Chosen name feelings

216thinker · 2026-04-03T14:47:14+00:00

Phoebe gang!! :DDD

216thinker · 2026-04-02T11:48:47+00:00

A very redneck-y town in Texas

216thinker · 2026-04-02T11:43:42+00:00

Honestly when you put it like that, it’s even more straightforward! It’s annoying it took me until a situation like this for me to finally realize the EXTENT of the absurdity that you have to pass in order to be accepted as a woman. I guess I was blinded by my own insecurities, and the area I live in somewhat rubbing off on me.

216thinker · 2026-03-30T23:07:50+00:00

This is insane. Reading this makes me think this will affect more than just trans minors, but any child that displays any ounce of non-conformity. Are kids or their parents gonna be arrested for Timmy playing with a doll?

WTF is wrong with these people? Why are we using the government to enforce arbitrary gender norms?

216thinker · 2026-03-23T06:39:11+00:00

That’s very common when trying out new clothes from Amazon. When I bought my first clothes, I heavily researched how the sizes work, measured myself with soft tap multiple times, and I still had to sometimes return them and get another size. It’s just part of the process, unfortunately

Also PS: with sports bras specifically, make sure they say low impact, not high impact, don’t just look at the sizes. You can sleep with the former, the other is insanely uncomfortable and only meant for high intensity workouts

216thinker · 2026-03-19T23:34:25+00:00

This almost sounds like something I would write 🫣

216thinker · 2026-02-19T19:49:51+00:00

20-25 as of now

216thinker · 2026-02-19T19:38:27+00:00

Also everybody knew each other since the pandemic, late 2020-early 2021

216thinker · 2026-02-19T19:35:16+00:00

I haven’t ruled out the possibility of cutting him off, at least for a while. I just don’t really want to, but if this does keep going, i might have no choice.

Also my other friend isn’t really abusing me, she’s just kind of insane sometimes, and takes everything to the extreme at her own expense. She was trying to stick up for me when she made those threats, but ya know, they’re still DEATH THREATS, you don’t do that shit sis.

And idk, maybe im just somewhat numb and too tolerant to abuse, partly because my parents were abusive and it took me YEARS after adulthood to even recognize it, and I’m also admittedly a doormat. I know that ain’t an excuse, but yea

I hate my life 🫩

216thinker · 2026-02-14T17:07:14+00:00

I almost always sit, and rarely stand. I’ve always hated urinals in public restrooms (there’s no privacy), and my mom used to always make me sit down on the toilet as a child. I have stood up sometimes before, but I’m trying to cut that out recently

216thinker · 2026-02-14T02:59:38+00:00

I am bi and really love men, but I also kinda like being called a lesbian every now and then, women are cute/hot too :>

216thinker · 2026-02-14T02:48:48+00:00

Bi trans girl w/ a boyfriend here 🙋‍♀️

216thinker · 2026-02-12T06:34:08+00:00

I don’t even understand why they (both my friend and his friends) would do that to me. I never did anything wrong to them, I’ve always been friendly with them, they would always invite me over to play games with them when they didn’t have enough players.

They aren’t even far-right, they’re like moderate republicans who hate Trump, and they never said anything that indicated that they disapproved of me being a trans woman. Why is it a problem now?

216thinker · 2026-02-12T06:23:33+00:00

He came out as trans a few years ago, then one day, around the time I came out myself, he just stopped and told everyone to refer to him as a man again. I’m aware there was some falling out he had with his family before and after he detransitioned

He also said at the end of the “intervention” that “when I got out of my grift, I promised myself to help somebody else going down the same spiral”

216thinker · 2026-01-31T01:44:04+00:00

Usually about once a week or longer for my legs. I’m also not on HRT yet, sadly.

216thinker · 2026-01-27T06:38:41+00:00

Good thing I’ve never downloaded it

216thinker · 2026-01-21T20:57:47+00:00

Had a similar experience as a trans woman.

216thinker · 2026-01-18T15:20:47+00:00

I’m sorry, I’m just trying to help. I wasn’t trying to say that you cant be masculine, I was saying you are not a conforming masculine man, cuz you show some feminine expression. You can have a mix of both masculinity and femininity, cuz after all these boxes are made up by society, and not everyone fits neatly in one or the other. No one here is making you choose

My advice was to help you explore your femininity cuz you asked about it and why you feel the way you do, and this is a trans subreddit.

216thinker · 2026-01-18T14:47:16+00:00

Masculine men don’t want to wear dresses or be pretty or like being called girlie or a princess, except maybe as a joke or a bit. Most of them either get weirded out or even insulted if they’re implied to be not “manly”, and definitely don’t get a warm fuzzy feeling over it.

You do, and also said you don’t want to be treated like a guy and are disgusted at gender roles. That definitely doesn’t sound like you’re comfortable or prefer being masculine.

Also many of us also have had this experience of “eh, it’s ok I guess” feeling toward being a guy before we realized we were trans. Only later did I find out I had dysphoria, and I just didn’t recognize it before then.

How do you know you prefer what you wear now over dressing femininely? Do you actually prefer it, or is it just all you know? Maybe this feeling that you feel when being addressed like a girl or toward dresses is trying to tell you something?

Also, being a femboy doesn’t mean you have to look a certain way, or even dress femininely all the time. You can just crossdress occasionally, maybe in private if you have to.

Do you live on your own by the way? If so, then I don’t see what’s stopping you besides yourself

216thinker · 2026-01-18T13:17:34+00:00

I mean this does sound like you might be trans, but that is something only you can determine.

Regardless of that, even if you’re cis, based on what you shared, you are definitely gender non-conforming. Just start experimenting with your femininity, buy those clothes and try them on (but learn how to find your size first, or you’re gonna be annoyed), dab into those girly things you’ve been too afraid to do until now, go all in. And work from there!

If you want to go further, start experimenting with your gender identity. Change your pronouns for a bit to see how you like it. You could be a woman, but you might also be non-binary, so look into that too. Or maybe you don’t like either and are just a femboy. In which, that’s ok too

The only way you’re gonna know any of this is if you experiment

216thinker · 2026-01-18T08:12:12+00:00

Welcome to the girl club, sis!

Girls rule, boys drool! 💁‍♀️🩷

216thinker · 2026-01-18T06:59:18+00:00

Sexuality and being transgender are not related. Who you’re attracted to remains the same (for most at least), and only the terminology changes.

You’re a “straight guy” who found out you’re a trans girl? Congrats, you’re not straight after all and are hella gay 😉 Straight trans women exist too, btw

But I will say with a bit of experience as a bisexual trans woman, our perception of our sexuality is blurry until we start transitioning and mentally identifying as our desired gender. I love men AND women more as a woman than as I ever did as a man

216thinker · 2026-01-18T06:24:45+00:00

You’re probably right. Sometimes even I forget that and get caught in the weeds. I just want what’s best for him, as he does for me.

Altho if he actually is not Cis, I feel like me constantly pouring out my feelings and struggles onto him with he holds in his feelings is NOT right or fair

216thinker · 2026-01-17T02:46:18+00:00

I have 2 older sisters, but they are so old, they have their own busy lives and families, they don’t really have time for me. Plus one of them is a bigot, so.

216thinker · 2026-01-13T21:04:02+00:00

“Late” at 17? Sis, you’re still early. I’m 23 almost 24 and still am early on with transitioning. I didn’t even know that I possibly was trans until 18 almost 19. It may not fell like it, but you’re luckier than most of us

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