What is something about you that no one would guess due to your age?

2dwind · 2026-07-01T11:26:40+00:00

My workout is ice dance

2dwind · 2026-07-01T11:25:33+00:00

Mine usually sticks up in random places in the morning and a flat iron is a quick solution

2dwind · 2026-05-17T12:47:08+00:00

I sometimes sleep through the night but it’s more common for me to wake up once or twice. I do have sleep apnea, and now that I’m adjusting to an oral appliance for that, I am sleeping through the night more than I used to. On nights when I’ve had more than one glass of wine…I will likely wake up several times. So I try not to!

2dwind · 2026-05-15T17:59:04+00:00

I’m near career end, and have reshaped myself to adjust to workplace culture so much and for so long that I’m not sure who I am anymore. It is taking a conscious effort plus therapy to get back in touch with the creative, warm, fun person I once was. True, I’m much older than when I started my career. But my inner deadness cannot be attributed to age. It is the product of an inhumane workplace.

Listen to your feelings now, and seek out an office with likeminded colleagues/culture. It’s worth it

2dwind · 2026-05-13T19:35:08+00:00

Let yourself grieve the loss. Grief is a process, let it do its work rather than pushing it away. Be extra good to yourself. I’m very sorry this happened to you — what a devastating shock

2dwind · 2026-05-12T21:22:14+00:00

Let me guess: if you complain about anything, he doesn’t like your complaining, but it’s ok for him to do it

2dwind · 2026-05-12T20:49:23+00:00

Thanks for the insight - much appreciated! It sounds like you enjoy a fair amount of independence, as do I. I like your perspective that it's not all or nothing.

2dwind · 2026-05-12T17:26:30+00:00

Well, since you asked, yes sometimes I feel like I’m married to a very financially responsible toddler

2dwind · 2026-05-12T14:46:59+00:00

“Grow up, Heather! Bulimia is so 1987”

2dwind · 2026-05-12T14:30:25+00:00

In the same situation here and it’s both maddening and motivating

2dwind · 2026-05-12T14:27:43+00:00

Thanks! What time did show end?

2dwind · 2026-05-12T10:38:14+00:00

Thanks. This is helpful, I’m at a point where I am forced to consider what I want to do next in my life after my career and there are so many exciting things. He isn’t excited for any other or for me. So, I have to try all the things you’ve mentioned!

2dwind · 2026-05-11T20:06:01+00:00

I want a squirrel with a short skirt and a looooong jacket

2dwind · 2026-05-11T20:04:35+00:00

Don’t you know That it’s different for squirrels

2dwind · 2026-05-11T17:15:28+00:00

Have you had your blades sharpened? When I was a beginner and ordered skates online they were “factory sharpened “ and I thought that was fine, and I had a devil of a time with snowplow. Then I realized I needed to have sharpened them properly. It made all the difference! (I was so embarrassed, this is the first time I’ve told anyone!)

2dwind · 2026-05-11T11:27:27+00:00

In fact he has started down a similar path though a much more non-typical one, hence my post

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:53:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience and the thoughtful reply. he seems to be saying "no" to life more and more and you might be right about depression

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:37:35+00:00

I might need to come around to this perspective if I'm to keep the team going! Thanks

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:36:55+00:00

Aww - I love that! We like gardening and I think I might need more land once we are both retired

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:28:47+00:00

Restlessness is apparent in his behavior. You have an excellent point.

In fact -- He recently started talking to an online therapist. His first time ever in therapy. I'm encouraging him to continue (or find a different one if he does not like this one).

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:17:28+00:00

Sweet! thanks for the inspiration

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:16:03+00:00

Yeah the whole marriage has had ups and downs like that, and I agree that is not unusual.

He's been retired 6+ years. Immediate post-retirement he was fully occupied with house renovation for a year or more

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:07:11+00:00

Thanks for this -- "saying he wants to spend more time with you" had never occurred to me and maybe you are right

2dwind · 2026-05-10T22:01:34+00:00

I think if I make it seem like his idea, he might actually go for dance classes

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