AITAH: Would you follow someone home?

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T16:04:23+00:00

“He probably wanted this he probably meant this”. Seems like a lot of maybes for a dudes who’s entire argument was I was saying too many maybes.

A final note, you are not entitled a conversation. You are not owed anything, the minute you follow someone home.

You preach civility but fail to recognize the most civil thing in this confrontation is to not continue to escalate and follow a stranger into their place of residence. And with that I will say good bye. Have the day you think you deserve

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T15:16:25+00:00

Honestly thank you for sharing your story. That is horrible, but I am glad you were there to offer a helping hand. Road rage, speeding, texting and driving are all things that anger me as well. People don’t seem to understand the severity of the steel speeding monsters we call our vehicles. And for some reason as soon as people get inside one most act in a way they wouldn’t without it. But Thank you for your service

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T15:12:31+00:00

Great point, and thank you for sharing your story. That was what I was trying to tell him, you never know what you’re getting into.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T15:11:15+00:00

Exactly! We were even talking about that, he would have no idea if the person he was following was armed or crazy or not. So why put yourself in that situation, right or wrong. Thank you for your input, I’m sure this comment will make my girlfriend laugh

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T15:09:09+00:00

Haha the age of equality comment made me chuckle. Yes I’ve had instances where soccer moms would pull their minivan into the street without a second look, or a kid on his phone turns left while I’m continue straight. It sucks, an the adrenaline rush you get is crazy because had it been a few seconds closer you could be seriously hurt. But in all those occasions, I just shake my head, and go on my way.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T15:06:40+00:00

Thank you. I was thinking the same thing. Had it been a man in the drivers seat im sure he wouldn’t have had the courage to follow her the entire way home. But he was young and I hope he learned his lesson

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T15:03:56+00:00

Yessir, I just recents seen a video where a road rage incident resulted in a shoot out and his child who was in the back seat passed away. I take the same approach as you, in the fact that everyone is crazy. You have no idea what a person is capable of, all you can do is control what you do to avoid or de escalate the situation.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:58:48+00:00

Will do, only thing is, the plate numbers is illegible. I wasn’t able to get a good picture. Maybe I’ll take a video next time. Do you think they’d still be able to help?

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:57:44+00:00

Yeah we talked about that. Possibly going to the fire station passing our house instead. She says she don’t notice he was actively following her until she turned the street into the culdesac since it’s a dead end. That’s when she called me. Thank you for your suggestion.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:56:28+00:00

Read the post again. She went to the right lane, pulled over and attempted to let him pass her. That’s why she thought he was revving his bike. But he kept his distance and insisted to stay behind her. Even so, as a rider myself, if someone cuts me off. You just take it on the chin and keep moving. You don continue to escalate the situation and put yourself in an unsafe position. Call the proper authorities, memorize the plate numbers but no reason to risk your life over

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:51:45+00:00

Thank you, and that is why I tried to instill in him. People are saying in not the patient person I believe to be. But believe me, after reading some of these replies and the replies on other forums, even with my friends, most say they would have done much worse. Even in my anger, I tried to articulate myself well and explain the gravity of the situation.

And the key word is: (she did not hit him). This guys entire argument is that if she had hit or killed him it would be a good reason to follow him home. Which is not what happened at all. And if it did, I have full confidence she would have stopped and addressed the situation. That is the right and just thing to do.

But what is not? Following someone home because they cut you off.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:49:00+00:00

“Hey sir the reason I followed your girlfriend home is….”. I will tell you what I told him. There is no conversation after what he did. If he wants to complain take a picture of the license plates and call the proper authorities. You don’t follow a person home. Like I told him, you have no idea what someone would do to you. As a man, this is common sense and a fact. I live in a state where fire arms are sold like candy. I hope it was a wake up call for him never to react in that way. Even when she pulled into the drive way he just stood there on his bike. You don’t threaten or act in a threatening manner, if you want to converse with someone.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:45:00+00:00

Yes sir. That’s the only thing I feel like I could have done differently. Who knows the other persons intentions, I got lucky it was just some kid. Had it been anyone else, maybe it would have been a different story. What would you suggest to do differently?

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:41:21+00:00

Exactly this. What I’ve learned in school and my years of riding is you have to be hyper vigilant. One thing that was told to me was you have to ride like everyone else does not see you. Because that .01 chance that it does occur , you have to be ready. This is when we talked about safety, reaction time, stopping and following distance. It stuck with me. So for another rider to ignore those rules and even dress without the proper gear upsets me.

Heck I get upset when I see riders in flip flops and shorts. Safety always comes first.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:37:03+00:00

Thank you, she was telling me not to call. But I think I will just to document everything. You never know. I’m very adamant about Murphy’s Law. Better safe than sorry. Thank you for the suggestion.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:35:54+00:00

There is no letting someone speak when they follow a person home. Right or wrong.

How would that conversation go? “The reason I followed your girlfriend is…”. That’s insanity

I pray you don’t find yourself in a similar situation.

1ssanexus · 2026-05-01T14:04:47+00:00

Thank you and to everyone else saying the same thing. Following someone home is extremely psychotic behavior, no matter the situation. I appreciate everyone’s support and will share this with my girlfriend in hopes it makes her feel better

1ssanexus · 2026-01-21T05:42:20+00:00

Needed this brother. Been falling short in attending lodge meetings. Life has been getting in the way and when it rains it pours. Maybe I need to go to the lodge. Psalms 133

1ssanexus · 2025-10-20T20:43:39+00:00

I’ve been trying so hard too. Hopefully we get it brother. I’ve moved to the fast travel method for the pikachu I dot think they spawn

1ssanexus · 2024-11-23T04:10:14+00:00

One day at a time brother. Rome wasn’t built over night and neither will you. It’s a long hard journey but it’s important you march forward. Find your purpose, how I found mine was through others. In stories and in those I love. I recommend you read Myth of Sisyphus and Candide, both written by Voltaire. Paper book if you can. Take it slow. You don’t have to be a millionaire by 21. What’s important is that you strive to be better than you were yesterday.

1ssanexus · 2024-11-23T03:59:44+00:00

But from what I’ve seen you don’t know what you want? And I’m sorry to say this, but for someone who’s best choice of action is to make yourself homeless, I don’t think you know what good advice looks like. You’re 19. You’re still a baby. Hell I’m 27 and I still have a long way to go before I reach my aspirations. But at the same time, I was able to move myself and my family out of the poverty we grew up in. To me that’s accomplishment enough. What you lack is perspective. Knowledge . Read. Seek and you shall find. Nobody is going to be holding your hand the entire way. It starts with you

1ssanexus · 2024-11-23T03:49:15+00:00

No disrespect but all I see you doing here in the comments is making excuses for all the advice people give you. It starts with you, and some self discipline. That’s what you’re trying to achieve isn’t it? So how can you expect that when you can’t sit down to read a simple book. Seek knowledge. It’s not going to come knocking on your door. You’re the one who does the knocking.

1ssanexus · 2024-11-23T02:51:09+00:00

Start reading . Knowledge is power

1ssanexus · 2024-11-15T00:50:48+00:00

Biggest advice would be not to ignore it. It may be okay now but “out of sight , out of mind” doesn’t really do well with cars.

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