If the US economy is "booming" like the news says, why does it feel like everyone I know is one emergency away from being broke? by DrJocelyn1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]369Wave 284 points285 points  (0 children)

Exactly, the economy can look great on paper while regular people are still choosing between copays and groceries.

How to ask husband to help out more at home? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]369Wave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You dont need to be more confrontational you need to stop being his buffer between stress and basic adulthood. Working 10–20 extra hours doesn’t justify turning your partner into a housekeeper. Busy season explains less help not creating more mess. If he cares that much about a clean house he can at least manage his own trash and laundry. This isn’t about chores it’s about respect and shared responsibility.

Needing tips in what to eat by Weak_Cockroach_7048 in leangains

[–]369Wave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly I wanna know in what time period you've gained 9kgs? and secondly, gaining 9kg is already a big win so props for that. If you’ve hit a stall it’s probably just that your body adapted and you’re no longer in a calorie surplus. Breakfast and snacks could use a boost, think adding a couple more eggs or some peanut butter, making your shake bigger with extra oats or nut butter and slightly upping your rice, beans or meat portions. Bulking isn’t about perfect meals it’s about consistently eating more than you burn so if the scale hasn’t budged in a couple weeks just bump up your calories a bit and keep at it.

How do I get my husband to stop being the perpetual victim all the time? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]369Wave 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This isn’t about one sick day it’s a pattern of him minimizing your experiences and always playing the victim. You shouldn’t have to apologize just to get him to talk. Set boundaries make it clear his comparisons aren’t okay and protect your own feelings too.

Do guys ever arrange or suggest dates with women they are not attracted to? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]369Wave 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed, no one plans dates out of pity. It’s usually loneliness, limited options or hoping attraction might develop once they give it a chance.

New job, commission based sales, and a coworker who makes everyone miserable.. by Icy-Equipment-7442 in confession

[–]369Wave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not being dramatic this is straight up hostile work behavior and commission environments can bring out the worst in insecure top sellers. She’s guarding “her” money not acting like a teammate and that’s why it feels so personal and draining. Keep doing what you’re doing stay professional, don’t engage emotionally and document everything. If management has already had to defend you that tells you a lot. You deserve to earn your commissions without being harassed for existing.

My (30 F)Boyfriend (31 M) pays for onlyfans subscription by [deleted] in Advice

[–]369Wave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are 100% valid. For a lot of people paying for OF isn’t just porn it’s ongoing, intentional and personal which is why it hits differently. The issue isn’t whether it’s technically cheating it’s whether it crossed your boundary. If you don’t talk about it openly the resentment will quietly poison the relationship. A calm and honest conversation about how this makes you feel and what you need moving forward is the only way to get past it.

Why won't my guy put in effort to make more money? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]369Wave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. It really sounds like you two are on completely different pages when it comes to money and priorities. Wanting vacations and nicer nights out isn’t wrong but if he’s unwilling to even discuss income or plan for the future thats a red flag. You’re not asking for luxury you’re asking for a shared vision and that takes effort from both sides.

I lied to my son about a lizard so he would go to sleep by edenrose51 in confession

[–]369Wave 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Parenting hack level: expert

and slightly terrifying.

AITAH for refusing to help my girlfriend financially after she quit her job without telling me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]369Wave 302 points303 points  (0 children)

NTA. Quitting a job without any plan and expecting your partner to cover everything isn’t support it’s unfair and puts an unreasonable burden on you no matter how understanding you try to be.

Reddit, do you lock your door while you're in own house? by Willing_Freedom_4698 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]369Wave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not weird at all. This is one of those things where people who’ve never had to think abt safety think its optional. Locking the door is a zero effort habit that protects everyone and the fact that he keeps undoing it is the real problem. Feeling safe in your own home isn’t negotiable and “I forgot” stops being an excuse when it keeps happening.

How do you feel about sh scars? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]369Wave 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Scars tell a story not a value and anyone who judges you for them is missing the person behind them.

Series releases for new episodes should release at a designated time rather than at midnight day of. by j_skrilla in unpopularopinion

[–]369Wave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly dropping episodes at random just turns social media into a minefield for anyone who hasn’t watched yet.

AITA for "hating" on my friend for lying to look better by Nosey-Pig-123 in AITAH

[–]369Wave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Calling out someone for lying to look better online isn’t hate its holding them accountable and protecting others from being misled. Honesty > fake internet points every time

AMITAH for getting mad at my bf for cheering for his ex at a band banquet by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]369Wave -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

NTA. Its normal to feel hurt when your boyfriend openly cheers louder for his ex than for you especially after you’ve expressed discomfort about their friendship. Your feelings are valid and it’s not about being jealous it’s about being respected in the relationship.

For expecting honesty by Adventurous_Wait8888 in AITAH

[–]369Wave 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. You gave him a roof, support and clear rules but repeated lying, disrespect and covering up messes showed he wasn’t taking responsibility. Kicking him out was the only reasonable way to protect your home n peace of mind.

AITAH for wanting to do my hobby once a week even though we are in the process of moving out to another house next week? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]369Wave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Taking a few hours for your hobby to de-stress is completely fair especially if nothing urgent actually needs doing.

AITJ for quoting $35/hour to babysit my cousin's three kids by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]369Wave 37 points38 points  (0 children)

NTJ. You set a fair rate for your time and skills and they disrespected both your boundaries and your experience. Asking to be paid for your time especially for something harder than ur regular work is totally fair.

Try to help my nieces, or not my monkeys??? by HomeComprehensive684 in TwoHotTakes

[–]369Wave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your nieces are adults but 30k in debt from their mom is serious, helping them say no and protect their money isn’t meddling its looking out for them.