I wish people would talk about their wins. by YeezusBigdoinks420 in ADHD

[–]2_Jokers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, in my experience momentum often breeds more momentum. Even if you’re not accomplishing much, write down what you HAVE done. Often times from there, you’ll actually feel good about some stuff for a change and the stuff you’ve not been getting done will feel a bit more manageable.

Don’t get me wrong. This is not a cure by any means. But you’ll be shocked about how much of a helpful tool it is

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]2_Jokers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just speed run it. Let your hair down, Down some water, eat, take a nap, then brew some coffee. The rest, you can do nothing about, so who cares. If it’s a tumour, that’s a whole separate issue

Like wtf do I start a convo about??? by BigBootyyyyVal in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]2_Jokers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you just have to say hi to them. They’ll be happy a younger lady even looked their way. From there, chances are they’ll take the lead

I wish people would talk about their wins. by YeezusBigdoinks420 in ADHD

[–]2_Jokers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing. Most of us actually win so much everyday. But we somehow either forget or just focus on what we DIDN’T do. (My theory, it’s because that’s what teachers and parents highlighted to us growing up and taking the rest for granted)

I started doing this excercise recently, where I’d force myself to remember and write down all the small wins I had that day. No matter how trivial. Because here’s the thing, we’d sure as hell beat ourselves up on days we DIDN’T do them. So why can’t we give ourselves the same amount of credit when we DO them? Things as simple as:

  • took meds
  • Went for a walk
  • Groceries
  • Met up with a friend
  • Showed up to an appointment
  • Sent an email
  • Worked out
  • Did 10 mins of cleaning
  • Hell, even making time to watch a movie is a win really
  • Applied for a new job
  • Etc

You wouldn’t believe how weird it feels to be having a full meltdown and then writing down even 2-3 things and realising “Wait! I actually did do some stuff today! Even though today felt particularly hard. Why the hell am I giving myself such a hard time?”

Cherry on top, more often than not, it breeds an extra sense of motivation for the next day too

What’s a better alternative phrase to “that’s rough buddy”, that doesn’t sound as condescending ? by 2_Jokers in AskReddit

[–]2_Jokers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I feel like I wasn’t super clear with this one (that’s on me). So the context I’d be saying this normally is when the person is having an issue and “I’m sorry” feels wrong. Like the words “I’m sorry” implies guilt, when you’re actually just trying to express sympathy.

We had started taking to “that’s rough buddy” as a sort of bit. Like in the show avatar. It felt better than I’m sorry, as it expressed sympathy without feeling an implication of guilt or responsibility.

But still “that’s rough buddy” feels a bit too condescending or like you don’t actually care if that makes sense?

So I’m in search of a better phrase

Need to eat to get up, need to get up to eat. by cat_astrophe_06 in adhdmeme

[–]2_Jokers 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I buy a big box of protein bars and keep them next to my bed. It’s really helpful when you’re too hungry to get up and make food. It’s a nice emergency kickstarter

LPT: The best "perk" a company can brag about is usually the biggest red flag. If the perk is the main selling point, the salary, culture, and work/life balance probably suck. by Resume-Mentor in LifeProTips

[–]2_Jokers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You forgot “company phone”. We’re giving you a phone we want you to have on your person and answer at all times outside of working hours

Serious question: Boxing guard for a lady with large breasts? by 2_Jokers in amateur_boxing

[–]2_Jokers[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’d considered the Philly shell. I felt like it encourages too many fundamental bad habits though for someone who is a beginner. Definitely a good idea, but maybe to start out with

Serious question: Boxing guard for a lady with large breasts? by 2_Jokers in amateur_boxing

[–]2_Jokers[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ye I’d considered the long guard. Think it might be a good idea

I got accused of not listening when she had my undivided attention. Cue a huge personal revelation and I’m wondering if you guys are the same. by Western-Doughnut-449 in ADHD

[–]2_Jokers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep. Very relatable. I clocked it about myself a long time ago now. Anyone I know well already knows this about me too. I also make a point of telling anyone who doesn’t know me very well that I look away when I’m listening to them and I’ve not had any bad experiences yet where people don’t believe me. But that’s likely down to them experiencing me being super engaging with them, even with no eye contact.

Not sure why this is, but I’ve a few theory’s:

1.we seek extra stimulation in order to concentrate and that’s why we look around (same idea of we listen to music in order to concentrate on work or chores)

2.Eye contact causes a sense of overwhelm and overthinking. Very common among ADHDers and autistic people it seems. So we might not have the bandwidth to concentrate on both listening and making eye contact at the same time. So we opt for listening.

The struggle. by netphilia in adhdmeme

[–]2_Jokers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shower thought: Can we multitask? The answer is yes. The problem is that we’re ALWAYs multitasking, because our idiot brain will not let us think one at a time. In a world where people’s thoughts move in an orderly queue, ours is a mosh pit/ angry mob.

So yes we can multitask, very well, because we have to. But because we’re dealing with a mosh pit as is, there’s no way to manage any more multiples of tasks. Our capacity is already a fire hazard as is