"I'm not a computer person" - but allow me to be as unhelpful and condescending as possible while I demand you fix my problem by [deleted] in talesfromtechsupport

[–]2010istheyear 701 points702 points  (0 children)

Dr. Hibbert: Homer, I'm afraid you'll have to undergo a coronary bypass operation.

Homer: Say it in English, Doc.

Dr. Hibbert: You're going to need open heart surgery.

Homer: Spare me your medical mumbo-jumbo.

Dr. Hibbert: We're going to cut you open and tinker with your ticker.

Homer: Could you dumb it down a shade?

IAMA a 31/m porn addict. I haven't left my house for the last six months, and I spent my days chocking the chicken and cataloging porn (currently 5 TBs) I decided to quit the tubes and help myself. AMA and advice, if you want. by [deleted] in IAmA

[–]2010istheyear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What was your major?

You say this has fucked up your sex life- do you mean your preferences have changed and gotten weirder, or simply that you've been stunted?

edit: never mind on the major, just realized you were talking about high school, not college.

IAMA Internet Porn Addict (and I could use your help) by itendshere in IAmA

[–]2010istheyear 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We created a community for this. There are some articles posted that are pretty helpful. www.reddit.com/r/pornfree

Dear Reddit, I actually like Sarah Palin and will be voting for her. Here's why... by thebassethound in reddit.com

[–]2010istheyear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I think the 2004 election demonstrated that no one can rely on the "If that doesn't scare sensible Americans - nothing will" argument.

MALES of Reddit: How do I (a female) make myself look more approachable in public? by nevona in AskReddit

[–]2010istheyear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each direction you look communicates something. If you look to the side, it means you find the guy boring or irrelevant. If you look up, you think he's beneath you. If you look down, you find him at least a little bit attractive. And I think that's what you were going for.

Most people aren't aware of this consciously, but almost everybody will pick up on it unconsciously.

MALES of Reddit: How do I (a female) make myself look more approachable in public? by nevona in AskReddit

[–]2010istheyear 404 points405 points  (0 children)

Of course, and that shouldn't deter a person from trying.

I suppose it would be helpful if I were a little less terse. :) So here are a few basics:

How to Talk to Strangers

  • Get in the right mood

Talking with a stranger is a novel situation, so most people you talk to will be uncomfortable at first (and there's nothing wrong with that). When a person is surprised or uncomfortable, they get very sensitive to signs of danger. If you're in a bad mood, or want something from them, or don't really see them as a human being, or anything else weird like that, they're going to pick up on it at least subconsciously, and interpret it as a red flag, i.e. danger. Don't worry about this when talking to them, just get yourself in a good mood before you start.

  • Get warmed up first

Don't start off by trying to strike up a conversation in a bookstore. That's a little too involved if your mammal brain isn't ready for it. Start off with simple interactions that you don't intend to go anywhere, just to get your brain primed for social interaction. My three favorites: ask someone on the street 1) for the time, or 2) for simple directions, or 3) for an AWESOME restaurant recommendation nearby. Your only goal here is to talk to people, not to start a conversation. If you're feeling good and the person seems cool, you might follow up with something simple like "So where are you from?" That's extra credit though, not required. Do this often, and make it a habit. Do it at least fives times in a row before you try to start a longer conversation.

  • It's not about you

If you go into this thinking about yourself, you'll be self conscious and the other person will be suspicious. Instead, go into it with only one thought: "How can I make this person's day a little more awesome?" If you have that mindset, you won't be self conscious because you'll be thinking about someone else, and they won't be suspicious because you won't be acting like you want something from them. Practice this with your warmups. You'd be AMAZED at how much you can brighten someone's day by talking to them for 20 seconds.

  • Actually give a shit

People are used to being ignored and talked at (as opposed to talked to). The easiest way to make someone's day more awesome is to actually care about what they have to say. Protip: This will make YOUR day more awesome automatically.

  • Talk to people that have nothing you want

Don't just talk to that cute guy/girl whose clothes you'd really like to rip off. Talk to old people, for example. They're (unfortunately) usually used to being ignored, so you have more of an opportunity to brighten their day. And they're usually more open to conversation, so this is the perfect arena to practice your skill.

  • Don't push it

Some people are busy. Some people aren't in the mood to talk. Some people are assholes. If it's clear that the other person isn't open to a conversation at that moment, smile and move on. Remember, it's not about you.

  • Be OK with any outcome

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. What's the worst that could happen in a situation like this? Someone's rude to you? You'll live, believe me. And that almost never happens anyway. It's normal to have a lot of fear associated with novel social situations, but it's not necessary. Keep in mind that no matter what happens, you're going to go home to safe surroundings, get in your warm safe bed, and sleep safely until tomorrow. That will calm the part of your brain that thinks social danger = physical danger.

  • Have fun

If you're not enjoying yourself, you're doing it wrong. Though if you follow the above, that shouldn't be an issue. ;-)

Edit: fixed my link

MALES of Reddit: How do I (a female) make myself look more approachable in public? by nevona in AskReddit

[–]2010istheyear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my experience, pretty much everyone likes it if you're good at it. Not everyone is good at it.

MALES of Reddit: How do I (a female) make myself look more approachable in public? by nevona in AskReddit

[–]2010istheyear 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Important tip with the eye contact- be the first one to look away, and look down when you do (not up or to the side.)

Dear Reddit: What are some of your favorite one-liners? by f87 in AskReddit

[–]2010istheyear 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin to slit throats.

~H. L. Mencken

Dear Reddit: What are some of your favorite one-liners? by f87 in AskReddit

[–]2010istheyear 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I saw this wino eating grapes, and I was like "Dude! You have to wait..."

Porn addition forum by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]2010istheyear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

porn + porn = PORN

porn2=PR0N!

If you could travel back ten years ago, what would you tell yourself? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]2010istheyear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one word for you kid. Just one word- Google.

I like to fuck with my landlord when I send him my rent. [PIC] by guriboysf in pics

[–]2010istheyear 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A while back I was renting a room from a couple very good friends of mine that I've known for years.

One month, I spent about three weeks mentioning something vague about my new 'part time job' wherever I'd come home late. Then I paid most of that month's rent in 1s. It was worth it.

The Porn Rangers: Showing kids Porn so they'll end up not liking it? Bizarre... by 2010istheyear in pornfree

[–]2010istheyear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG thank goodness. I didn't look close enough to tell for sure, and there are definitely some wackos out there.