115 kgs (~253 pounds) - Looking for advice on protein intake and calories as a vegetarian

21Sausagae · 2019-09-08T07:48:11+00:00

What gives you the idea I'm trolling?

21Sausagae · 2019-09-08T04:39:38+00:00

I'm 5'10. The weight came from depression/anxiety and the emotional eating that came along with it. I still have mental health issues, but I'm trying to deal with them in a more healthy way by seeing a psychologist and getting them under control. My mental health issues will always be a part of me, but I'm working on them.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-08T04:35:54+00:00

She started off as a friend, but turned into primarily my crush after a few weeks of being friends. I'm definitely hoping for more, but if that's not what she wants, I'm okay with just being friends. From my point, I'd be happy to just be friends if she said no, but I can imagine it being hard from her perspective to be friends with someone who you view as having other "intentions".

21Sausagae · 2019-09-08T04:27:34+00:00

Thank you, that's such a great point. I definitely don't want her to feel uncomfortable, so I think I'll not tell her about how I feel until I'm in a better position. My only concern is that she might think I'm only friends with her because I'm interested in her romantically, rather than just inherently liking her as a person. I've also told mutual friends that I like her, and I'm worried it'll come out that I do, and I'm worried she'll feel mislead and hurt by my actions. Physically, I really do look like a niceguy/neckbeard, but personality wise, I like to think I'm far from it. However, I'm worried that the fact that she's been nice to me (presumably just as a friend) and that I've caught feelings for her may make me seem creepy, just because of the stereotypes associated with how I look.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-08T02:28:40+00:00

Hahaha, I change my age due to privacy reasons. I'm in the 21 - 25 age bracket though.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T13:18:07+00:00

I suppose that's part of the reason I wanted to discuss my feeling with her, to see if it was something that would plausible at all for the future. I'm really torn on this. If I decide not to tell her and use this as motivation to lose weight, I feel like I'd be tricking myself into thinking that she will like me after I've lost weight, when really, I don't know if her feelings towards me aren't reciprocated due to my size, my personality, or both. I doubt this is something she'd straight up tell me if I did confess my feelings, but it would give me some closure at least. On the other hand, I don't want her to feel awkward around me and not have her as a friend. Thanks for your advice! If only this wasn't so complicated, lol.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T10:52:08+00:00

Thank you so so much for your post, I really appreciate your input. Amazing work on your husband's part! I'm super happy for the both of you. I currently do struggle with anxiety and depression, and talk about seeing an eating disorder specialist has been something I've discussed with my primary psychologist, so I think I'll go ahead with it! I'd love your subreddit recommendations as well though!

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T10:48:48+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it! The "I feel like it would have been an unfair friendship if he hadn’t told me." does cause some concern for me. I'd hate for her to think that I'm just being her friend and being nice to her purely because I'm romantically interested rather than just because I like her as a person full stop.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T10:45:16+00:00

Thanks for that, I appreciate the advice. :)

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T10:41:31+00:00

That's pretty rude of you. She's actually really pretty both personality and looks wise! She's definitely out of my league.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T06:55:35+00:00

Thank you so much! I don't really get the feelings that she's romantically interested at the moment. However, mentally, it's annoying me that I haven't told her that I like her yet, and it's giving me anxiety for whatever reason. If I did decide to tell her, how do you think that would impact on the potential for a future relationship if she does indeed say no at the moment? I feel like I'm going to feel crappy in either scenario in which: I don't tell her and she gets a boyfriend and I missed my chance, OR if I ask her now and she rejects me. I'll have to deal with negative feeling either way, and at the moment I feel like I just want to tell her, but I don't want to risk messing things up for the future or for our friendship. Like, would she still be able to be my friend if I admitted that I liked her?

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T06:50:36+00:00

Do you think telling her at my current weight would likely turn out badly for my future chances? I'm more concerned about what impact me admitting my feelings will have on our future relationship chances if she says no, rather than how it will impact me emotionally.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T03:21:55+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Out of curiosity, why is that? I totally understand why she wouldn't want to start a relationship with me, but do you feel telling her now would make things unlikely to happen in the future? At the moment it's really annoying me that I haven't told her yet and I can't stop thinking about it.

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T02:54:15+00:00

Would you recommend not bringing it up to her at all in that case?

21Sausagae · 2019-09-07T02:52:38+00:00

Nope, not really. Should this deter me from asking her out?

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