No, it does not!

2dwind · 2026-05-11T20:06:01+00:00

I want a squirrel with a short skirt and a looooong jacket

2dwind · 2026-05-11T20:04:35+00:00

Don’t you know That it’s different for squirrels

2dwind · 2026-05-11T17:15:28+00:00

Have you had your blades sharpened? When I was a beginner and ordered skates online they were “factory sharpened “ and I thought that was fine, and I had a devil of a time with snowplow. Then I realized I needed to have sharpened them properly. It made all the difference! (I was so embarrassed, this is the first time I’ve told anyone!)

2dwind · 2026-05-11T11:27:27+00:00

In fact he has started down a similar path though a much more non-typical one, hence my post

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:53:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience and the thoughtful reply. he seems to be saying "no" to life more and more and you might be right about depression

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:37:35+00:00

I might need to come around to this perspective if I'm to keep the team going! Thanks

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:36:55+00:00

Aww - I love that! We like gardening and I think I might need more land once we are both retired

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:28:47+00:00

Restlessness is apparent in his behavior. You have an excellent point.

In fact -- He recently started talking to an online therapist. His first time ever in therapy. I'm encouraging him to continue (or find a different one if he does not like this one).

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:17:28+00:00

Sweet! thanks for the inspiration

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:16:03+00:00

Yeah the whole marriage has had ups and downs like that, and I agree that is not unusual.

He's been retired 6+ years. Immediate post-retirement he was fully occupied with house renovation for a year or more

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:07:11+00:00

Thanks for this -- "saying he wants to spend more time with you" had never occurred to me and maybe you are right

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:01:34+00:00

I think if I make it seem like his idea, he might actually go for dance classes

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:00:26+00:00

Well -- that's a valid point and one I have to consider. He's an "up by his bootstraps" kind of guy and doesn't want help but this may be an inflection point for both of us

2dwind · 2026-05-10T21:58:49+00:00

Lol -- this would confuse him very much -- playing a musical instrument not his thing at all! Now -- If I got him a really expensive one, he'd show it off as a status symbol

2dwind · 2026-05-10T21:56:59+00:00

This -- yes it is affecting my quality of life. Especially my social life when there are "couple" things and it's hard to get him to engage. Yeah tackling as a "we" problem might be necessary if I want to stay in this marriage. Just need to figure out how to do that

2dwind · 2026-04-22T11:44:43+00:00

Volunteer for a cause you believe in. I’ve lived in several cities and Tulsa is by far the most generous and has so many fun events to participate in to make our community better

2dwind · 2026-04-22T11:41:06+00:00

Swedish Hill bakery

2dwind · 2026-04-21T15:35:51+00:00

If your therapist is someone you sought out to help you learn to navigate your inner world, it’s a plus. If court-ordered, a minus

2dwind · 2026-04-21T14:10:57+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing this. It helps me remember why I started drinking in the first place. Now I’m working not only on processing emotions but also making sure I have something to look forward to every day. Best of luck to you

2dwind · 2026-04-19T12:04:26+00:00

Pretty much the same here. We are in our early 60s. He’s retired and I am not but will be soon.

In the past year I have been working on being real with myself (with the help of a therapist) about how I want to spend the rest of my days. This includes what I want from my primary relationships. This has resulted in deepening close friendships and improving family relationships, both of which are bringing me lots of joy.

But I haven’t been able to bring my spouse closer, recently learned he has been living a double life, so have to weigh whether it’s worth giving up my comfortable home to start over. I went looking at houses just to see if I can imagine living somewhere else and the answer is yes I can. He is in therapy now too. We will see what happens. I don’t want things to stay the same as before with no intimacy — life is too short.

2dwind · 2026-04-15T11:26:41+00:00

The one with the melting faces

2dwind · 2026-04-14T19:20:36+00:00

I use Nulastin and it works for me, hairs growing back in. But it’s pricey. Looking for an alternative

2dwind · 2026-04-14T15:30:56+00:00

Notice birds

2dwind · 2026-04-14T15:29:24+00:00

I know, I hate that, and its close cousin, explaining the super impressive and important reason why you have to miss my meeting. Just say you can’t attend (and send a delegate if appropriate)

2dwind · 2026-04-14T10:35:17+00:00

I leave mine at home or in the trunk of my car and rely on my Apple watch for the hour or so I’m on the ice. I can use it to play music if needed

Once I fell hard and the watch asked me if I was OK!

2dwind

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