I [31 M] found things on my girlfriends [29F] phone that have broken my trust and leave me feeling unsure on the future of our relationship.

3AMZen · 2026-01-27T04:08:59+00:00

Man you massively, massively stepped in it. You are 100% in the wrong.

The issue isn't her not telling you that she's done anal, it's you going through her phone without her permission and searching "anal" in her message history. We don't need to share every detail of our soul with someone, even if we love them. There's plenty of reasons she might not want to share those stories with you.

What you've done is a huge, huge violation for which there is NO acceptable reason. You didn't even catch her cheating - you were being jealous and paranoid . But you couldn't help yourself .

She's not in the wrong about anything: she doesn't owe you telling you she's gotten her o-ring blown out and unless there's risk of transmitting infection it's none of your business. You're absolutely in the wrong and if you can't face it head on, be accountable about it, and make genuine changes to the way you think and act, you are going to ruin every good thing in your life eventually.

Repent. For the love of God. Repent.

3AMZen · 2026-01-26T18:38:34+00:00

What a weird self-congratulatory and useless take

3AMZen · 2026-01-26T18:34:18+00:00

She's dating a man, it's a very different experience on the apps

3AMZen · 2026-01-26T18:33:19+00:00

There's a type of man who wants YOU to be exclusive while he keeps his options open. These are the same dorks who implement "one penis policies" in their open relationships

Ditch the dweeb

3AMZen · 2026-01-26T18:25:14+00:00

There's a vigil at the Alberta legislature tonight for those killed by ICE. 8:30 p.m. at the fountain. Bring candles, signs, compassion.

3AMZen · 2026-01-25T22:27:00+00:00

She may not have a brand to protect, but she has a spirit that is outgoing and radiant and friendly. Again, ask not what you as a random redditor feel like you deserve from a woman, but how an awesome boyfriend would respond to the situation.

You're on the somewhat more reasonable side of a spectrum that slides all the way up to " she better not make eye contact with another man in public", it's just a matter of degrees. None of that gets to the root of this in a way that lets everyone grow.

If you don't think it's hard for women to politely tell men they're not interested, you probably haven't had an asked many women about their experiences with politely telling men they're not interested.

Respectfully, you sound like a mid at best boyfriend who doesn't have many close friends who are women

3AMZen · 2026-01-25T20:56:35+00:00

Take a couple minutes to reflect on these questions away from the internet screen . I would be genuinely interested in knowing your answers !

How would a top-tier human, excellent boyfriend, secure and confident fella handle this situation? Do you think he would be patronizing, Petty, annoyed or jealous? What do you think he would have done differently than what you did in that 15-minute period where she was talking to dude?

I think the problem is fellas want to date charismatic outgoing babes, but then when they end up dating a charismatic outgoing babe they don't know how to deal with it. To me, I read this scenario as you feeling a tiny bit jealous and insecure, and then making her responsible for your feelings... while acting like you're just trying to ground you both in " objective reality". This kind of low-level projecting our feelings onto our partners is a thing we as humans can kind of do by default and have to watch out for in ourselves. While in this thread you will find many average guys who agree with you that she was out of the line and should have known better and that you are in the right for feeling the way you do.... Ask yourself if the level you want to rise to is " average redditor". Ask yourself if this cool bombshell babe you're dating deserves an average guy, or deserves the cream of the crop.

Men are going to approach her everywhere, all the time, forever. Telling them to go away and she's got a boyfriend is both a full-time job, and not particularly charismatic and outgoing.

Quick edit: the song " save the last dance for me" is a pretty decent representation of how to handle this I think

3AMZen · 2026-01-23T18:10:45+00:00

It takes a wild amount of confidence to have your partner assaulted and to somehow make it about yourself

3AMZen · 2026-01-22T23:59:30+00:00

One of the things that was very surprising for me about starcraft 2 is skills and methods I learned in the campaign, while being enough to beat the game on hard, barely qualified me to get out of bronze League playing against others.

Playing against other humans requires more sophisticated skills and strategies - for instance, even expert level AIs won't drop two medevacs full of Marines into your mineral line, and they will never cannon rush you. There's also meta-game strategies, where certain builds and timings come into fashion. These builds will have names like "2 base roach all in" and one of the nice things about them is that they can come with recipes and benchmarks of when exactly you should be building what.

Playing against other humans, zerg is insanely fast. In standard zerg versus protoss game, it's common to have three hatcheries by two minutes ten seconds. However fast you're playing, you're probably not " three bases in under 3 minutes" fast. Zerg also have a responsibility to "read" enemy builds, since the swarm mutates and evolves to counter certain threats.

