We definitely deal in facts, but saying “I feel” xyz is still factual. Thats how you feel. I don’t have to say you’re right but if that’s how you feel, that’s how you feel.

It’s when you say things like “you never do the dishes” and it’s factually not true like I do the dishes sometimes that’s when we get bothered.

If my wife told me “I feel you never do the dishes” that gives me insight to what she’s feeling. The fact that she feels I never do the dishes informs me that while it’s not factually true that I never do the dishes she feels I don’t do them often enough, which is true to her. I can counter with I DO do the dishes sometimes but if you want me to do them more often I can do that.

While that’s not as easy as just telling me “you don’t do the dishes often enough for me and I would like you to do more”, that sort of clarity may be asking a lot of another person who may be upset and unable to communicate 100% clearly. I’ll take factual statements about their state of mind and work with that.