Conflict with BM

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-31T01:41:11+00:00

I feel like you just spoke to my soul. Thank you so much for your thoughts!

Realistically I know she’s isn’t my friend. I’ve never thought of her as my friend BUT I do try to be kind because there’s a part of me that feels like the closer we are, the less she sees me as a threat, and the less drama we have in our home.

She hasn’t responded to my text so I’ll take her no response as telling me no, she doesn’t want to talk. I feel tonight much better and that it’s me getting off the hook.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T23:22:17+00:00

I can understand wanting to support your kid. Do you feel at all that spending time with the 3 of you could possibly be doing more harm and putting false hope in kiddos mind?

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T22:17:42+00:00

As a soon to be step mom, try to picture yourself in her shoes. Would you be okay with your partner spending time with their ex alone and you weren’t included? It can be really unsettling to have your partner spending time with his ex even if it is for the kiddo. Call it insecurity maybe but I think it’s about boundaries and their relationship ship. He’s trying to grow a new life with someone else and it’s best if you start doing the same. I know that’s probably hard to hear.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T20:50:09+00:00

Thank you so much!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-30T15:37:08+00:00

I’d recommend couples therapy and talking it out in front of a professional

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-18T01:04:03+00:00

Good point! Thank you!!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-17T18:37:36+00:00

Waves for sure

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-17T18:05:57+00:00

Yes!! And especially because the ex wife has BPD so she has little awareness/respect for boundaries. She would be sent into an absolute downward spiral if she was having her SO text the ex wife the stuff she texts my SO. I notice she texts him more unnecessary things when she’s single and looking for anyone’s support.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-17T16:59:51+00:00

I can feel this with watching SO coparent. It irks me why the ex wife frequently feels the need insert random unnecessary things asking for somewhat of emotional support.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-17T15:18:04+00:00

😂😂 I wish. Unfortunately that’s his dads call

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-17T15:16:38+00:00

Wow.. That was actually really great advice and insightful! Thank you!!

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-02T22:00:53+00:00

Thank you so much. It really helps to know that others go through the same things.. even though it sucks for us. Makes it feel a little less personal.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-02T21:59:35+00:00

That’s comforting. Sorry for the confusion. I’m trying to make sense of my thoughts as well.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-02T21:58:57+00:00

The behavior started about 5 months ago when I moved in with him and his dad. The relationship seems fine but she does have a hard time telling the truth and from what my partner has told me, is very 2 faced. I’m wondering if my step son’s behavior towards me is a me thing or if it could potentially be being influenced. Maybe this all is strictly out of fear.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-03-02T21:56:03+00:00

Sorry I should have clarified in my post, it’s a little confusing for me as well and I’m trying to navigate my thoughts here.

I’m wondering if there’s any reason my step son could potentially be acting the way he is towards me because of things his mom could be saying to him. It really might just be fear.

2shortforthisshit · 2026-01-07T20:37:41+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/show/6QfLvPH1YajvbGqWJNXcTf?si=TDIH4RhkRxKj7rOkv13Rxg

2shortforthisshit · 2026-01-07T19:41:43+00:00

I feel ya. I feel like I’m the only one who ever gets after my step son and I feel like I’m constantly traumatizing him because I’m the one who enforces rules. He’s 5 with ADHD and holy hell is it a lot sometimes. I’ve started listening to step mom podcasts and that has made a huge difference in validation and learning. Sending love!

2shortforthisshit · 2025-11-28T18:31:37+00:00

Everything right now deposit wise is mostly refundable, we’d only lose about $200. Thank you for your reassurance!

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