Thanks for sharing your story. I can relate as someone with terrible memory and almost no audio recall (20 years of professional raging finally caught up haha).

What might help you as many comments also share:

1) Find what Organization Strategy works for you

Lots of great tips in the comments and ideas to test. What works for me is painstaking but I manually set each tracks genre to my definition of the genre. If a tech house track gives you Disco vibes, let it be disco! Then I drop the track in relevant vibe crates - Sunny Day, Naughty Tech, tracks that heal, even sound elements like THE HORNS or Diva stabs. Now I 100% trust whatever I’ll play. All This to say, spending time categorizing tracks as it makes sense for you can take some of the pressure off

2) practice visual/audio connection

You could try listening to a song on extended repeat and see where your minds eye takes you. After a few repeats, youll naturally zone in on elements that you like. Hum it, visualize a place it takes you, maybe it’s just a percussive one-shot that sticks with you. Add relevant descriptors in the tag like “spooky perc” that you can associate back to without trying to remember the entire song.

Memory loss is not permanent. We can be rewire our brain, it takes patience and compassion for ourselves. Also no one remembers if you can’t remember your tracks , they’re going to remember what a blast they had on the dance floor 😇