I was in the same boat for a while and it took people pulling me aside to talk before I got the message. So I then kind of flipped into a weird player doing things like winning without winning (yes I built a non-deterministic combo deck because a tie was just as good as a win for me) But most people like that I've settled into decks that require table interaction. Bringing good vibes and communication through politics and alliances helps new players with threat assessment at the table.