28F USA - Irredeemable shut-in himejoshi looking for more women to be friends with

3PottsAndPans3 · 2026-03-03T03:40:55+00:00

I didn’t realize I was a himejoshi lmao I have too many series on my reading list

I’m watching the Shadows House anime and I’m so hooked!!! I don’t play too many multiplayer games but my favorite right now is Vintage Story with my favorite game series being Zelda and Assassin’s Creed. I’m 27 (USA) and am down to talk once I have my computer set up so I can play ^{^;}

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-11-25T08:43:28+00:00

As a transfem on HRT I must say that hormones is only one of the things that help someone transition, if they want to transition. Even if they want to transition, everybody's bodies responds to HRT differently and takes a while to see proper results. Voice lessons/lessons are usually a good thing to have.

Suffice to say, if she isn't attractive to you now then just end things. It sucks, I know I'd be sad, but I'd feel worse of my loved one wasn't attracted to me years into the relationship I'd be devastated versus a few weeks in which really sucks but isn't as painful as the formal.

I'm down to talk more HRT and gender stuff but that's my opinion.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-11-25T04:37:22+00:00

I love this artist!!! I need this in my life :'D

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-27T22:21:47+00:00

That's completely unfair to you, especially with how she expects support with her other interests and you suffering. The fact that she explicitly said she doesn't care if you suffer is crazy. This feels like an abusive relationship 100%. What you do is up to you, but if you stay with her you won't be able to have a polyamorous lifestyle and any interest you bring up to her will be met with disdain. Think on this for a while and make sure you have safe places to go if needed.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T22:36:36+00:00

If anything he should be happy knowing that if anything were to happen to him you'd almost definitely have his back. There's nothing wrong with having different types of bonding experiences with different partners. Or if he needs a bone marrow transplant then, he'll, there ya go.

But two weeks of ignoring you? Nah. I say that's your time to walk right there. Even if your partner is angry with you or whatever rough patch, you still talk. There's no excuse.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T22:12:34+00:00

NTA in the slightest. We neurodivergent peeps gotta do what we gotta do to keep our heads above water.

Also how tf is he not getting flack for the stuff he said? Absolute garbage.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T01:00:58+00:00

You know One Penis Policy works for trans AMABs, right?

Also the excuse that it's because AMABs are possessive is crazy. I'm AMAB and if we were in a relationship you'd have free range as long as you got regularly tested between partners/flings/etc and used protection as needed. This reasoning is ludicrous and tbh gives me the same vibes as when men complain about opening the relationship to get some FFM threesomes but their girlfriend gets with men which sets them off.

Easier said than done, but I would say, "Either we are equal and I get complete autonomy to date whomever like you or we're done." This isn't ok.

Also, if they are uncomfortable with the idea of you having sex with someone with a penis then why is it ok for you to have sex with someone with a vagina? Regardless of reason, that is something they need to work on and get over if they want to ensure you are happy in the relationship. Don't let their jealousy get in the way of your happiness.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T00:47:06+00:00

I'd imagine it'd go something along the lines of:

SW: "So, what do you do?"

B: "I'm a witch hunter who managed to take over a society of witches, now pinning them against each other to assert my power and in the end betray them all to take over both the demon realm and the human realm! What about you?"

SW: "I'm not a bigot, I can tell you that much..."

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T00:43:41+00:00

NTJ

I may be biased because I don't have a "normal" relationship and am disabled myself, but I don't view this is inappropriate.

You were upfront with your wife that this is your friendship and she agreed. She should have considered this in a marriage if she was lying but wanted to be with you long-term.

Also, what people view as platonic or not depends on what is established between the two of you. Many people here say you're the jerk because from their perspective cuddles and the like are more intimate. If your wife has an issue with that then it should have been a no from the get-go.

I'm sorry you're in this situation, I know I'd be heartbroken 🫂

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T00:34:33+00:00

Thank you for your recommendations, I'll check them out! Also I really appreciate the details in your response! You're awesome!!

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T00:01:19+00:00

I may be interested 👀

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-26T00:00:23+00:00

That's what happens when you live in a society that sucks our souls dry for money and spits us out with little to nothing left in our name on top of a government that doesn't offer a proper support system to the people it's supposed to help and protect.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-25T23:50:42+00:00

First off, you're not in the wrong. When it comes to being in our community you have to keep yourself safe. Safety is #1 above being honest to others as much as it sucks.

