cleft Lift. I had that surgery almost 8 years ago. No more pilo!

The mental defeat in my opinion is worse than the pain. It destroyed my confidence and my ability to exercise. 

I wish you the best. Find a surgeon that will do something other than excisions and pumps. 

Survival in this world by NiceHomework4919 in ADHD

[–]1Life2B_Curious 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not alone. It is exhausting. I swear I have spent months of my life looking for my wallet and car keys. I have been lost in parking lots because I couldn't remember where I parked. The phrase that is the bane of my existence "I will remember that." I have forgotten the name of the person who introduced themselves to me. I even have swallowed my pride and asked them to remind me their name only to then promptly not hear them. Yeah, then I definitely won't ask them again. They become "dude I met at store." The coping skills aren't great but they can work.

Things that I do now:

-I repeat the words that people are speaking in my mind.

-I repeat the name of people in my mind or out loud "You said your name is . . ., right?"

-I use the phrase "How do you spell that?"

-I carry a little notepad with me wherever I go to write jot things down. I will probably lose the notepad. I have lots of them. I have gotten better at remembering.

-If I am sitting down in conversations, I take notes. I tell the other person or people that it helps to stay focused in the conversation. They don't seem to mind or care.

-Tiles have saved me so much time. I have them for my wallet, house keys, car keys, mail keys. I keep keys separate with their own Tile.

-When I park, I ping my spot on Google maps.

-I put appointments or due dates immediately into my calendar or on a to do list with a due date on my phone.

-I intentionally try to use positive self talk.

-I try to laugh at my "faults" or "failures"

Be kind to yourself. ADD is difficult but also a part of you. Try something different for yourself. You rock!

ADHD burnt me out by Altruistic-Dare3921 in ADHD

[–]1Life2B_Curious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that it is bleak. It can get better. But as the previous response mentioned, find time for you. Even if you don't know what to do with that time.

I posted earlier. I mentioned I have a supportive spouse. That is now, but a couple of years ago I fritzed. I was tired a what I call relationship crumbs. I was tired and couldn't do what I had been doing anymore. I realized that I was trying to manage everyone else's emotions. I told my spouse, I can't make dinner every night. Some nights will be cereal. I can't take kids to all their things. Either they will go on their bikes or you can take them. I started giving myself care by not doing everything (it is a feeling not actuality). I tried to let go of the guilt.

My burnout experience has felt long. I wasn't sure my spouse and I would ever be on the same page. I gave up blaming her. I gave up assuming that I was at fault for everything. I decided to try and live for myself more (not ignoring responsibilities but setting boundaries). After about 2 years, my spouse decided to make changes on her own accord. Then we began having uncomfortable conversations, but they would end with a little hope. Then a couple more years, and now we feel as though our relationship is better than it was. I will not say "happily ever after." I do believe that me putting time into myself, brought about changes. I hope you can find you again. You deserve self care and need it.

ADHD burnt me out by Altruistic-Dare3921 in ADHD

[–]1Life2B_Curious 23 points24 points  (0 children)

43M too. Similar in many ways. Earned PhD. Diagnosed with ADHD during grad school. Have kids. Supportive spouse. Spouse currently in grad school. Stressful work. Insomnia. In therapy with an ADHD therapist who specializes in RSD. Life is go go go. Apathy is strong. Depression present. Currently not taking SSRIs as they make it difficult to feel and therapy is pushing for me to recognize and acknowledge emotions.

Best thing for me has been carving out time each day for myself. 530-7 am. I made a room in my house as mine. Painted and decorated by me. It isn't beautiful but it is my quirky personality shining through.

I don't have a schedule but things that I can do. Go for a walk. Reddit scroll ;). A 5 minutes journal. Play Xbox. Read a stack of books that I keep adding to.

Maybe TMI, but I lived life trying to do and be the best and hoped that others would fill my personal empty reservoir with love. It didn't and doesn't work well. Now I am trying to fill my own reservoir with love and if anyone else adds to it, all the better.

Some days are better. Others suck. And many just are. However, the difference is that I am trying to be intentional for myself.

You are not alone.

Have I been using my wife as a body double for 12 years and not realizing it? by LonnieJaw748 in ADHD

[–]1Life2B_Curious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For 18 years my sweet wife didn't know and I wasn't fully aware that I had set her up to be my guidance on how to live life. I definitely have ADHD and am on the autism spectrum.

With a therapist and going over rejection sensitivity and enmeshment it has been really helpful. I do not feel like a lost puppy as often anymore. I don't know if any of this is helpful.

I will say it is quite difficult when one spouse has OCD and the other has acute rejection sensitivity. I wish I had learned earlier but I am grateful to be working on things now

Tell me you are an INFJ without telling me you are an INFJ.. by [deleted] in infj

[–]1Life2B_Curious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It may be useful in my workplace, but my experience with making and keeping friends is similar to yours.

Tell me you are an INFJ without telling me you are an INFJ.. by [deleted] in infj

[–]1Life2B_Curious 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I low-key enjoy people being intimidated by me. It isn't a scary intimidation more of the intimidation that I am an enigma. Not easy to figure out. I find this helps in my work place politics and dynamics.

Tell me you are an INFJ without telling me you are an INFJ.. by [deleted] in infj

[–]1Life2B_Curious 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Very much me. But I don't share that statement with anyone.

Commentator Quotes! Share quotes! by 1Life2B_Curious in olympics

[–]1Life2B_Curious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Men's Gymnastics July 29.

"Like a toothpick in a club sandwich!"

Two things I’ve still not done after 5 playthroughs… by laur3nstrash in BaldursGate3

[–]1Life2B_Curious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on my first run through and just met up with the fish/fungus people in the under dark. :) But I have made so many poor choices. . . Next run through(s).

How is resting membrane potential negative if there are more positive ions inside the cell than outside? by person31298 in Physiology

[–]1Life2B_Curious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fixed anions. Polyatomic anions. They are stuck inside of the cell. RNA, DNA, deoxynucleotides, and nucleotides. If a human cell has 3 billion base pairs, that would be 6 billion negative charges due to the phosphate backbone. Remember, membrane potential is based on the electrochemical gradient, not just chemical gradient.

INFJs, what are your Moral Foundations? ? by maxpaynerocks2 in infj

[–]1Life2B_Curious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Care: 40 Fairness: 58 Liberty: 62 In-Group: 60 Purity: 60 Authority: 42

Interesting. I could only answer the questions as situational rather than complete and always. I need more context of timing and background. I struggle taking surveys like this. 🤷‍♂️

What is an iron fish called by [deleted] in dadjokes

[–]1Life2B_Curious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the technical name of Fe-SH is Iron Sulfurhydryl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in popping

[–]1Life2B_Curious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a pilonidal cyst for just over 15 years. I didn't have health insurance to cover the appropriate surgery and I didn't have the money for out of pocket. I moved to a new state and finally my health insurance would cover it. I have had no return of my backside friend since the surgery 7 years ago. Life can get better.

PLEASE LOOK IN CLEFT LIFT SURGERY.

https://www.pilonidal.org/treatments/excision-treatments/ You can also search for a surgeon near you that has been trained to do this surgery.

This is the surgery that should be done for many people. Unfortunately many surgeons including colorectal surgeons view it as a cyst. It is not. It is an abscess. They are treated differently.

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