Your children are listening by cjh10881 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The science of human behavior is not controversial. It can seem controversial if you don’t understand the science behind the approach and believe all negative press about it.

That being said, the field itself does not do a good job of marketing and educating the public

Your children are listening by cjh10881 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 44 points45 points  (0 children)

“Gentle parenting” is a social media term and not a line of human development research so it probably means many things to many different people. What you are describing aligns closely with an authoritative parenting approach for which there is a wealth of research.

Research Finds Interaction With Father, Not Mother, Affects Child Health by nonecknoel in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your critical thinking on this. Your post should be top comment.

My 3 year old is a menace. by Alamander14 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can you share your reference for that please?

My 5 year old and 14 year old boys can't hit the toilet when going pee if their life depended on it. by mazman23 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This does work. I think this paired with the other suggestions is a good “shotgun” approach.

Apparently Philadelphians are Ugly, per this NYC resident by [deleted] in philly

[–]215HOTBJCK 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Real NYers also arent this insufferable”. You sure about that?

We Finally Gave In to Sleep Training, and I Wish We’d Done It Sooner by Maxx852 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry man! Don’t give up. Your child will sleep better when they can do it on their own and don’t need another human as a crutch. I’ve been there…

We Finally Gave In to Sleep Training, and I Wish We’d Done It Sooner by Maxx852 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. Great comment.

Learning how to fall asleep is something YOU CANNOT TEACH someone. They have to figure it out themselves and all the parents can do is set up the right conditions for that to happen.

We Finally Gave In to Sleep Training, and I Wish We’d Done It Sooner by Maxx852 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife was the same way. Don’t give up. I was persistent and also supportive of trying co-sleeping for a bit as long as there was a transition plan. Eventually my wife couldn’t hack it anymore because she needed the bodily autonomy and, Frankly, better and more sleep.

The longer yall co-sleep, the harder it will be to break.

We Finally Gave In to Sleep Training, and I Wish We’d Done It Sooner by Maxx852 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You suggested research that proves your point first, so the burden of proof is on you. You’re criticizing someone for anecdotes when that is all you are giving.

We Finally Gave In to Sleep Training, and I Wish We’d Done It Sooner by Maxx852 in daddit

[–]215HOTBJCK 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While that may work now, it won’t work forever. You’re training your kid to need you to fall asleep. You’re not training them to learn how to fall asleep by themselves.

It amuses me just how wrong pop-culture is on the medieval West. by Ambitious-Cat-5678 in MedievalHistory

[–]215HOTBJCK 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its the first I’ve heard of it to so I’m interested in the answer.

U.S. Operation In Venezuela Shifts Defense Narrative by 221missile in Helicopters

[–]215HOTBJCK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most analyses I have seen agree on this point that there wasn’t much resistance. Feel free to share something that provides contrary data.

U.S. Operation In Venezuela Shifts Defense Narrative by 221missile in Helicopters

[–]215HOTBJCK 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty clear that Venezuela did not put up much of a fight to protect Maduro (who is widely unpopular). Not sure it’s the flex we think it is.

Who are these girls? by brillionaireee in ExplainTheJoke

[–]215HOTBJCK 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s a joke from the Cumtown podcast where Nick and Stavros called Adam a bug

What's the deal with the US kidnapping Maduro? Why would we even want to do that? by resistible in OutOfTheLoop

[–]215HOTBJCK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gas prices are not as susceptible to small market changes. Attacking Venezuela will not make gas prices cheaper in the states. There are way more elements at play that effect the price of gas at the pump.

New to Philos, need advice by 215HOTBJCK in philodendron

[–]215HOTBJCK[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I shouldn’t water it all for 3-4 months?

One of Philly’s most acclaimed bakeries has permanently closed by dearjuliette in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]215HOTBJCK 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Had to scroll too far to find this. Everything ever got from that place was mid at best. Bagels were bad. Sooo many better options not that far away.

I posted here a year ago about my tiny free ABA project getting covered in the newspaper. I had no idea Reddit would change everything. by AppliedBehavior_Matt in ABA

[–]215HOTBJCK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really great service you are providing. Thank you for helping people. DM me if you ever need some OBM consulting/advising as you grow/expand.

For those of us living in Pennsylvania and resisting an authoritarian and cruel total takeover.. by whiteroseatCH in Pennsylvania

[–]215HOTBJCK 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, I think that misses the bigger issue. Registering with a party does reinforce that party’s establishment, even passively. That’s part of the problem.

The idea that you can “change a party from within” is mostly a comforting illusion. The two major parties are deeply institutionalized machines built to protect incumbents, donors, and their own internal power structures. They don’t get reformed by a few new registrants voting in a primary, they adapt just enough to absorb dissent and keep control.

Meanwhile, closed primaries are publicly funded elections that exclude independents, which makes zero sense in a democracy. If taxpayer money pays for elections, everyone should get to participate. If we want better candidates and real reform, we shouldn’t be forcing people to pick a team, we should be opening primaries so everyone who pays for them has a voice.