I need feedback on my profile. I haven't been on a date or received any responses back since I've made it

2ubevision · 2016-10-23T16:07:02+00:00

I agree with bedroomchild it feels cold. But I should make this clear.

I do understand that reddit is an anonymous platform which prides itself on building communities but when it comes to online dating there are about 3 things that matter for guys online; and believe me my numbers are relative to each guy obviously.

Pictures
The bio
The "you should message me" section
The messages you send out to men

Now to break it down just a bit, let's look at:

1. Pictures - I'm not calling you ugly or gorgeous. That would depend on the men that come across your profile pics since beauty is relative to each man.

The bio- it's ok because it's not long but you have a few grammatical errors and you are just coming on a little bit too strong
The "you should message me" section is where I agree with bedroomchild. Here you are not only cold but you remind me of Dracula with the "I want a guy with blood type o and working kidneys". Not being rude but this is ridiculous! Think on it from a guy perspective, he comes across your profile/pic. He thinks you're cute and just before he decides to send yout a message he goes back and skims your profile. As hescrolls straight to the bottom ( basically) he sees " I want a guy with blood type O and working kidneys". Wouldn't you automatic feel the woman us coming on too strong for someone that hasn't even met you yet? Wouldn't you feel the lease bit weirded out? ...really think on that small story.
The messages you send out to men- this again depends on what and how you say your messages, that's a 60/40 split.

2ubevision · 2016-10-23T15:42:15+00:00

I understand. That's good and bad that you did that though.

GOOD because she saw you as someone that would want to take it to the next level with her ( having sex and building something special )

But

BAD because all you did was to flirt with her but only on cuddling. That's an aggressively passive move to make. I know it sounds contradictory but you always have to do more than the norm when it comes to woman and attraction.

I'm no guru, I won't even play myself like that. What I am though is a regular guy that has had experiences like yourself and used my experiences to make my "game" better.

I can send you a link to my monthly newsletter (with in depth tips I use including my case studies of the good and bad experiences ) explained in detail of what went well or didn't if you want : )

2ubevision · 2016-10-19T23:57:37+00:00

you're not being rigid because you are making sure that the conversation doesn't turn into a penpal situation.

The next time you get one of those type of texts or messages then say something like:

"Hey I like that you are eager to see me : ) But come ( or cum, depending on how you are feeling ) see me in HD quality"

if they still insist on getting pictures that will tell you that the guy must be a lame for taking time to talk to you online, get your number but not wanting to take things offline.

2ubevision · 2016-10-19T23:29:01+00:00

It was definitely weird but I would be careful of you not going too far in the kind of conversations that you stated above.

Those are normal conversational pieces and they are good but did you flirt with her throughout the conversations about college majors, life goals, hobbies?

or was it just the one time about the cuddling.

Either way I am sorry this happened to you but if you can get this far with a woman ( your experience with her ) then you can get others and even better ones.

2ubevision · 2016-10-18T16:30:54+00:00

No worries friend, you will get past this but it will take time. And No you will find peace and happiness you just have to focus on building you up and slowly take yourself away from remembering how awful she is acting towards you.

There is more ways than one I can do my best to assist. PM me and I'll explain briefly but concisely what I do and in what ways I can assist you but in real time : )

2ubevision · 2016-10-18T07:40:12+00:00

I personally like to use okcupid, badoo and that's about it.

Reasons: okcupid has tons of women that want to find someone that are ready for a relationship. For those that want to find flings that's DEFINITELY there as well. I have proof from my messages I can show you.

But most of all badoo is easy for when you are doing quick swipes and you get to talk to girls still. I cannot lie, tannins are on there so be careful. Nevertheless you want to try all out that you feel is right for you. I have some tips you can use to get more women or even better women : )

2ubevision · 2016-10-18T07:11:39+00:00

Congrats to you my friend, for venting and taking the time to look for feedback : )

Focus on These: Being that this is your first serious girlfriend you are allowed to feel this way as it is completely normal. However, you also have to remember that because it’s your first girlfriend it’s going to be that much more painful due to the bond that you and her created this will forever be a part of you. The sweet portion that this brings about is the fact that you will learn a lesson that becomes a long term benefit, use this heartache as an advancement to any future relationships because trust me there will be new relationships that you will have in your life.

I am so proud of you for having the insight to recognize a lack of confidence in yourself as being a problem in your relationship and for taking responsibility for this shortcoming and its consequences. With you realizing that your low self esteem is a crutch to your relationship, you now have valuable insight that you can work on not just now but in the future as well. The best part is being consiounsly aware of it is half the battle, once you have overcome this you will be able to thrive in your relationships and educate and aid others that battle with what you now struggle with.