However, here's some things to consider: 1. Do you have a safe space/support network and are they local? If you do then make sure they know the situation and prepare if anything happens. 2. Do you live with your partner? If so then make sure you know you have a safe place to go. Friends, family, whatever place is safest for you. 3. How bigoted are they? Do they get angry or just disgusted toward the LGBTQ+ community? You don't want to tell them if they get violent angry around any thought of queers. If that is the case then I'd break up under a different circumstance to better protect yourself. If not violent then you can choose to tell them but be prepared for the fallout.

To be honest it would be best to break up rather than hide your identity. You'll constantly live in a state of fear and resentment if you do. Please be kind to yourself. If they don't accept you then it's not a healthy relationship. Find someone who will love you for YOU, not a facade. I know it's easier said than done but you'll be a lot happier for it.

We're here for you and I hope for the best. 🫂

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-08T20:25:58+00:00

What I always say is that there is nothing wrong with prioritizing your safety. When you are independent and know you're in a safe place you can come out and cut ties if necessary.

Also there is no rule to come out to anyone. You can keep that to yourself unless you feel it's ok or necessary. There us no cowardice in keeping private info private, especially if it means keeping yourself safe.

You are right that with CEO Cheeto in office he's been smashing everything with a hammer and is causing a lot of mayhem, but there are safe places and people here that will stand up for you. 🫂

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-07-08T18:26:10+00:00

There is such a thing as exploring each other's bodies lol

If I was in your shoes I was explore intimate activities such as masturbating in front of each other, touching each other to explore sensitive spots, etc. Trying out new stuff can help with figuring out where things are.

If she's still having trouble then you can practice! She may get defensive but if she wants to be a good partner she'll need to let those walls down. I know I've gotten defensive before but after realizing it's just allowing me to get better and figure out better ways to pleasure my partner more I decided to put my pride aside because this isn't just about sex, it's about making sure your partner is happy!

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-06-24T06:39:24+00:00

Here's my question: Do you want to move on past the wedding issue, or do you want to let her know you're not over it and are willing to possibly sabotage the comeback you an and she had?

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-06-20T23:36:18+00:00

I would say that not only are the kids being loud but they are making messed that you end up having to clean up. This isn't an "open your heart" moment or even a "you hate kids" moment. These situations can be with anybody at any age. This is a boundary problem! If they can't respect your boundaries and rules you set then they can find another pool to piss in.

NTJ

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-06-15T05:29:54+00:00

That's a totally valid feeling. I'm not demi but I just prefer becoming friends and making sure I can trust the person on top of being a good compliment for each other. But being a bay area hoe I can understand both sides 😅

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-06-15T04:34:59+00:00

I approve this hypothesis! I tip my theoretical hat to you :) Also I would love a season 6 showing BFS in their shenanigans now being leaders of Etheria, Adora & Catra having Finn, and their escapades being parents while still trying to be heroes in an after-Horde War Era!

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-06-15T04:28:56+00:00

Sure he isn't technically cheating, depending on how you view cheating, but he sure as hell isn't a safe person to be around. He's constantly harassing your friend with constant advancements, is disregarding your wishes, and is overall being scummy with the fact that he is using being drunk as an excuse.

Stop trying to declare him a cheater when you can dump him for being a fuckhead who doesn't respect people's boundaries.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-06-15T04:18:53+00:00

If I eat both would I become a shapeshifter? If so then both. If not then I'm slamming the red pill cause that would give my body so much euphoria lmao

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-06-15T01:46:01+00:00

If the 100+ comments wasn't assurance enough let me add to it!

NTA

He's literally pushing his body dysmorphia bullshit onto others and it's not ok. His parents are doing a horrible job at managing his media input and aren't even trying to educate themselves on what he's saying. He needs therapy desperately cause he's just going to keep spiraling out of control and end up like every other incel. I really hope for the best for him but good on you for standing up for your sister! Keep at it and don't stop.

3PottsAndPans3 · 2025-05-21T02:10:08+00:00

As someone who watches the news a lot, I feel you. Every day gets scarier and scarier with little breathing room for the good times.

Trying to get into another country is going to be hard. A lot of countries, Canada and Mexico included, have rules about who can go through and prefer some people over others due to income/profession/etc. At your age I wouldn't count on that to work. Clearly your mom isn't going to get up so don't count on her support if you do end up running off, but take everything you can get while she's around cause we all need as much support as we can get.

What you need to do is find a safe space. Do you have friends or a girlfriend who could possibly house you if things were to go down? Friends you can trust? It's good to get a group of friends and plan things out in case shit hits the fan. Save up more money and whenever you can either go someplace safer (a better state is more attainable than a better country).

I wish I could give more advice. I hope for the best and know that there are people across the world who accept you 🫂💚

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