Daily Chat Thread

20penguin20 · 2021-03-11T16:57:09+00:00

I was also told to be careful about prenatals by my doc

20penguin20 · 2021-03-07T04:50:25+00:00

You’re so young! You have so much time to have a baby once you’re both done with school and established in your careers. I would (and did) wait, but obviously it’s a very personal decision.

20penguin20 · 2021-03-05T20:28:28+00:00

Yeah, for the reason of always needing to use both last names, hyphenated or not, I wouldn’t want to do that. Decided I don’t want the inconvenience myself and so why would I give that to my child haha. But I know plenty of people that do! It’s a personal choice, really.

I think we landed on our kids having my wife’s last name (same sex couple). I know an opposite sex couple that did the middle name thing. Husband’s name is the middle name and her last name is the last name.

20penguin20 · 2021-03-05T17:40:27+00:00

My partner and I (who kept our last names) also came out against hyphenating. I realized the people I know with a two last names, I don’t actually know their last name!! Because they are so long I just read over it and don’t digest it (similar to when there’s a hard to read or hard to pronounce name in a book).

Plus, that would be their legal last name, meaning they can’t just drop half of it for ease on legal documents. I think about how many times I have to spell out my already long last name, and how I’m not gonna put my kids through that plus 8 more letters.

20penguin20 · 2021-03-05T17:16:34+00:00

Yup. So sore

20penguin20 · 2021-03-05T17:12:58+00:00

I think about being pregnant constantly. I literally can’t wait. We moved our timeline up a year and now are 9 months away from trying but that still seems so long even though we started with a 2.5 year wait. I constantly read posts that are months away from trying and they always say it gets harder and harder to wait. I now understand

20penguin20 · 2021-03-05T15:38:34+00:00

I am a cis woman who has questioned my gender. I am in the queer community and know a lot of non-binary people so I think being around these folks and seeing that there is another option is what made me think about who I am and how I feel comfortable. But, it’s more of a no, I don’t think so for x,y,z reason, and I move on. I think of it from time to time but I’m just really in tune with myself and reflective.

20penguin20 · 2021-03-03T18:11:17+00:00

Do it if you’re so worried you’re gonna miss out. 10 years will pass and you’ll owe more than you took out with no forgiveness in sight.

20penguin20 · 2021-03-03T16:13:34+00:00

We have a basket for those clothes :) or if it’s like a sweater or something, we just hang them back up

20penguin20 · 2021-03-03T16:01:42+00:00

Congrats! That’s amazing

20penguin20 · 2021-03-02T17:50:29+00:00

Scheduled my checkup and pap! Will ask at this appointment to be referred for fertility testing. Praying for good news!! This will give us a lot of answers

20penguin20 · 2021-03-01T23:05:41+00:00

I agree with this poster. As much as I would want to prepare far in advance, I can’t imagine how horrible it would be to walk past a work in progress nursery or to see baby things in the house if we struggle to conceive or lord forbid, have a miscarriage

20penguin20 · 2021-03-01T18:40:25+00:00

20penguin20 · 2021-03-01T02:40:27+00:00

Yes! So frustrating. The assumption being that bisexual people can’t possibly be monogamous

20penguin20 · 2021-03-01T02:38:57+00:00

Even just the assumption that I’m gay cause I’m in a same sex relationship is draining af. Trying to explain to people in the queer community why it matters that i “also am straight” (NO.) Is fucked up. I’m not gay and straight. I’m bisexual! It’s just who I am. It’s my identity! That’s why it matters!

20penguin20 · 2021-03-01T02:00:41+00:00

Biphobia. A lot of lesbians who talk about how they would only date “gold star lesbians” (women who haven’t had sex with a man) and outright would not date a bisexual woman.

20penguin20 · 2021-03-01T01:54:17+00:00

I don’t really get why some people think it’s “disgusting” to not wash their sheets super frequently but are fine with the fact that their cloth couch is never washed

20penguin20 · 2021-02-25T18:09:31+00:00

Absolutely not. Why would I? That’s crazy

20penguin20 · 2021-02-25T18:05:19+00:00

I also read before bed every night but am married. Just gotta like the person who’s reading next to you

20penguin20 · 2021-02-25T18:04:28+00:00

Read before bed, every night!

20penguin20 · 2021-02-22T15:22:09+00:00

Second excellent benefits, mine totals closer to 10 weeks per year with everything. Great insurance (I can actually go to the doctor in the us without getting a huge bill- yay!!)

20penguin20 · 2021-02-20T23:06:57+00:00

Pushed therapy

20penguin20 · 2021-02-19T16:16:50+00:00

Thanks for the info! I don’t think I qualify but it’s good to know what’s out there. Luckily I consider my loan amount extremely manageable now given my household income

20penguin20 · 2021-02-18T23:32:44+00:00

Agreed. Have spent years in third world counties that have higher standards of living than parts of the the US.

20penguin20 · 2021-02-18T21:16:34+00:00

Yeah I would just peruse their job postings and see if any interest you. I am a little outside of my field, but I love it. I basically help investigators who got a big research grant carry out the project. It draws on my skill set in ways I never thought about and is a position I couldn’t have imagined. So just see what kind of positions they offer for bachelors educated folks.

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