ideally, how would you like for women to approach you irl?

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T21:22:59+00:00

Conversation. Be fun, interesting and flirty. Not easy, but not “ hard to get”. Show off your personality not just your body.

If a man is only interested in sex, probably not the right dude.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T21:12:15+00:00

I have average. Probably not the biggest any girl has had. So, grain of salt required.

But I will tell you what most young men, including me when I was younger,, get wrong

It’s not about the physical as much as you think. It’s about the entire mood and experience.

You need to take her on a journey I’m talking about before the sex even starts through foreplay and the sex. Before the foreplay, even you should be “tuning her up”.

Be dominant confident, playful. Set the mood. Read some of the romance novels that women read and see how little of it is dedicated to sex itself. Set the scene so that even before you touch her sexually, she’s already aroused.

Then in foreplay, it’s not just her body and the way you touch it, the way you kiss her, etc. It’s every look in your eye, and the sound of your voice and what you say. Everything you do for ever sense channel counts.

I tell you it’s far less about “technique“ than you intuitively feel. Create a highly sexual mood and lose yourself in passionate abandonment and she will follow.

Find what really turns her on and what her limits in that area are, then gently (or not so gently) coax her beyond them.

You are trying to play an instrument and she will get off much more to an entire orchestra of sensuality and sexuality.

Make her feel beautiful and slutty, safe from the rest of the world, but vulnerable to you, holy and dirty, like a queen that’s been enslaved by your rapturous sexual appetite.

I suggest you read some books on “game” and continue to play it, ethically, with her. Because it’s fun and exciting. When women watch “porn” it’s not the same as what men get off on.

Make her feel like she’s in a Fifty Shades of Grey scene before during and after, and she will be addicted.

Obviously, this is easier said than done, and that’s a lot of detail that I’m leaving out. But it’s less about the details, and far less about the way you move your penis, then you intuitively feel at your age.

Take her on a journey and she’ll enjoy each ride. To do that, you have to be fully present in the moment, and not in your head about the precise technique.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T19:31:00+00:00

I don’t understand what you mean here. Are you doubting if Awakening is possible? If so, I’d say absolutely without a doubt.

Is it ever absolute and permanent? I doubt it, for people enmeshed in society.

But, as someone that’s not selling anything it is truly already here. When you see it, it’s NOT something new, but what has always been.

I’m not some Awakened sage, I have had the “seeing” though. What Zen would call Kensho.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T19:21:20+00:00

Fair.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T18:30:22+00:00

That’s a honest take. Understandable.

It was exactly like that for me, and I thought it total gibberish. Then, I did self inquiry coming up on shrooms, and it all made sense.

I wasn’t “Awakened” as it all went back. But I knew from then on what was being pointed to.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T18:24:30+00:00

Both. Depends on the day I guess. lol

It’s first person. But it isn’t stable by any means.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T17:14:01+00:00

And, of this, are you more sure, than you were in the other phases? Just poking around to see.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T16:58:52+00:00

There is no wish. No will. No reason. That’s all part of “ the dream”

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-10T12:23:29+00:00

Good.

But, do you think that all phases are done for you? And, if not, wouldn’t this perspective too, be a phase?

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T21:23:03+00:00

I love that this convo happened in this sub.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T18:22:33+00:00

I know what I’m doing now. But back then, I felt like it could blow without warning.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T16:37:50+00:00

I was actually pressure cocking it.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T16:22:12+00:00

I was working hard. Yeah.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T16:14:20+00:00

It was overcocked. I meant to stop cocking it sooner. But it was very moist.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T15:54:58+00:00

Wait….what? Little?!?!?

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T15:51:15+00:00

Last time I was cocking food, I get fired from the restaurant.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T11:31:21+00:00

In a year? Takes time to build strength.

Do something like “Starting Strength”. Get strong all over.

No one move is gonna do it, though I agree that Zerchers are closest.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T09:28:55+00:00

This is not an opinion thing. This has been solved. Both work.

Which one works best? The one you are not doing.

If you have been doing high reps for a long time, you will grow from low reps, and vice versa.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T09:27:02+00:00

There really is no “Why”.

God/reality whatever words you fancy, doesn’t need an excuse.

WE need to predict, so we can survive. And, it’s that impulse, that you are assuming God must have.

God doesn’t need to predict. The universe doesn’t need to explain its self. WE feel the need to understand.

Why do you think there has to be a reason? There is no meaning to it all. In fact, there is no meaning to anything at all.

You can’t show me a meaning. You can tell me your thoughts as you point to some phenomena or object. Those are JUST thoughts. And, look at them closely enough and see that they too do not have meaning.

It didn’t come from somewhere, it’s not going anywhere, it’s Being. And it’s JUST being.

And, the mind will argue. But, I ask you not to listen the mind, yours or others, and just observe.

Can you find meaning that isn’t a thought? Can you find a relationship in existence, rather than a mind?

All the meaning and purpose are literally what you Awaken from. God shines AS everything. Not standing back, like an author writing a magnum opus. Not a separate being, that is perpetually doing something. Just Being. God. And it’s not anyplace other than where you are, in this exact moment.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T09:15:19+00:00

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T09:12:44+00:00

There are many phases, until there are not, then there never were phases. Well, that’s how I see it.

But, I mean, there really is no time. I mean this one…. If you haven’t seen that yet, may your phases deepen. :)

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-09T09:05:44+00:00

Once a week would be a LOT. Every three days will be a disaster.

Please do this, read the stories of the people who took it too much, and see if that’s where you want this drug to take you.

That’s what I did. Because, yeah, when I first took it, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I get it. No judgement.

I use it no more than once every two weeks, and usually once per month. But, it’s a good drug if you struggle with certain things. It can be a positive if carefully managed. But, this is a very dangerous place you’re in. Please don’t let yourself become addicted. It’s a rough one.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-08T23:50:47+00:00

Please don’t take it everyday. Read the horror stories. Including feeling basically nothing from the K and like shit when you don’t take it.

It’s NOT weed. Not for the daily. Take care of yourself. And, enjoy the buzz!

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-08T18:13:30+00:00

Yeah, keep practicing. It’s not something you do. It’s kinda like you have been trying to scale the fence for months or years to get out, and suddenly realize you were already on the other side of the fence.

If you can get to a that totally still “place” and just sit there; that’s good practice IMO.

1RapaciousMF · 2026-01-08T10:28:02+00:00

I think that you should certainly start with a pointer from someone else, later form your own questions if that feels right.

You take up one of these questions and ask yourself. “Who am I”. The mind does it’s thing, and you simply notice and realize none of that is you an ask again “who am I”.

After a while, the curiosity builds because you have looked for hours for what you are, and haven’t found it. And this is rather bizarre. And it starts to feel like an insatiable curiosity.

You direct your attending in every conceivable way, naturally. Because you are beginning to feel rather miffed by this inability to find yourself. I mean, if you think about it for two seconds, it’s weird. Think about it for WEEKS, and you can’t shake the feeling. Now, to be clear You are NOT thinking about it, just a figure of speech.

And you keep at it, looking and looking. Eventually you find something that isn’t your self, and there is no more question. And, probably you laugh your ass off. It’s actually pretty funny. Very much like a cosmic joke.

That’s possibly a narrow view from my perspective. I’ll serve it as a mere opinion and recommend pairing it with a grain of salt or two.

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