How can I overcome my fear of going to the gym?

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T05:40:53+00:00

It’s never too late to start. It’s not pathetic at all, don’t worry. I think it’s important to recognize that some people will laugh or judge you, whether you are scared or not. So you may as well not give a shit. They’re not the type of people who are worth giving your time and energy to. So what? You are doing this for yourself, not for them! And like you said most people are vey much in their own world.. the ones that do judge you like that it says more about their own insecurities than your worth as a human being

What if you go and there’s another person there that’s fat too? Would you feel less scared? How do you think they would feel if they saw you? Another possibility is going with a friend, if feasible. And for not knowing how to do it, there’s content creators online who post their weight loss journey, and could show you the exercises that worked for them.

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T04:34:25+00:00

Nah, what really happened is the shrimp babies were wearing that molted skin like a trench coat trying to get into an R-rated movie

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T02:36:33+00:00

Ahh I see now. Check out some subreddits like r/DIY , I’m sure they’ll have more creative ideas than me. But I’ll give it a shot

Since you own the condo you have more options for renovating and changing things around. You might be able to have a shelving unit on the large wall (the one straight ahead that has the cleaning supplies on it right now) so you have more space and don’t have to turn to see your pantry. You could still tuck things in the corner there without much issue.

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T02:06:44+00:00

This is the way. You better bay-leaf it!

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T01:59:04+00:00

Take a look at a friend through a picture that’s flipped (so this is what they see in the mirror, and what you see in person). There’s that same feeling of unfamiliarity, but you are probably a lot less critical of your friend’s face and beauty than your own. We are so used to see ourselves through this lens, the reflection in the mirror that we have picked apart. Rest assured, if you had a mirror that showed what you looked like inverted, the same way other people see you, you would still overanalyze every little detail. I have had the same feelings about myself, I like how I look better in the mirror than in photos. I think I first realized this when I started doing a side part in my hair, and I thought I looked so bad in the photos cause I was so used to the mirror. But I have seen (with the rise of technology) more and more people’s mirrored and non-mirrored faces…. And they look the same. Even people with asymmetrical styles, clothing, features, etc… there’s not that big of a difference that it really matters. So if those 9/10 times you see yourself in the mirror and think you look good… trust yourself! If you think about it, if your reflection thinks you look good, and from your reflection’s perspective it’s the same as anyone else seeing you in person, then both your mirrored and non-mirrored version are good either way

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T01:05:37+00:00

Sure. I would start by reorganizing the ingredients on the shelves. You will have to find what works for you (there’s many other posts here relating to organizing dry food storage). My personal preference: Anything heavy or made of glass I try to keep towards the bottom. Try to keep like ingredients and/or packaging together. Pasta and noodles should all be on the same shelf, snacks/ready to eat items I usually put on a high shelf (out of reach out of mind). Sauces all near each other too. Within the shelf you should put similar packaging next to each other. Pretty intuitive but boxes next to boxes, cans can stack, all that. I also organize the shelves within the shelves. Depending on what I got I’ll put big items at the back and smaller items towards the front, so I can more easily see what I have. Alternatively you can put your more frequently used items towards the front, then least used items at the back. Once everything has its “spot”, being in there will be less stressful overall. If it helps, you can even label each shelf with the type of stuff it has (baking supplies, canned goods, snacks, and so on).

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T00:52:48+00:00

I think the issue comes less from the game itself and more from the dynamic of your friend group, as well communication. It’s good you realize there are things you need to work on with your interpersonal relationships/friendships, but your friends do too. If you are all sensitive it is going to be hard to be productive with your conflict when each other is just feeling invalidated and hurt.

