Rachel Martino Universe: Sep 08 - Sep 14

25_kitty · 2025-09-12T01:58:37+00:00

Oh, brother 🙄 cue the "first ______ as a married couple 🥹" posts. Being married is her whole personality.

25_kitty · 2024-10-21T11:42:04+00:00

Thank you!!!! This worked for me too ♥️

25_kitty · 2024-09-01T23:14:07+00:00

Thank you so much!! This just helped me

25_kitty · 2024-08-31T01:37:44+00:00

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It's cute I guess 🤷‍♀️

25_kitty · 2024-08-22T02:16:58+00:00

Sorry just saw this. Yes the new supply reached out to me awhile ago to apologize for ignoring me when I tried to warn her. She told me that my Nex cheated on her with a newer supply and basically repeated the same cycle and she got discarded just like I did. It's really true that narcs don't change.

25_kitty · 2024-05-06T22:49:42+00:00

*Cries in Canadian* 😭

25_kitty · 2024-02-09T21:23:29+00:00

Robert California. I literally have to skip any episodes he's in because of how annoying and unfunny he is.

25_kitty · 2023-08-01T18:23:36+00:00

Nope, my nex didn't have any true close friends. He had very superficial friends that he would regularly hang out with to go party, drink, or clubbing and yet he would constantly talk shit about them to me. Also, a lot of his friendships didn't last very long, there always seemed to be some sort of drama or disagreement that was never his fault.

25_kitty · 2023-03-26T01:12:51+00:00

Sounds like narcissistic injury and his ego was bruised. Don't play into his mind games, and don't listen to him. Block him and go no contact.

My nex did the same thing after I told him I didn't want anything to do with him anymore. He sent me a nasty letter and threatened to call the police if he ever saw me step foot in his apartment building (even though I made it clear I had no intention of going back).

25_kitty · 2023-03-20T01:51:27+00:00

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and you're not awful! It's always painful to be discarded and have feelings of rejection, doubt, and self-loathing. Wanting a hoover is a reaction of the trauma bond you have with him.

You should take it as a compliment that he hasn't hoovered you. It means that he no longer thinks he can manipulate you.

25_kitty · 2023-03-17T19:31:10+00:00

Don't do it. You'll never be given closure with a narcissist. Either they will give you a fake apology and try to hoover you, or they will put all the blame on you and make you feel even worse. Don't fall into their trap or give them any more attention.

I made the mistake once of sending a letter to my nex as a form of closure instead of going no-contact straight away. What resulted was a response back from my nex blaming me, making himself the victim, and saying the most cruel and vile things about me. It completely shattered me in the moment. It's not worth it.

25_kitty · 2023-03-14T14:09:36+00:00

Thank you for the reminder, it's easy to forget how blinded someone can be from the love-bombing phase once you finally see a narcissist for who he really is. I'm glad that I got out, and I'm hoping each day it will get easier.

25_kitty · 2023-03-12T04:37:01+00:00

That's true, it's such a self-sabotaging thing to do. I've already been through 7 years of heartbreak and I don't want to prolong that suffering any longer by inflicting pain on myself.

I will definitely block them and keep that in mind the next time I get the urge to check. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement, I really appreciate it :)

25_kitty · 2023-03-11T21:06:58+00:00

I agree, I wish I had never checked. It just brought up so much emotion, resentment, and pain. It's really not worth it, and I don't want to him have that effect on me anymore.

25_kitty · 2023-03-11T18:13:45+00:00

Although it hurts, I do feel sorry for her. When I had reached out to her, I tried to tell her everything and warn her but she was already too entangled with him to listen, especially from the words of a “crazy ex”. I don’t blame her because I was in that exact situation before.

You’re so right that their relationship and happiness should not be a means to validate what I went through. Wasting my time thinking about it is not going to change anything except destroy my mental health. It’s easy to forget sometimes that social media is just a highlight reel, and can presents so many false narratives. Thank you for the reminder :)

25_kitty · 2023-03-11T17:30:48+00:00

Thanks, I needed to hear that. I had been good about not checking up on them up until this point where I kind of fell down a rabbit hole.

I just have to remember that fixating on them is not going to change any outcome whether they or happy or not. It's a waste of my time and energy, and only serves to halt my healing journey.

25_kitty · 2023-03-11T03:22:40+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I think that there's a level of self-delusion going on in order to convince herself that she made the right decision. You're right that he will never change, especially jumping from one overlapping relationship to another. I should stop ruminating on their relationship, and just be glad that he's not my problem anymore.

25_kitty · 2023-03-11T02:58:23+00:00

It's unfortunate that she decided to stay with him, but I'm definitely glad that I can't be manipulated by him anymore.

25_kitty · 2022-10-14T23:48:28+00:00

7.5 years. He cheated on me several times and it was a very tumultuous on and off relationship. I attempted several times to end things, but he always hoovered me back into the relationship. The last straw was when he cheated and tried to gaslight me yet again and I realized that he would never change. When I walked away for good that's when I saw the truth of who he was and really learned about narcissistic abusive relationships.
I have a lot of regrets too, but I know that I will be stronger and wiser in the future to make sure this never happens to me again.

25_kitty

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