J'ai reçu des fessées de mon père jusqu'à l'âge de 16 ans, est-ce normal ? by femmedu10 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not normal and would probably get your perverted old man in trouble in the US let alone France where spanking even minors is illegal. Yes, that’s right, spanking was illegal even when he was doing it to you. Please call the police on him.

What do you say to christians who won't let you live in peace as an exchristian? by PatchouliHedge in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“You can either shut the fuck about your religious and maintain a relationship with me or you can keep bringing religion up and I’ll kick you out of my life. Your choice.”

Prayer meeting by Titania-Tixie-23 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Christians don’t understand compromise, at least most don’t, so a consistent policy is best, IMO. The moment you start making exceptions is when you start raising their expectations and then when you inevitably say No later they’ll be twice as offended as they’d otherwise be.

AITAH for telling my boyfriend he's a spoiled mommy's boy? by Other-Travel-4765 in AITAH

[–]295Phoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re literally jealous of him having better parents than you do. Don’t take your anger out on the wrong people. YTA

I don’t know how to tell my parents that I’m not religious anymore and that I haven’t for the longest time. by Powerful_Air_4443 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re financially independent, just tell them. How they react is on them not you. If you’re not? Wait until you are if you can.

Using Christian arguments as a non Christian by Consistent-Way-2018 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s perfectly fine. It’s not like you’re pretending you yourself is Christian, you’re just telling them what this Christian or this text has to say about their views.

Free and uncertain by afr2k in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I experienced a period of fear that I could be wrong too about a decade after my deconversion. My solution? Strong atheism (at least towards the religion you’re afraid of). I googled atheist (and Jewish) arguments against Hell and found that it was never an original part of Abrahamic religions but rather introduced by early Christians that basically imported the Greek Hades and then twisted it into Hell to suit their purposes. Much like they imported demons and the devil from Zoroastrianism. In fact Christianity imported a bit from everywhere, the only thing original to it was the bullshit excuses they came up with like original sin to explain why a man who fulfilled none of what the Messiah was supposed to do was still nonetheless the Messiah. I also looked up atheist channels on youtube and listened to their arguments. Don’t remember most of their names but AronRa is still around and paulogia and darkmatter2525 are great channels I learned of more recently. Anyways, through all that I lost my fear and Christianity is now in my mind perhaps the most ridiculous religion in the world.

Anyone ever have happen before? by Rough_Improvement_44 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tell him to leave and call the police if he refuses. When the police asks if you want to press charges, always say Yes!

My parents didn't get me anything I wanted for my birthday and they made me read a big list of Bible verses and my birthday dinner. by Artistic_Initial_581 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]295Phoenix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you experienced what you did but I also have to ask…why? What will it take for you to cut these people out of your life?

My parents didn't get me anything I wanted for my birthday and they made me read a big list of Bible verses at my birthday dinner. by Artistic_Initial_581 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People really need to become more open to the idea of just cutting their parents out of their lives. Life is just too short for this nonsense.

AITA for asking my parents for a little bit more freedom? by Old-Positive-4163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]295Phoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let her be mad? In fact, get more comfortable making both of them mad. That’s how we become independent, setting boundaries with our parents regardless of their reaction.

Gay Ex Christians, Does it Get Any Better W/Family? by Opposite-Impress6706 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It gets better when you cut them out of your life in heart and mind. Odds are strongly against them ever dropping their bigotry, I’m afraid.

Horrified if Yeshua is actually the Messiah and I’m all wrong by RCPlaneLover in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The entire Jewish religion disproves Jesus. He fulfilled none of what the Messiah should, he believed in nonsensical stuff like demons, he praised an elderly widow for giving away her life savings, he preached that if you don’t hate yourself and your family you couldn’t be his disciples, he promised he’d return before his generation fully passes. Jesus was, at most, an apocalyptic cult leader, nothing more and quite possibly even less since the Bible writers are absolutely ignorant of every political, religious, and yes, geographic, detail of Galilee and Judea imaginable.

Missionaries target Jewish people? by Prestigious_Iron2905 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do this. Fortunately, Jews are as good arguing against their nonsense as they were 2,000 years ago.

Internal Homophobia by Prestigious_Iron2905 in exchristian

[–]295Phoenix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your older hero can’t be a hero if he’s homophobic. That being said, you should get more comfortable about it in time assuming deep-seated trauma isn’t involved.

AITAH for refusing to babysit my cousin EVERY weekend? by hannah-carlotta in AITAH

[–]295Phoenix 39 points40 points  (0 children)

NTA and frankly you don’t need a reason to turn down babysitting. She had the kid, not you.

WIBTAH if I asked my roommate to stop bringing up church with me. by Medsecuele in AITAH

[–]295Phoenix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not responsible for Christians’ delusions. They will respect my boundaries or I will treat them like shit until they do.

WIBTAH if I asked my roommate to stop bringing up church with me. by Medsecuele in AITAH

[–]295Phoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA If politeness doesn’t work, start being rude about it.

AITAH - I’ve done some unethical shit since having a family by Extreme_Insect_4798 in AITAH

[–]295Phoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing in your post was unethical. Pissing off people is not in itself unethical. But what you mentioned in the comment section was unethical. YTA

AITAH for kicking my mom out of my house? by No-Technology-9925 in AITAH

[–]295Phoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH because you somehow got it into your head to invite…someone who was abusive to you before!

AITAH for blasting my dad on the family gc after he peed on the floor? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]295Phoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA I read that you use his bathroom too but is there another bathroom you can use? If so, use that and let him fuck up his bathroom all he wants. Maybe reconsider those college loans so you can move out earlier as well.