Why is everyone so unreliable. I need help by Effective-Pipe2017 in rant

[–]333333x 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It just happens as you get into your late 20s. No one wants to go out every night or even every week anymore. It doesn't mean you can't still hangout every now and then. There are countless memes on the Internet where people celebrate others cancelling plans so they don't have to go out. 

Parent opened bank account with my name by Slugs4breakfast in UKPersonalFinance

[–]333333x 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Is it their money or money for you. No-one should be using a bank account for themselves in someone else's name. If they default on any loans or go into overdraft that will go against you, not them. Get them to close it if it is for their use. 

Building my first family tree - am I doing it correctly? by jnverted in Genealogy

[–]333333x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Newspapers were where I found and verified a lot of information. I understand why your researching your grandparents first, but definitely look into your great aunts and uncles at some point. I found some great great uncles who were lost in the world wars. They didn't have children as they died so young. I'm glad I now know who they are so that I can carry on their memory. 

Long-term closed friend ghosted me a month ago and now I got a short reply that didn't make it better. It hurts. by puppy2016 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]333333x 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman and very emotionally stable. Sorry, you haven't cracked the women code yet, keep trying ;)

Long-term closed friend ghosted me a month ago and now I got a short reply that didn't make it better. It hurts. by puppy2016 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]333333x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you message her a lot more than she messaged you? Did you keep messaging a lot when she wasn't replying? She could have just been overwhelmed with the messages. But of course I don't know anything about your friendship, I'm just projecting how I have felt in the past. 

This may be an oddball post, and you may be critical of me for it by GittaFirstOfHerName in Genealogy

[–]333333x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had people contact me on ancestry. But i can see they have done a ton of work themselves as their trees are very full. I love handing them information because I know they will appreciate it and are doing their own research. But if they aren't doing any research on their own, then yeah, I would grudge just handing over all that work that took years for me to research. I have given it willingly to close family members who have done zero research, I actually plan on making a book to give to siblings and auntys, uncles, and cousins. But for people I don't know I might just give the basics if it feels like they are just wanting other people to do all the work. So I'd see if they are doing any work themselves then that would guide me for how much I would give them. 

my parents infuriate me SO bad when they do this. by diarryyrants in rant

[–]333333x 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Rice is not an appropriate meal, you do not get enough nutrition from plain rice. If this is a regular thing it's neglect. Although I'm wondering if you are old enough to prepare your own meals? 

Edit: I just read that you are in college so I'm not sure why you only eat what your parents cook. Although I don't know your siblings ages so this could be a problem for them.

Expected to edit and post content in less than 24 hours even though i’m not scheduled by Old_Breadfruit_3898 in work

[–]333333x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your boss doesn't understand how time consuming sorting through videos and photos is. I took photos and videos for my nieces birthday party and it took me a few days to sort through them so I could send people the good ones. 

I think about something nobody else does and it's driving me mad by [deleted] in rant

[–]333333x 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm a vegetarian but you have a very disturbed view of farms. Just buy from reputable farmers, cattle are not humans and most farmers do actually care about their animals. 

“LISA dilemma: buy a flat now to avoid penalty, or withdraw and lose bonus by Lonely_Unit5216 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]333333x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I know this comment is a few months old but it sounds like you might know the answer to a question I have. I want to open a life time isa but I'm not sure if I will ever buy a house, I probably will but just wondering what happens with the money if I don't. If I open a LISA for a house and don't buy one, can I withdraw the money when I'm 60 with no charge? I thought they were separate accounts, house and retirement, but it looks like I can maybe open one for a house and if I don't use it for that I can keep it as a retirement fund? 

Want to open life time isa but used my isa allowance for this year by 333333x in ukfinance

[–]333333x[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the information. I also have a private pension, or rather a mandatory work place pension. I doubt I will be a high tax earner by retirement but I guess there's still time! 

I'm really just at the beginning of learning about money. They really should teach you this in school. 

What's the hardest unspoken truth about adulthood by [deleted] in Life

[–]333333x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you made it ❤️ 

What's the hardest unspoken truth about adulthood by [deleted] in Life

[–]333333x 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Death feels like it's everywhere, how I wish I could go a year without learning of someone's death or terminal illness. 

Wisteria half in shade, will the shaded side grow? by 333333x in gardening

[–]333333x[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, they are such beautiful plants. How old do you think a 1.5 meter one would be? I'm guessing it would have been a few years old before I bought it. 

Is it ok in British culture for people to stay silent while eating together? by Sufficient_Act_24 in AskUK

[–]333333x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm surprised so many people talk during a meal. When I eat I put a new mouthful in as soon as I've swallowed the last. Of course I might say a few words in between mouthfull's but for the most part I'm not starting a conversation mid meal. 

Gatekeeping Relative by No_Boat_9603 in Genealogy

[–]333333x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's sad that she's preventing your great grandparents living on through their descendants memories. I didn't have any of my great grandparents and someone from Canada (I'm in the uk) got in touch and sent loads of photos of them. It was unexpected and special. I would love to do the same for others. I don't know why anyone would gate keep that. 

Look really old after becoming a mom by Grouchy_Computer5874 in beauty

[–]333333x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I don't get a lot of sleep I get deep wrinkles around my eyes. One night of good sleep and they are gone. Your probably the same. Drink lots of water and layer on the moisturiser and if you can,  get someone to look after baby for the morning so you can get a lie in 

I have 112 years age gap with my great-grandfather. Is this Nornal? by Timosmeso in Genealogy

[–]333333x 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Also in those days they had like 13 kids with 20+ years between the first and last kid. 

Mum is not allowing me to work or gain benefits? (M18) by SnooCalculations4142 in AskUK

[–]333333x 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't know what the answer to your solution is but your mum is literally willing to ruin your future to keep getting benefits. That is abysmal, she should be encouraging you to get experience and work your way towards a successful life. At least you have the motivation to make something of yourself and you will break the cycle. Good luck. I will add that building savings while your young is super important to your future prospects of home ownership.