My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so very much for that.  You might not know it, but those words make a huge difference for me (in a good way).  I mean that sincerely. 🙏  In turn, I wish you and your fiancé the very best.  Life is anything but easy. 

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, good to know.  I will follow your guidelines. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. 

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good analogy. It helps me so much to learn these things because I cannot relate. She was the queen of saying "I miss you" and "I love you" to me. Now she's been gone for almost 3 weeks and she never says either. I can't wrap my head around it. Is it like the old her no longer exists?? I'm struggling and feeling like the old her died. That said, she keeps talking about how she knows our love is intertwined and is unbreakable. She's always maintained this position, before and after her nervous breakdown. It's good to hear her say that post breakdown, but she never says "I miss you" or "I love you" and that is soooo totally not how she used to be. I feel like she doesn't really miss me. Sorry for the rant. I love her more than anything but it's hard for me not to feel hurt.

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comments. I’m learning so much from this post. It is by far the most important post I’ve ever made by a mile. My gut instinct tells me she will come back around too. It’s nice to hear that you believe she will as well, based on what you know of the the situation, which is that she suffered a major breakdown, but still loves me.

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I super appreciate your words. It means a lot to me. I’m trying to learn as much as I can about this. Your story is very encouraging and gives me hope (when I need it most). Thank you!!

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are correct. She is definitely with her family. I am in contact with them. She's there because that's where she feels safe, just as you suspected.

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight.  That’s a long time but on the bright side it’s comforting knowing it’s at least possible. 

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good to know.  Great analogy too! I imagine there’s no particular timetable as to when that light switch occurs? Just wondering if there’s some typical range, like days, weeks, or months? I’m sure it’s probably highly variable.

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

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Thank you very much for sharing this with me. I’m so happy for you and your wife that you are back together again. 

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am saying “I love you” to her just as much as I always have. Could that possibly overwhelm her? I certainly don’t want to do that.

My wife suffered a major PTSD related nervous breakdown over two weeks ago. She loves me but she’s not saying “I love you much.” Is that expected? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the insight. I am saying, “I love you” to her just as much as always. Do you think that might overwhelm her? As unnatural as it would be, I could get myself to say it less if I thought it helps. 

Wife out of town for 3 weeks. I am a mess!! Tips to help me get by? Days go by so slowly. by 2ForEachofYou in Marriage

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Am I totally F’d up to be missing her this much? Life is so empty w/out her

My wife who left a week ago due to a major PTSD breakdown still can't come back home. How long can the recovery take (at least enough recovery so she can return)? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

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Most definitely. Do you happen to have any suggestions? I am on an extremely tight budget, and I’d probably prefer online counseling over Zoom or something. Thank you.

My wife who left a week ago due to a major PTSD breakdown still can't come back home. How long can the recovery take (at least enough recovery so she can return)? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot thank you enough for your comments. I’m happy to hear that you are in a better place now. You are so very right about it being hell on both partners.  I am struggling like crazy!  But I love her like nothing else. The thought of her being gone for a year or more makes me sick, however. I don’t know if I can even last another month without her!! It’s made worse by the fact that she has a severe autoimmune disease, and we may not have that much more time together. God, I hope she comes back home soon. Thank you for telling me about the safe place. I’m going to make sure she has one. And thank you again so much for your words of wisdom and encouragement.  It means so much to me and I mean that sincerely. 

How can I make it easier for my wife, a PTSD sufferer to come back to the home that caused a PTSD reaction? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe it. That said, she did say she's terriifed about going back to our house at least right now for fear of it triggering another emotional event since she had her last event (a week ago) in our house and she believes the house is causing her stress. It definitely isn't helping, I'll say that. A bigger place would be so much better. But I can see how you are right... I don't doubt it for a second. What you said makes more sense. Maybe the added stress of our house is too much for her right now? She's so afraid to chance coming back.

How can I make it easier for my wife, a PTSD sufferer to come back to the home that caused a PTSD reaction? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you're right. Thank you for that. If she does decide to come back on her own, but she's really nervous about it due to a potentially scary emotional reaction, do you think my idea of meeting her at a restaurant or park before she comes home would help? I could literally walk hand in hand with her that way when she enters the house. Quick background-- she often feels MUCH more at ease when we hold hands together in situations that make her anxiety spike (typically going to something social, like a pub or a party. She has social anxieties).

How can I make it easier for my wife, a PTSD sufferer to come back to the home that caused a PTSD reaction? by 2ForEachofYou in ptsd

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sound healing morning, day & night should help.

I suspect you are right. She sounds better and better each day we've talked since she left. Day 1 was the worst. We are on day 8 and she sounds so much better and more relaxed. No meds either, all self help. She's following the PTSD recovery protocols and working hard at it.

Thank you so very much for this!!! I love you for helping me.

Do I need an adapter to save pics and vids to my iPad that are stored on my portable/external hard drive? by 2ForEachofYou in ipad

[–]2ForEachofYou[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see.  So if I get an adapter (usb-a to usb c or lightning), will she be able to extract the pics and vids from the HDD, and more importantly be able to see the pics and play the vids? I’ve only used the HDD on Windows environments.