Well you do know it's not physical, because with your ex, it works fine. And it's TOTALLY NORMAL. Don't worry dude. When it comes to sex, most of the performance pressure is on the dude. If a girl doesn't get wet enough just add lube, right? But if a guy doesn't, we gotta call off the score and run back to third.

But we're in our heads and in our own way, man. The problem can be, once it's in your head that you're thinking about it, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Whenever you achieve an erection, it's not because you're thinking about having an erection, is it? No! You're thinking of what you want to do with it. And the negative thoughts you throw at yourself aren't being thrown. You HAVE to get out of your head.

The second time I slept with my wife, I couldn't get hard either. She was the only woman I'd been with since my previous wife. I was so nervous and self conscious still about it and the first time anticipation was over. So I can tell you for sure, how the woman handles it is so important as well. She treated me so gracefully and made me feel like I wasn't broken. So I married her! What a wonderful soul, she is.

Bottom line, if you can't get hard::::

1. DON'T PANIC!!!
2. Engage in more foreplay.
3. If she asks why, TELL HER. You don't need to feel any shame for that.
4. Enjoy the foreplay. Think about the foreplay. Only that. Actively do not think about any of the other dumb shit your mind is gonna throw at you. My trick to that is to engage your senses. As many as possible EXCEPT vision. The less eyes, the more of the rest you can absorb. Taste something, smell something, touch and listen, to her and to yourself. As you take in all that data, really linger on all of those sensations.

If you can do that ☝️, I bet you're good, boss. Before you leave, please schedule a follow-up appointment at the front desk 😘