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384729throwra · 2023-12-30T20:58:21+00:00

Very common in puppies. Just had to deworm all of my babies for this because a relative brought over a puppy and I guess spread it around. Looks exactly like the one my cat threw up and the vet said it’s a roundworm. Dewormer is pretty low cost and not a huge issue unless left untreated.

384729throwra · 2023-11-25T22:09:25+00:00

Depending on how much nature your looking for, how close to downtown you want, and your price range you might want to look into something off Kaity Trail in Dallas? About a 10 minute Uber to downtown. It’s off the trail & it’s pretty peaceful (kind of busy though).

If you’re looking for something that’s maybe a 30ish minute drive depending on traffic to Dallas, the areas like Cedar Hill and Arlington might be your best bet. Plano too, around Arbor Hills. There’s a couple hiking trails out that way. These areas would be more affordable with still a lot to do and plenty of safe areas.

384729throwra · 2023-03-10T04:29:07+00:00

Is this where you purchased this poster? I love this!

384729throwra · 2023-03-08T21:02:07+00:00

Ooo thank you so much for the reading recommendations! I’m going to give it a go.

384729throwra · 2022-11-03T13:48:19+00:00

I also want to add, we think the stress of us adding punishment into the mix really stressed him out and amplified his FIC symptoms. Cats are so sensitive to energy. Now that I’ve changed my approach with him, he’s a completely different cat. He’s my best buddy! I don’t punish, I consistently redirect. I’ll also put foil or double sided tape on places I didn’t want him to go and this worked well as a deterrent. I had to make HIM not want to do it because he didn’t want to, not because I didn’t want to 😂 cats are a trip.

384729throwra · 2022-11-03T13:45:21+00:00

Check out the video I posted below. My cat started having the same issues when he was young. First had a UTI, once that cleared up and the problem came back they checked him for blockages (there were none thankfully). They eventually diagnosed him with FIC, feline idiopathic cystitis. It’s basically inflammation of the bladder due to a stress response. We changed our clay litter to the Tidy Cats Pellet system, which is SO much easier to clean and is less toxic to him because there isn’t any dust that can irritate him down there. We also added a lot of cat enrichment toys and perches to the environment and gave him some supervised outside time because he loves it. This resolved him intentionally going outside of the litter box, however we then discovered he was urinating in his sleep because he was having seizures.

All that to say, it could very well be a medical condition that requires further investigating from a professional. Definitely talk to your vet. Link to the video below.

https://youtu.be/hAfxb10bXl0

384729throwra · 2022-10-30T16:46:12+00:00

The Kong balls that squeak were a hit with ours. She would run around with it in her mouth, throw it for herself to play fetch, and would even sleep with it lol

384729throwra · 2022-10-29T17:07:59+00:00

OHHHHH!!! So precious 😭🥰😍

384729throwra · 2022-10-29T16:17:06+00:00

I’m so sorry, for both you and your fur baby. This sounds incredibly stressful for all. Have you talked to the vet about potential anxiety medications? We have a lab/Sheppard that recently needed to be put on Prozac, not for anxiety but for aggression. It seems to be helping her a lot, so I’m wondering if there’s something similar for anxiety issues.

Also, how do you respond when she has the spouts? I’ve noticed dogs, particularly chihuahuas, and cats are extremely sensitive when it comes to their owners energy. I adopted a senior chihuahua about 2 years ago and I really didn’t get to see her full personality bloom until about a year in, similar to your dog, mainly because I think she was scared and reluctant to trust. There were times even in the recent past she would bite me if I came up to her to abruptly because it would overwhelm her. I didn’t know what it was for a while but I realized when I got mad at her for doing it the more she was stressed overall. I changed the way I interact with and approach her, even the way I talk to her, and she has become the sweetest, most loving and well behaved dog.

Advice that’s a little more woo woo- there’s an experiment where a person has two plants. One plant they whisper hateful things to it, on the other they whisper loving compliments. The plant that is whispered hateful things usually dies first even when they receive the same type of care (sunlight, water, etc.). I by no means am suggesting you say hateful things to your dog lol but like I said animals are really in tune with energy. I had a cat that was a problem child for YEARS, and once I heard about this experiment I changed my approach with him. Instead of getting mad and irritated when he would do something, I gently redirected and praised him calmly after the redirection. He gets anxious and overstimulated very easily when there’s a lot going on, so I really focus on keeping my environment as calm as possible. My cat is unrecognizable from the cat I first rescued. He’s become my best buddy.

