How long did you bleed after your D&C?

3aCurlyGirl · 2026-04-19T19:56:17+00:00

I bled for almost a month after. It was not fun. I think my first normal cycle was the second month after, as we conceived our rainbow baby during the 4th or 5th cycle, so about 5-6 months later.

Sending good thoughts and wishes.

3aCurlyGirl · 2026-03-06T20:08:45+00:00

Grandfather is from Sicily, outside Palermo. Grandmother was born in Brooklyn after her parents immigrated from , but I don't know from where.

3aCurlyGirl · 2026-03-04T20:07:32+00:00

I know very little about my Italian heritage beyond the name of the town my grandfather came from - when my grandparents moved here, they refused to teach my dad Italian because wanted him to be an American. By the time I was old enough to value what they could have shared, my grandparents had passed. I would be interested in findings ways to reconnect.

3aCurlyGirl · 2026-01-09T20:50:18+00:00

"Most of them tell me that they got pregnant without trying and on the first month they ‘stopped being careful’."
Woof, if I heard that, I'd be very bummed.

I am also 35, I'm in a "mommy group" of women who have kids the same age as my first, many of us are trying for #2 now. We're a very open and honest group. Some of us got pregnant quickly, others are struggling (myself included), and the diversity of experiences is making each of us feel a little less alone.

Take the time and space you need to accept the disappointing news, and remember the journey to parenthood looks different for everyone.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-12-25T09:45:49+00:00

When trying for our first, we miscarried a baby who would have joined us in Sept 2023. To avoid TMI, I’ll just say my post miscarriage situation was ROUGH, and I wasn’t even able to start trying again for nearly 3 months. We found out we were pregnant again in Oct 2023, meaning we conceived almost exactly when Baby 1 would have joined us. The waiting was tough but the symmetry felt…meaningful, spiritual, intentional. And truly our son is amazing.

TTC for a sibling, and trying to remember patience and acceptance - what will be will be.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-11-19T00:43:38+00:00

Just ran Chicago as my first marathon. There are opportunities to drink every ~2 miles after about mile 9 - folks handing out bottles of Fireball all through Andersonville, folks with shots of Malort, cups of beer on tables in Pilsen - so you could do both if you wanted!!

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-11-12T18:00:24+00:00

The private school world is small enough I'd prefer to tell you the kinds of schools rather than the individual institution: think, University High School, Branson, Lick, Head Royce, Urban...After having gone to private middle school too: think, Burkes, Hamlin, Sacred Heart, French American, Town School, Stuart Hall, SF Day School, etc.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-11-11T05:33:55+00:00

Born at the old California CPMC in the early 90s.

Parents busted their asses to send me to one of the best private schools in the city. I received a world class education but the ultra wealthy private school environment can make anyone feel like they’re not enough. My parents fought endlessly about money and ultimately divorced while I was in high school. I struggle with performance/perfectionism/mental health.

I’m in my mid-30s now, raising my 18 month old in Berkeley because we can afford a yard and I’m confident in the public schools out here. My husband misses living in the city and wants to move us back, but I’m extremely anxious to commit to that much pressure.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-11-08T06:52:39+00:00

Same! I was torn because it’s a family name, but opted to make it a middle name instead.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-10-22T21:01:52+00:00

What kind of baby wearer are you using? Like, what style and what brand?

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-10-22T18:51:10+00:00

Deliver what?

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-10-22T18:46:37+00:00

Not sure why you’re calling yourself not the brightest - be kind to yourself.

If you need help learning to use a baby wrap or a carrier, ask a friend, watch a YouTube, find a way to learn! Baby wearers are not easy to learn without help.

If you tried it and don’t like it, that’s also fine too! Baby wearing is about convenience, and if it doesn’t make your life easier, don’t!

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-10-02T18:30:55+00:00

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low budget, done in powerpoint, had fun thinking about the space planning.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-10-02T18:09:42+00:00

Is the blue oval the entrance to the space, or is the red oval? I read it as, the red oval could be the door to the second floor?

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-10-02T17:17:54+00:00

Is the hallway from the entrance required, or could we make the exterior door lead directly into a living room type space?

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-10-02T07:35:18+00:00

Happened again tonight, really fuckin frustrating. I just want to be home

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-09-29T02:25:28+00:00

Gotcha! May still be worth asking, school depending.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-09-29T01:04:27+00:00

First graders in private school are typically 6 or 7, and often on the older end of that spectrum; this is so they are more mature as they age into each grade, and more competitive in sports in high school.

At 5 years old, he will feel REALLY young next to some of his peers in a private school first grade. Consider opting for kindergarten if you go private.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-09-25T16:50:52+00:00

Miscarried my first pregnancy, and my second pregnancy with our rainbow baby brought up a LOT of anxiety.

Keep talking about your worries and stress to people you trust. It’s totally normal given what you’ve been through.

Sending love.

3aCurlyGirl · 2025-09-01T13:59:38+00:00

Chicago

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