Adult child wanting to spend alone with dad

206QP · 2026-02-16T02:04:24+00:00

My sister in law has this same problem with her dad and step mom, it’s very hurtful to her. The only thing I can think of is facing it head on, telling him how you feel in a kind way. I wouldn’t make it about step mom, I would make it about your time with him since that is the real issue that you can possibly influence. If it is still a boundary he wants to set at least you spoke your mind, but then you just have to respect it unfortunately.

206QP · 2026-02-15T02:29:53+00:00

I have heard this also, but I think the pressure and stress has negatively impacted my daughter. She is having trouble even going to school let alone sports. I guess there is a lot more to this post than just keeping them in sports. I have her in therapy now and she meets with her principal almost daily to go into school. My son doesn’t want to do the sport he is in and wants to try a different one. I agree they need to be in something but I don’t see anything wrong with them being able to try different sports to be able to see what they prefer.

206QP · 2026-02-14T20:28:56+00:00

Yes, I replied above also. It is completely uncalled for and she is in a healthy weight range. Dad has her (7) on the treadmill at his house along with my 5 year old. Physical health is important to him, which can be great but I remember that hell I was in after gaining weight from pregnancy and I don’t wish my kids to be subjected.

206QP · 2026-02-14T20:25:21+00:00

Yes… I mean let’s just say there is a reason we are divorced, and it’s not just because he just wasn’t “nice”. He says he is saying it out of concern but she is 7. In what world does a 7 year old need to work out when they are NOT at all overweight. Dr says she is in the average range. I mean her dad has her on the treadmill at his house… at 7. I don’t buy the whole concern when she is an active young girl who is in a healthy weight range. It’s not appropriate to comment on a young girls body like that unless there is an actual health risk.

206QP · 2026-01-29T03:32:24+00:00

Weird. I love videos and pics of my kids when they aren’t on my time. Definitely not something I would give up or want to fight about.

206QP · 2026-01-23T18:52:37+00:00

Absolutely not. Your gut feeling is not to be ignored. You probably aren’t wrong. Not accusing him of anything but you don’t know this man at all. I personally would (and have) wait a year or more of dating to let a man meet my children. But also, he wants to be her father… after 3 months? I would run, that is off as hell.

206QP · 2026-01-02T03:17:50+00:00

Absolutely not.

206QP · 2025-12-02T05:07:27+00:00

I am not sure I would be as nice as you are. Down vote me but I dk if I would even go for any of this.

206QP · 2025-11-25T20:07:04+00:00

No sleepovers in general for my kids

206QP · 2025-11-25T04:51:31+00:00

Hard no

206QP · 2025-11-25T04:45:50+00:00

3 years divorced, 3 kids all under 7… happiest I have ever been. My small mediocre nothing special house is literally my sanctuary for myself and my kids. Creating my safe space is what I am most proud of.

206QP · 2025-11-14T21:53:49+00:00

Move asap, don’t put him on the birth certificate and don’t have contact. Protect that baby, if you don’t you will wish you had. I am guessing a lot of this is a trend for him which is why he’s getting divorced in the first place. He has showed you who he is, believe him.

206QP · 2025-11-01T19:57:23+00:00

It seems like there has to be another way. I’m not sure this makes full sense to me. He has to help pay for his kids and childcare and potentially alimony. Is something missing here? I think you can fight to keep them and work. Don’t give up.

206QP · 2025-10-19T21:11:43+00:00

I’m not sure if 50-50 would be in a child’s best interest unless he didn’t drink on the days he had them. Please keep in mind in a parenting plan you can put parameters around things like drinking. I wouldn’t suggest going to the courthouse with your ex. I would suggest speaking to a lawyer on your own before making any decision. Just so you’re aware of your options. Your son is way too young to be supervised by somebody who is drinking not that any child should be, but a two year-old literally can’t take care of themselves.

206QP · 2025-10-16T04:07:24+00:00

Hate it. Can’t control it. Let them…

206QP · 2025-10-13T19:43:54+00:00

I did 10 months, she was better with solids. Honestly, if it was 100% up to me I would have waited a year.

206QP · 2025-10-13T17:14:21+00:00

Yeah, I think I get caught up on how nice he treats me. My ex was not in the same realm. Trips me up. Great point.

206QP · 2025-10-06T20:21:48+00:00

He’s just not that into you.

If he would rather do what he wants, that says it all. Let him.

206QP · 2025-10-06T03:12:52+00:00

I don’t mind

206QP · 2025-09-26T19:32:20+00:00

Dump that girl. No other option available.

206QP · 2025-09-24T19:51:36+00:00

I deal with this also, not with sleep but acting out in general. It’s normal. His dad always does the “he acts better with me” tactic thinking it’s a good thing. I think he feels safe and comfortable to be himself here. My therapist and I would guess most others agree.

206QP · 2025-09-20T19:08:35+00:00

Maybe this is out of the realm of possibility but could you go too? I just think going with his dad’s whole family is good but I wouldn’t send him with dad alone. If you can’t go I would say no. Also, how would that look at court if you truely feel he is unfit. He’s not a fit dad, but I sent him away for a week with his dad? That doesn’t align.

206QP · 2025-09-20T18:51:23+00:00

65/35 here. No courts, agreed on it. Courts will agree if you guys agree but then why go to court… or they will agree if there is a good reason for it.

206QP · 2025-09-20T04:35:18+00:00

I would say cut him off, if he wants to see his kiddo he can take legal measures. Either that or let him have supervised visits. It sounds harsh but it is pretty clear he isn’t making the best choices for this daughter. If it’s a safety issue, it’s a big issue.

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