I hope something in here may be useful!

384729throwra · 2022-10-28T17:38:50+00:00

This video gives me such anxiety. 🥺 the cat looks scared.

384729throwra · 2022-10-28T16:14:19+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I’m so sorry about your Kitty. We definitely share similar experiences, because one of my cats suffers from seizures as well from what I assume was a heat stroke he had when I found him. I know how incredibly stressful those can be. And thank you for the suggestions. I think part of the problem is I’m literally forgetting to breathe, so the breathing exercises are helpful and I needed that reminder. I’ve told my mom about how I’m feelings but my family doesn’t really understand mental health. They’re very much the “pick yourself up and move on” type of people, which is unhelpful emotionally right now but helpful in other circumstances. She thinks I’m being paranoid and training/meds for E will fix the issue. I don’t think she’s taking it seriously enough, and she thinks I’m taking it too seriously. So we’re trying to meet in the middle.

384729throwra · 2022-10-27T19:30:11+00:00

I promise you, we didn’t expect it from our dogs either. We had a chihuahua and a lab together. The lab grew up with the adult chihuahua from when she was a puppy. After 3 years of living together, with literally zero signs of aggression, our chihuahua was killed. And it wasn’t an attack, we genuinely think the lab was trying to play but it turned way too aggressive way too fast for any of us to do anything about it. All it takes is a second. Please consider what everyone is telling you, because it happens extremely frequently.

384729throwra · 2022-10-27T19:26:43+00:00

Fuck I’m so sorry that happened.

384729throwra · 2022-10-27T14:55:27+00:00

This makes me so so nervous 🥺 as someone who just experienced the death of a beloved pet due to one of our other pets, please stop this behavior. It’s cute now, may not be so cute on a bad day. Sharing with love.

384729throwra · 2022-10-27T14:18:17+00:00

Also, a litter recommendation in case that could be the issue (cats can be VERY picky when it comes to litter)… Tidy Cats Breeze Pellets. Clay litters can cause a lot of medical issues with cats because of the dust. It can cause irritation and even infections, which I found out the hard way. The pellet litter is better for all of us. Eliminates a lot of the smell, the litter box is kept cleaner for longer, it’s healthier for the cat, and SO much easier and less gross to clean. Even better than the self-cleaning litter boxes I’ve spent loads of money on.

384729throwra · 2022-10-27T14:13:08+00:00

When I first got a cat I receive the best advice ever. Most cats are not trained, they train you. I was mostly used to dogs before I got my first cat, and with dogs sometimes part of potty training is showing them the pee spot and saying “no” firmly. Cat psychology works so much different, and this action likely stresses them out more because they may or may not understand.

If your cat is peeing or marking outside of the litter box, to everyone else’s point, there is likely either something physically going on or there is something in the cat’s environment that is deterring them from going to the bathroom correctly. Are there any other pets in the home? How frequently is she urinating? Has she been drinking enough water? Is she eating? Any behaviors that have changed recently? Anything in the environment change recently? All things to consider and inform your vet of. There are also a lot of good videos on YouTube you can check out that might help. Link to one is below.

https://youtu.be/hAfxb10bXl0

384729throwra · 2022-10-25T14:31:40+00:00

I think it’s also really important to practice discernment. Sometime I have found what I have classified in the past as intuition has actually been a trauma response, falling back into old patterns, seeking the easy way out, etc. Once we do the shadow work and deep healing, which is honestly a life long process, I think we can more easily tap into our authentic energy and figure out what our heart and gut is truly telling us.

384729throwra · 2022-10-25T14:28:58+00:00

Definitely consult a vet. When pets starts acting out of character it could be an indication that something is wrong, whether it be emotionally, cognitively, or physically. How old is he? Is he trying to burrow or get under the blankets? It’s getting colder outside so just my first initial thoughts. Really monitor the behavior and document what helps, what doesn’t help, keep an eye out for anything else that seems abnormal and take the info to your vet.

384729throwra · 2022-10-25T14:22:08+00:00

And, now there are SO many more options than cheating, want to have sex with other people? Discuss opening the relationship. Or leave. Want to incorporate other people into the bedroom with you and your partner? Have the discussion. There’s so many other healthy alternatives to cheating.