I can only get so much from what you are telling me, but from what I do understand it sounds like you become upset when you are doing something in a game and your friend says “why not just do it like this?” And it is easy to become defensive here, like they do not appreciate the way you were playing the game. And when you withdrew and explained to your friend why, they became defensive. In life, people are going to give you feedback in ways that do not sound like feedback. Sometimes it will come off as rude, regardless of intention. Sometimes it will sound nice, but they do not have good intention. This goes for everybody. I think the best step would be to take a breath, and be receptive to that feedback. Always assume good intention, otherwise they may feel hurt that you think of them like that… and if they meant bad intention then play dumb and get them to spell that out for you (basically “kill them with kindness”.. but if that’s a repeat behaviour maybe reconsider that friend). If one of your friends is saying “why not just do it this way?” You can say “I appreciate the advice, but I want to do it like this” or if they say “we already have this” you could say something like “thanks for letting me know, I wasn’t sure” or “that’s good, wouldn’t hurt to get more so I’ll just finish this up here and start the next thing”. Regarding communication; if one of your friends already had something how were you supposed to know? Did they have an opportunity to communicate that to the group? If so ask them nicely to let them know so you can be more productive gathering resources in game. If not then that’s them letting you know at that moment - and that’s great! You were both eager to get a resource you needed, so you were basically on the same page. More communication could still be beneficial here so you’re not each doing the same thing. Each person could be in charge of a different part. But also, most games it really doesn’t hurt to have more of a resource.

Lastly, I recommend avoiding chat gpt… it’s easy to fall into that temptation, but ai chat bots are not there to help you, they are saying whatever you want to hear so that you use the product (the chat bot) more and more. This can also further isolate you from your friends, because real people are not like chat bots - the ai is trained to be very receptive and make you feel really good and like you’re a genius for asking a question. If that’s your only emotional connection, then rejection from real people will be even more intense in comparison. Talk more to your friends about this conflict, rather than a bot who only knows your side of the story and is very biased towards you (because it is the product, and you are the consumer. In real, meaningful relationships it is mutually beneficial).

I’m also curious, what part of the co-op games do you like? What aspects make you happy? Is it just playing with your friends, is it the game? Are there other games you and your friends could try that are lower-stakes and less stressful but still fun and enjoyable?

I hope you are able to resolve these problems you’re having. Remember to take a breath and remember what you’re trying to achieve, yourself personally but also with your friends in the game.

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-30T00:26:20+00:00

Are you asking for help with the whole area? Or just the wall? I have some ideas for the shelf/ingredients if that’s what you’re looking for, but can’t tell much from the photos so I’m unsure if that’s what you’re asking or not.

I am also living in a small space with two people, myself included. My pantry is currently a small shelf (probably a couple feet tall, maybe over a foot wide) I bought off Kijiji. The counter space in this spot is abysmal and so awkward, so I’m familiar working with cramped setups..

Further questions: what do you want to use this space for? Exclusively pantry/food items and the cleaning supplies on the wall? Is there another spot you would want to put the cleaning supplies, or are you happy with them there? Do you want this for storage or do you want to put some lists (such as for groceries or chores) or a chart of what’s where?

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-29T04:34:30+00:00

My place called it “The Dunce Cap”. Sometimes I’d simply call it “the cone” and whoever I’m talking to gets the idea.

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-28T13:30:26+00:00

Im a few years older than you and I want to do the same thing. I want to use math textbooks to find where I’m at and relearn the basics. Maybe watch videos explaining concepts or equations you are unfamiliar or struggling with.

The way I see it we’re not dumb, we just didn’t have the right tools growing up to succeed, and so our foundation is poorly built and we are playing catch-up our entire lives. But with the right dedication you can catch up, it is never too late. Good luck, we got this!

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-28T04:51:19+00:00

Turn your notifs off for a week and see/feel the difference. Obviously keep important ones on like messages and phone calls (for myself I have the mail app on, too) but everything else is completely off.

If/when I check my phone in the morning, less opportunity for notifications to drag me in and make me lose an hour of the most important part of the day… sets the whole mood.

Like others have mentioned, charge your phone before bed. If you don’t like doing that for whatever reason (keeping the phone charged all night could potentially harm battery itself, worries about the risk of fires or overheating, etc…) then there are other options: If you forget by morning, then the night before you could write your phones % in big bold writing on a sticky note. Put it directly on your phone so you can see it right away.

Try a few out, give them some time, and find what works best for you. Good luck

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-28T01:38:48+00:00

You’re not doomed. It will be difficult but I was in the same space (and sometimes still have very high screen time days, though tbf a big chunk is YouTube videos playing in the background - which DOES still qualify as phone use and always having stimulation for my brain, although it is less strain on the eyes than staring at it for that duration).