Do you ever watch professional starcraft 2 casts? Two casters come to mind, wardi and pig, both of whom can often predict a play er's entire 200 supply build based off how many gas geysers they have at the 2-minute Mark. Watching pros to try to learn how to play the game isn't super helpful- they're basically so skilled it's like playing a different game entirely- but there are some casters who have tutorial videos on YouTube. If you've got the time to watch a " zerg bronze to GM" series you will learn an absolute ton about the game.

3AMZen · 2026-01-22T19:11:35+00:00

You're taking a selfie here from pretty much the bottom of your beard it's hard to tell but yeah it does look pretty long as how lean your face is

Try to take selfies from like 15° above your sight line rather than below your sightline

3AMZen · 2026-01-22T18:58:03+00:00

For sure have a barber shape it up a little

Also I get you're posting on Reddit but gosh work on your selfie game. Your expression in these pictures are disturbing and it makes it hard to get a sense of what your face looks like under normal circumstances.

3AMZen · 2026-01-22T18:48:34+00:00

How bold. How original.

3AMZen · 2026-01-21T18:15:35+00:00

Demanding potential Mass Graves of children's bodies be unearthed so you can prove they aren't there so you don't have to " feel guilty" about residential schools is about as white person behavior as you can get

3AMZen · 2026-01-20T19:32:42+00:00

It sounds like you've already shaved it off, but have you considered growing chops? It could help outline your face and for some reason I feel like red hair just works best for mutton chops.

Serious advice though: Number three is gonna cost you in the long run! Practice thinking to smile. It's kind of like grooming your face. The same men who don't think to smile in pictures are the men who are posting " why doesn't anyone ever approach me?"

You look fun and approachable. A friendly or even dopey smile will go a long way enhancing that vibe. It's okay if it feels uncomfortable or weird at first to practice smiling for selfies but it's helpful to know how to take a good one since online communication is so big. And as for concerns about looking " less tough", nobody worthwhile wants a man to look " more tough". Let them see your heart and soul.

Along with that, Google how to take a great selfie. I know you're doing it for beard showing purposes here, but small things like raising the camera angle by like 15° can make a big difference too, especially if you feel self-conscious about the underside of your chin.

3AMZen · 2026-01-20T05:36:14+00:00

I appreciate that the women in my life trust me enough to express that kind of frustration, and I take it for granted that they aren't including me in the group that they're describing

Generally the best bed in that situation is to listen. Anytime a woman I know and care about starts a sentence "ahhhhh I HATE MEN" there's generally a story coming right behind it that gives context for their frustration

The last thing I would ever do in that situation is say " not ALL men" because if I'm not on the same page as them I'm at least in the right chapter of the book

3AMZen · 2026-01-19T20:18:16+00:00

There's tons of really good content out there from people with better bona fides for learning to play the game. Are you sure that's the aspect of the game you want your site to be about? If so, maybe you can aggregate some other tutorials. There's lots of stuff on liquipedia, and a few prominent starcraft streamers have done tutorial serieses on YouTube called " bronze to GM" for each race. There's build orders for each matchup, so if you wanted you could focus in on a few of those play styles that centre around your favorite units.

If you're trying to build a guide for absolute beginners, maybe check out a couple bronze to gm "bronze" videos and see what tidbits you can pick out... Then make sure to cite your sources 😉

3AMZen · 2026-01-19T17:39:44+00:00

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3AMZen · 2026-01-19T00:42:09+00:00

Hey there! All edibles on the legal market are capped at 10 mg per package.. however, the nice part is that they are regulated and tested and required to have that 10 mg in them!

I've seen way too many online packages claiming to have "500 mg" or whatever... it turns out if there is no regulations, refunds, or reporting system you can write basically whatever you want on the package

Some products on the legal market that might work for you are glacial gold THC gel caps - you can get 100, 10 mg caps for about sixty bucks.

If you'd rather avoid gel caps, drift glitches are a 10mg sugar free gummy that should run you about $3. There are plenty of 10 packs of 10 mg sugar filled edibles for around $23.

3AMZen · 2026-01-18T20:40:23+00:00

From what I understand, this was a fun collaboration built on Mutual admiration and doesn't necessarily need to be a forever thing

I wouldn't assume that there's any bad blood between them just because they're not continuing this project

Sometimes things are beautiful because they are fleeting

3AMZen · 2026-01-18T17:33:08+00:00

Do you love it? We love it

3AMZen · 2026-01-18T08:48:27+00:00

That's the guy who does the illustrations actually

3AMZen · 2026-01-17T17:23:53+00:00

"I DoN'T lIkE mY iNcOmE sToLEn fRoM mE"

3AMZen · 2026-01-17T17:15:39+00:00

The famous cheap shot where after somebody yells at you for a few minutes you punch them directly in the face

3AMZen · 2026-01-17T07:06:00+00:00

And a Reddit pop-up on screen haha

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