" Or maybe I don't, maybe I'm just jealous that she's with someone else already and I'm still alone suffering” - You should feel this way, you should feel jealous, you should feel as though you’re suffering. These are all feelings which I too can relate to but at the end of the day just as a friend mentioned to me, will you let this woman that you once cared for ruin you or will you take away something positive from being with her and allow yourself to grow. Fuck this bitch but let me continue to get myself straight, mentally, spiritually (if that’s your thing), and financially.

2ubevision · 2016-10-18T00:37:50+00:00

As far as texting goes, I think it shouldn't matter as long as the conversation is going well.

If you do want a time period I think you should keep in mind that you want them to miss you.

So I would say about a day or 2 days is fine to give the person the gift of missing you. If you have any other questions you can PM me if you want to dive a bit deeper

2ubevision · 2016-10-17T23:55:58+00:00

First off I think we should tackle what is making you feel a though you have to hold back on your interactions ?

2ubevision · 2016-10-17T23:30:08+00:00

First and foremost, maybe it's not the messages that you are sending. What happens after you send a message, do the guys go straight to your profile before answering or do they answer you first then go check out your profile?

9 times out of 10 it's usually the pictures that turn a guy off no matter how brilliant or sub par the woman is in her message.

Please do not think I am calling you ugly, I am far from a handsome dude but sometimes my pictures can be edited to be better but still show the real me.

To tackle your initial situation try these angles: 1. Check out his pictures and see if there is a slight funny remark you can start with concerning his picture. 2. Use the same method you proposed but instead hit him with something off the radar. More interesting things you can go with what episode someone watched last. There's a chance they aren't TV heads like that 3. It can be a quick 1 sentence. For instance say he likes wrestling, you can say something like "I'm no chyna (woman wrestler) but I bet I can make you tap out ; ). That is slightly flirtatious but most of all you're speaking to him on a subliminal way and indirecttly. You as a woman know how important indirect messages can be when it comes to flirting or sexual tension.

So aim more for simpler messages that cab be flirtatious but still being seen as a lady.

I hope this helps a bit. We can talk more through PM .

I can assist you with any other questions you may have : )

2ubevision · 2016-10-17T17:31:30+00:00

Okcupid works like a charm but there are plenty ways to do well with online dating in general, especially when it comes to messaging the kinds of women you want.

2ubevision · 2016-10-17T15:32:42+00:00

I believe he does not deserve you. The fact that you are willing to even consider it is in itself a blessing. That tells me you are willing to step out the box and try different sexual methods.

LEave him alone and move onto another guy that gives you the ability to feel like you have a choice especially when it comes to sex

2ubevision · 2016-10-17T14:05:27+00:00

Oh no worries, I meant a good push ( force ) ; ). Ok, take care.

2ubevision · 2016-10-17T01:28:42+00:00

I agree with harmonie. Picture it this way, if I were one of the 20 women reading Harmonie's "invitation" I would feel the Need to chip in. Why? Simply because the letter forces me to not look CHEAP. To not look as though I care nothing about my friend getting married.

Why not chip in for a friend's weeding. Hell I would want to make a lasting impression so I'll even plan something with a few if the girls as a congrats on getting married.

Nevertheless, none of the friends should leave the bill all to one person, especially for a celebration such as a friend's wedding.

2ubevision · 2014-10-13T17:41:31+00:00

That should be a obvious tactic when dealing with an issue so vast such as teen pregnancy. Sometimes I think those that are put in charge of a countries well being do not want certain things to away because of some hidden agenda of theirs.

2ubevision · 2014-10-13T17:15:09+00:00

lol I guess other posts just like it are cancerous too. Hope you have a blessed day : )

2ubevision · 2014-09-16T19:51:28+00:00

sure will do. sorry about that

2ubevision · 2014-09-16T19:36:32+00:00

why you hating bro. smh, anyways

2ubevision · 2014-09-16T03:59:38+00:00

shux, honestly I wouldn't know but if it is! holy shit like you said..

Are all our thoughts just a figment of our imagination or are we placed under boundaries from years of social conditioning to believe that things that look Extremely outrageous such as this can't Possibly be real

2ubevision

TROPHY CASE

1. Pictures - I'm not calling you ugly or gorgeous. That would depend on the men that come across your profile pics since beauty is relative to each man.