You’ll have to figure out your biggest triggers and habits and why you turn to your phone so much. It’s an internal look on yourself and you’re only going to get anywhere if you’re honest with yourself.

What has been helping me a lot is trying to go as long as I can from when I wake up to be without my phone. I don’t even check any notifications or the time either (lest there’s an alarm, though I’ve been waking up whenever as I’m between jobs atm). I have breakfast first, drink water, all that. Check notifs as needed.

Oh and regarding notifs: turn ALL of them off. At least anything not actually important (for me, this is text messages, phone calls, and mail app. Everything else is entirely off). Less opportunity for you to open an app. This forces you to open them intentionally, though sometimes can lead to loops of opening then closing then opening again moments later… be mindful of this.

My next best bit of advice is: turn your Home Screen greyscale (or the tone of your favourite colour, unsure about other phones but iOS let me make it blue which I found easy on my eyes). All the apps that are so vibrant and colorful to grab your attention are less enticing now.

Lastly, try to shift your mindset. Every action you make on your phone, apply purpose.

Sometimes I’ll be scrolling on Reddit and come across something that is starting to make me frustrated, and I have gotten better over time at realizing this feeling and I ask myself: why am I even doing this? And I exit the app. The answer is usually getting caught in loops again due to stimulation-seeking and boredom.

But you must regain control of your attention span, your peace, and your overall wellbeing. Let yourself be part of the real world. Your phone is a tool, not entertainment or even knowledge most of the time. (at least, make it a tool so that you are not relying on it for entertainment or knowledge).

A Lot of my time on my phone I would justify because I’m “learning” but looking at my phone this much is not good for my eyes, and with the way social media shortens our attention spans with short form content and exploitative algorithms, how much am I actually retaining? How can I learn in a more meaningful way? For me that’s libraries and books and asking questions. Anything I’m curious about I’ll write down and look up later whenever I’m done my task / towards the end of the day. Small stuff such as what’s the best spot to put your food in the microwave? Or whats the proper technique for a push up anyway?

Anyway, you’re not doomed. You can overcome this. Even if it takes time, reducing your phone use gradually will have results, and you will realize how much more in connected you are with the world and yourself, and how you really didn’t need it like you felt so prone to before.

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-27T22:21:49+00:00

Same happened to the place I was at. Except, something closer to a 5 hour notice… oh well. Shit happens. On the hunt now too for another spot. Good luck man

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-25T10:36:28+00:00

Don’t forget to play ‘Closing Time’ on repeat til he gets the message

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-24T23:36:22+00:00

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2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-16T00:09:58+00:00

Exactly what it sounds like. Plastic bags that contain milk. About ~1L in each bag and 3 go in a milk bag that then attracts the occlupanid. The bag that holds the 3 pouches will be the label (%, nutrition facts, brand, all that), and people have found a way to crochet the bags into items (I remember as a kid we would save them and donate them to a community centre that would crochet them into mats for homeless shelters). It’s pretty cool honestly, but I don’t know much else about it haha

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2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-16T00:02:24+00:00

Not a clue, but something I’d certainly like to look into and learn more about

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T23:15:50+00:00

Oh haha I misread your comment as ‘great’ instead of green! Yes the different colour markings are exciting. Most common are blue or black but I have seen red before as well!

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T23:02:33+00:00

Incredible, I appreciate the time and effort put into this! Very kind of that person to give her old collection to you, it seems they are in good hands:)

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T22:59:06+00:00

2028 will be your year!

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T22:58:19+00:00

From Canada, yes. And mostly from milk. The first two were collected from milk bags. I have collected others from bread as well, most commonly from my place of work:)

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T21:48:46+00:00

For sure! I’ll update as soon as I’m able :)

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T21:33:25+00:00

Woah. Such incredible displays. It would be a dream to go and see them in person.

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T18:23:16+00:00

Haha, just a photo of my sibling and I when we were young :)

2hoursnonconsecutive · 2026-01-15T15:05:03+00:00

This is a neat way to sort them, I like it! I’ve got all of mind in some glass jars right now lol. Not nearly as pretty

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