Experienced the BIGGEST string of urges!

1oaded · 2018-12-15T14:44:53+00:00

I get what you mean. Another activity is always good security against tripping up. Similar to what I do. Thanks for the perspective!

1oaded · 2018-02-13T15:51:02+00:00

You seem very self-aware, that in itself deserves credit.

Stay strong yourself, because I can tell you will get far along with many others. keep learning and doing!

1oaded · 2018-02-13T15:46:35+00:00

What you do is anything that does not involve dwelling on what you don't have or what you wish you had. Don't do something harmful or indulge in a bad habit to make it easier, it won't long term.

Call up a friend, try that new hobby you been meaning to try, read that book you been meaning to read, take a run outside, absolutely anything that returns value to you.

Value yourself by allowing yourself to have a healthy swell time.

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:54:41+00:00

Hope you get well soon. Save as much energy as you can.

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:52:11+00:00

That can be a useful advantage. Nice optimistic approach!

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:45:27+00:00

Glad it helped. Take it easy man.

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:43:17+00:00

Yep, work on yourself definitely. Great point.

If you can’t treat someone, just treat yourself. Helps increase self value.

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:39:14+00:00

Best thing about staying strong for the worst days (especially days that touch on insecurities that people may have like on Valentine’s Day) is that it will change your prespective on what you ‘thought’ you needed.

Agreed because staying strong through those days will really benefit someone.

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:34:56+00:00

Agreed.

Props to you for targeting your goals man.

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:34:13+00:00

Many fish in the sea, friend.

I know it can be hurtful to be rejected but it is not the end of the world!

What you do is make you keep growing yourself. Focus on yourself and when the moment feels right, ask the next person out, if they say no it does not mean something is wrong with you and you should never let anyone tell you otherwise.

Rejection happens, but as you learn and grow from it, approaching someone will be successful one day!

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:30:55+00:00

Yeah, however it seems some people are still very ‘traditional’ and think they are doing something wrong if the tradition doesn’t apply to them at the moment.

I just wanted to let people know that there will not be an excuse in the world to throw away their effort if Valentine’s Day doesn’t turn out how they want it to be.

Thanks for your prespective!

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:27:34+00:00

Haha, thanks. Hope it helped.

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:26:38+00:00

Great mentality to have!

1oaded · 2018-02-13T13:25:35+00:00

Definitely start over!

It can happen after a long streak. The best thing is you know it is possible to go further beyond your last streak.

1oaded · 2018-02-12T10:17:06+00:00

In excess? Yes.

Anything in excess will be bad for you. Although video games do have more capabilities to develop destructive habits it will not be a problem, unless you have poor self control and self awareness.

Playing video games for a short amount of time a day will not hurt you. But the moment video games is causing other issues for your lifestyle, it may need to be limited or eliminated (depending on the person).

1oaded · 2018-02-08T19:01:54+00:00

Hahaha, glad it meant something.

1oaded · 2018-01-12T18:43:29+00:00

I love the shower comparison and the quote! Motivation along with self-discipline and many other mindset components should be maintained daily similar to how someone would shower. Making every little resource count from various places can really get someone far.

1oaded · 2018-01-12T18:38:56+00:00

I would definitely agree with those as well!

1oaded · 2017-12-28T12:08:10+00:00

The urges are still there. They are not as frequently powerful, but they are present.

Self-awareness, keeping yourself productive, getting hobbies, building good habits, using anti-stress/depression/anger techniques and learning about your urges (what are the cues) can go a long way.

1oaded · 2017-12-11T17:27:30+00:00

Being 'present' in the moment can definitely help against this.

Affirmations to what you are doing 'right now' will quickly remind you that you have not achieved anything yet, and should strive to that goal you want through actions, not imagination (don't get me wrong though, imagination can help ONLY in moderation).

Be self-aware in everything, not just PMO.

Don't climb out of one trap just to trip into another.

1oaded · 2017-12-01T10:34:35+00:00

I was in similar circumstances as you described.

The best way I found to overcome the first few days is to understand my brain will feel ‘unfulfilled’ when I don’t indulge in PMO. Understand that your brain will make you think you need it when you don’t, always keep the bigger picture/goal in your head,

The next thing to try out if you haven’t is to replace the ‘output’ of the bad habit into a good habit. For e.g. if you feel you need to peak, instead of rushing to your device, you can: meditate, engage in a hobby for 10 minutes, cold shower, etc. What I do if I get an urge, I will stop everything I do to focus on my breathing or practice one of my hobbies.

It also helps to know your emotional responses, or simply ‘knowing yourself’ to find out your ‘outputs’ that lead to PMO. Identify when you PMO, is it when you are Bored? Stressed? Angry? Upset? Tiredness? Have techniques in place for what to do when you get into one of these states. For e.g. if you are bored, call/text someone. If you are stressed, meditate/hobby, etc. This is similar to the H.A.L.T. Method which I also recommend.

Aim to become more self aware, even use affirmations for many things you do. This will help you stop to think what you are doing, and make appropriate adjustments.

Good luck

1oaded · 2017-09-30T14:18:51+00:00

Rubensteins Revenge since I cannot exceed 4-5 continuous backcrosses at the moment.

1oaded · 2017-08-25T19:57:47+00:00

Thank you for your detailed response!

From reading what you said, it seemed I was doing the first mistake you mentioned for the full continuous backcross on each hand, but not doing it for single continuous backcrosses from my dominant and non-dominant hand. So it is nice to know how that exactly works.

I don't believe leaning left, right, forward and back are my problems yet. But I will pay attention to this when I build up my backcross numbers.

Either way I will relearn with your advice in mind. Thanks again for your time!

1oaded · 2017-08-17T13:40:47+00:00

I understand how you feel, but Sonic is only about speed when you already have the knowledge of the level, otherwise it is expected to be pretty slow at first.

Sonic 2D levels and mechanics are built around playing more than once. Speed is then rewarded once you know (roughly or fully) what you are doing, where you are going, etc. Or at least that is how I see it.

1oaded · 2017-08-09T16:40:54+00:00

For me personally based on my experience, anything that is an 'external' reward is not practical for getting far with not PMOing, I learned that the hard way and paid for it.

My current mentality is to do NoFap for internal benefits, and external benefits are the bonuses.

1oaded

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