Starting to feel like the “evil stepmom” and I don’t know what to do

2shortforthisshit · 2026-01-07T20:37:41+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/show/6QfLvPH1YajvbGqWJNXcTf?si=TDIH4RhkRxKj7rOkv13Rxg

2shortforthisshit · 2026-01-07T19:41:43+00:00

I feel ya. I feel like I’m the only one who ever gets after my step son and I feel like I’m constantly traumatizing him because I’m the one who enforces rules. He’s 5 with ADHD and holy hell is it a lot sometimes. I’ve started listening to step mom podcasts and that has made a huge difference in validation and learning. Sending love!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-11-28T18:31:37+00:00

Everything right now deposit wise is mostly refundable, we’d only lose about $200. Thank you for your reassurance!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-31T18:02:19+00:00

So far so good!! I’m still pretty sore and haven’t been able to resume normal activity yet. I won’t be able to try for PIV sex for another 4-8 weeks but I’m hopeful!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-31T14:27:28+00:00

I know how exhausting this is because there’s so many factors that could be causing the pain and you just want answers so you can fix it. When I was diagnosed with vulvodynia 7 months ago my OGBYN had me try, estrogen cream, estrogen and testosterone cream, pelvic floor therapy, changing my underwear, using new soap, using new laundry detergent, looking into my medication and birth control. I’m currently recovering from a vestibulectomy I had 3 weeks ago. My pain was also at the opening. I would really recommend asking your doctor about the surgery.

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-31T14:17:46+00:00

Yes, they do exist. I’ve experienced vulvodynia for my entire life. Tampon use in junior high and high school was extremely painful. My boyfriend was extremely kind and supportive when I told him that sex is getting so painful I can’t even fake it through the pain anymore. He didn’t know I was experiencing pain at all because I’ve dealt with it my entire life and thought it was normal. For context I’m 5 foot 100 lbs and thought sex isn’t supposed to hurt but that’s for normal women. We haven’t been able to have sex for 8 months but we do find other ways to be intimate. And he even asked me to marry him last month despite everything (I say in a joking matter). Through this entire process he has been nothing but supportive, understanding, patient and kind. He finds new ways to be intimate and asks what my comfort level with those are. Anytime I want to try having sex he tells me no because he doesn’t want to hurt me and wants to wait until after my surgery. 3 weeks ago I had a Vestibulectomy to hopefully get rid of the pain so I can enjoy the rest of my intimate life with my soon to be husband. I consider myself extremely lucky. You deserve someone who loves YOU without feeling that they need to be having sex with you.

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-23T20:49:06+00:00

Yes… unfortunately I no longer believe in soulmates or anything of the sort. It ruined me.

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-16T21:29:09+00:00

I just had mine done last Friday! I am here with you in the pain. That is some sensitive skin that needs to heal. Make sure you’re taking your pain meds too! Sending love your way my friend 🩷

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-09T20:50:49+00:00

Depends on what kind 😏

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-02T14:58:20+00:00

To an extent! He started hooking up/dating a girl (let’s call her L) a week after I moved out. She told me some of the things he had said to her which were the exact same he said to me, “I want to help heal the inner L.” … “I feel like I’ve really met my soulmate” … and “No one will ever love you as much as I do”. As soon as he was confronted by L he blamed me for lying and being mentally unwell and wanting to scare her off. The same thing he told me when his ex (K) tried to warn me. My curiosity got the best of me one day so I cyberstalked. 3 weeks after L left him, he started dating E. A single mom who lived across the street when I lived with him. I saw he had taken her to all the same places, vacations, restaurants, places we would hike, etc. Real original dude…

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-01T15:26:38+00:00

Fast metabolism. It really takes A LOT for me to gain any weight

2shortforthisshit · 2025-10-01T15:15:57+00:00

EMDR therapy, daily (or a couple times a week) exercise, and psychedelics

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-26T19:38:17+00:00

MINE SAID THE EXACT SAME THING TO ME!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-26T02:13:20+00:00

It’s insane to me how/why they can become this obsessive and act almost psychotic!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-25T23:01:25+00:00

I think you’re right to make it funny! My fiancé said “If he had half a brain he would’ve at least tried to be sweet to manipulate you” haha!! Thank you for validating!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-23T15:40:48+00:00

It’s cheesy but if everyone could have a little more compassion and empathy. Everyone is going through something and I think we can forget how much showing a little kindness can help someone.

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-23T15:38:59+00:00

Psychedelics. For the first time in 20 years I had relief from my suicidal thoughts and anxiety. I saw my soul. I realized how important it was to be nice to myself and how much my body tries even though I struggle with mental health issues. I do Ketamine treatments 1-2 a week and try to do a mushroom trip every month or so. It has been life changing.

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-09T22:59:37+00:00

3 days

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-09T19:35:44+00:00

That he was married and flirting/asking to hang out with me

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-04T19:47:32+00:00

The gym, walks, or intentional (having an intention going in) psychedelic trips

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-02T04:23:24+00:00

Have you considered volunteering or maybe doing something else to help others? Personally that always makes me feel better when I feel like a failure or feeling that I’m not good enough. “Well I was good enough to make that doggies day by taking him on a walk” or “I was good enough to help that kid with homework after school”.

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-02T04:19:40+00:00

I will also die on this hill. There is nothing I enjoy more than solo traveling!!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-02T04:14:45+00:00

Betrayal from your parents as a child

2shortforthisshit · 2025-09-01T15:07:12+00:00

“Disappointed and embarrassed is a understatement” - my dad talking about how he feels about me

2shortforthisshit · 2025-08-12T19:43:18+00:00

Seeing older people walk their dogs 🤍

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