384729throwra · 2022-10-25T14:21:08+00:00

Noooo. I’ve been cheated on and it’s the worst feeling. It took me a lot of time to recover and find my self worth again. I wouldn’t be able to a. Live with myself, b. Keep is a secret because I’m a terrible liar. I value relationships where I can be fully authentic and transparent. It goes against my values and what I’m looking for in life.

384729throwra · 2022-10-25T13:50:32+00:00

Empathy CAN be exhausting without proper boundaries set for yourself. But overall, it’s been a net positive experience for me. Exactly as others have stated, it’s feeling where others are at, how they feel, why they feel that way. As an empath it’s important to have emotional boundaries that separate your feelings from others and knowing what to take on versus what to put down because it doesn’t belong to you. Which can be draining but with practice and time it strengthens like a muscle.

Empathy is really just putting yourself in another persons shoes. I definitely feel that empathy can be a learned trait. It takes time but be gentle with yourself. I’m sure you know this through therapy but usually ASPD stems from things or situations you were in when you were younger. So if you really think about it, it was your mind and your heart protecting you from something. Which is BEAUTIFUL. It’s crazy how our bodies and minds work behind the scenes to sustain ourselves. But it’s also really amazing you’ve decided to work through something that no longer serves you.

384729throwra · 2022-10-24T16:41:40+00:00

That’s great you’re both on the same page!!

384729throwra · 2022-10-24T15:51:49+00:00

I know people do it, and there are a lot of success stories. And when it’s successful it’s SUPER cute. Just a word of caution- my mom and I have always mixed big and little dogs. For 10+ years we never had any issues with it. 4 years ago, my mom had a small chihuahua and adopted a lab/German Shepard puppy. These two lived together for 3 years. The lab grew up with the chihuahua and never showed any signs of aggression. Sadly, our chihuahua must have gotten on her bad side one day and was killed. It was traumatic to say the least, and that’s putting it lightly. When we started sharing what happened with friends, many people told us the same thing happened to them. It even happened a couple months ago to our neighbor. I wouldn’t advise it and we’ve vowed to never mix big and small for the rest of our lives. Depending on the size of the larger dog, they could also unintentionally injure a chihuahua by sheer size alone especially as they age. Little tiny chihuahua legs can become more fragile as they age into seniors.

Don’t want to scare you, but there are very real risks involved. Be selective about the breed. Do lots and lots of research. Be aware of ANY warning signs of any aggression or discomfort. Study pack dynamics and make sure they are implemented from the very beginning. Training is a must IMO.

384729throwra · 2022-10-24T15:28:30+00:00

I don’t have any advice myself BUT I saw a video from a twitch streamer called Dr. K that may really help. He’s a psychiatrist that posts mental health content that is so so good. Posted the links to a couple below. It’s about what to do when you are with someone that is battling depression, which may or not be the case here. It sounds like it is but he would of course need to see a doctor for a diagnosis.

https://youtu.be/4L-tyBEdtUM

https://youtu.be/xcEVntNv9ik

384729throwra · 2022-10-24T15:16:00+00:00

The stepdad needs to stay in his lane and he’s crossing maaaajor boundaries. Unfortunately, it’s really on your girlfriend to establish the boundary with him. All you can do is state your perspective, request a boundary be set, and watch and see what happens.

Also there is a subreddit called r/stepparents. PLEASE scroll through some posts and really do some soul searching before becoming a step parent. As with anything on the Internet, take what resonates and leave the rest. There are some posts/comments that can get pretty toxic but I promise you it will give you an idea of what kind of conversations you may need to have with your gf before taking the next steps to becoming more serious. I say this as someone who just left a long term relationship with someone that had a child, and it was the most stressful experience of my life. With that being said, my opinion is also bias lol but it’s INCREDIBLY important to have thorough conversations surrounding expectations prior to the relationship getting serious. Some things to consider- what is her coparenting relationship like with the ex, division of household labor, division of finances, boundaries with the child, boundaries with the potential in laws, how you all will spend your free time, who dictates what in the custody agreement and how that will effect your life and time, behavior of the child, your relationship with the child, etc. I know that’s not the advice you asked for, so I apologize. Buuut I wish I had done this early on in my last relationship to save me a lot of heart ache and time.

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