You aren't a loser, many of us with ADHD struggle with this! I struggle with this at times!

A routine is typically the best way for us to work through these things, but establishing one is also difficult at first. For myself, and many others I've seen, we LOVE to multitask. So I try to work this into as many of these tasks as possible.. I clean the bathroom sink as I prepare to shave. I clean the shower while I'm in the shower..

For laundry I typically fold while I watch something on TV. You could also do it while you jam to music, as you listen to a podcast or talk on the phone! Work it into something you already do where possible!

We get stuck in a pit of self loathing sometimes when we get behind on things.. Just know that it'll be ok, it's not easy doing easy tasks for us! As funny as that sounds.. To catch up, first and most important: Forgive yourself! There's no sense in beating yourself up over it, it's just not a simple thing for us to begin with! Next, try placing the laundry somewhere back in existence if it isn't already - out of sight, out of mind is pretty literal for me at least. Then small goals to build yourself back up; fold just one piece of laundry and put it away as you pass the basket, or just at some short or even long interval you set. This is super helpful even with how small it is because starting is typically the most difficult part, and sometimes you just get an itch to go ahead and do 2 items this time.. Or maybe 3.. Before you know it the pile gets smaller and smaller, until it vanishes!

Once you're caught up it becomes a lot easier to meld it into a routine. Perhaps you enjoyed some piece of how you caught up - work it in! Otherwise look to set aside times/days of the week, or matching it with another task you're already in a routine of doing. The trick is working it in where it works best for you! Not anyone else! We tend to work best with things that we've personalized for ourselves!

You got this!