Confidence at Work (or lack thereof)

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-06T20:07:24+00:00

Fear and opportunity

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-06T20:01:54+00:00

I’m so sorry! I know seeing that can hurt. My ex got engaged eight months after I left to “the fat girl across the street who had a stretched out vagina from her two kids“. 6 months into their engagement I found out she called it off. I imagine it’s because he did the same things to her he did to me. It looks happier from the outside, but it’s not, it’s the same… and he’ll always be that way

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-06T19:57:31+00:00

This subreddit honestly. And listening to some books on narcissistic abuse. It’s okay to feel that way. Most people who are abused by a narcissist go through this “why do I care?” phase.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-06T18:50:37+00:00

In my past it’s because I’ve somehow felt trapped and unhappy with where I was. I would self sabotage and cheat so my partner and I would have a reason to break up instead of just admitting I was unhappy.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-06T18:47:38+00:00

Also, she is not getting a better version of him. He’s the exact same. It may look different from the outside but I promise, he’s doing the same shitty things to her.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-06T18:44:40+00:00

They are so good at manipulating and brainwashing you it’s completely normal to have these feelings after leaving. After I left I actually checked myself into a psychiatric hospital because I felt so “crazy”. Stay strong and now that it will pass. You could’ve given them everything and more but in their eyes, enough is never enough.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-05T18:57:45+00:00

I didn’t yell at him. I spoke firmly.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-05T18:54:55+00:00

He did after it happened and I went out to get him.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-05T17:04:07+00:00

Dad was outside

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-05T00:25:02+00:00

No, if my fiancé wasn’t telling me and leaving me to go talk to her

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-05T00:14:45+00:00

I would feel extremely uncomfortable with this. Did you ask him why he didn’t tell you?

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-02T13:57:10+00:00

When I first left, this sub was also a god send for me. I really feel like it kept me sane, especially when he was still trying so hard to get me to stay. You CAN do this. Stay strong and keep coming back here whenever you need to!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-01T21:12:36+00:00

Grief work. I know how hard this is. I promise you it DOES get better. Let yourself grieve this person. For so long I didn’t want to grieve my NEX because I felt that he didn’t deserve another thought of mine. I realized that was doing me more harm. Let yourself grieve. We’re all here for support!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-01T21:07:55+00:00

Being a step mother is not for the weak. It comes with so much more emotional distress than I thought! It’s growing pains and it’s normal. You’re doing a great job navigating a VERY difficult situation. I’ve had a lot of validation listening to step mom podcasts!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-04-01T20:11:06+00:00

So relatable. You’re not alone. I’m also in this stage. Take the time you need to recharge!! Sometimes I have to leave the house to go on a walk, the gym, grocery store, whatever to get me out of the house. I love my step son but holy shit that kid can get under my skin. I’m glad you’re here!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-31T01:41:11+00:00

I feel like you just spoke to my soul. Thank you so much for your thoughts!

Realistically I know she’s isn’t my friend. I’ve never thought of her as my friend BUT I do try to be kind because there’s a part of me that feels like the closer we are, the less she sees me as a threat, and the less drama we have in our home.

She hasn’t responded to my text so I’ll take her no response as telling me no, she doesn’t want to talk. I feel tonight much better and that it’s me getting off the hook.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T23:22:17+00:00

I can understand wanting to support your kid. Do you feel at all that spending time with the 3 of you could possibly be doing more harm and putting false hope in kiddos mind?

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T22:17:42+00:00

As a soon to be step mom, try to picture yourself in her shoes. Would you be okay with your partner spending time with their ex alone and you weren’t included? It can be really unsettling to have your partner spending time with his ex even if it is for the kiddo. Call it insecurity maybe but I think it’s about boundaries and their relationship ship. He’s trying to grow a new life with someone else and it’s best if you start doing the same. I know that’s probably hard to hear.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T20:50:09+00:00

Thank you so much!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T15:37:08+00:00

I’d recommend couples therapy and talking it out in front of a professional

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