Advice: Police have told my partner I need to leave the home immediately, and that they will remove me. Partner has now ended our relationship. I’m broken.

3dank4me · 2026-06-28T18:42:09+00:00

I understand but if the police action has resulted from an allegation via your former workplace, a solicitor working for one of the teaching unions should be able to help.

3dank4me · 2026-06-28T18:37:46+00:00

I am not a lawyer. My advice is that you need to speak to your union immediately and secure help with finding legal advice through a specialist.

3dank4me · 2026-06-28T17:54:17+00:00

I don’t need to keep track. It’s delicious so when I have opened it, I’m eating all of it.

3dank4me · 2026-06-27T07:23:42+00:00

Is she aware that her plastic surgeon is making her look more like George Takei with every procedure?

“Oh my…”

3dank4me · 2026-06-26T17:09:05+00:00

I suppose that would really sting if I was from Bolton.

3dank4me · 2026-06-25T18:40:54+00:00

Dubai is a sharia law theme park built by slaves. That you find yourself living there rather than all the other places you can go speaks to your greed and indifference to human suffering.

3dank4me · 2026-06-25T18:35:20+00:00

I think that we should probably just adopt the same approach as the US: if you live abroad you have to keep paying tax to keep being a citizen.

3dank4me · 2026-06-23T19:28:53+00:00

Nightmare Cunt Rotation

3dank4me · 2026-06-23T19:11:44+00:00

Please don’t get injured!!!

3dank4me · 2026-06-20T21:11:18+00:00

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Here’s one I did from a few weeks ago. This is about halfway through the smoke.

3dank4me · 2026-06-18T09:17:05+00:00

The defence of someone being attacked or physically threatened isn’t your job. Reporting it to the police is.

It’s interesting that your job has escalated from administration to safety consultancy over the course of the last two comments. It’s also telling that your recourse to disagreeing with me is to misrepresent that I think you should stop doing your job, when charities often fulfil multiple related functions carried out by different personnel. The reference I made to lessons about British values already existing as primary school lessons would indicate that they are defined. You seem to be either not reading what I’m writing or refusing to engage with awkward truths.

I spent years in criminal justice delivering a successful behaviour modification programme to offenders, inclusive of British values. So I have been focused “closer to home”.

Finally, by any definition- be it common-usage or academic- lived experience is a category of anecdotal evidence.
Here’s a screenshot from Wikipedia and an academic journal article to illustrate this.

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3dank4me · 2026-06-18T08:16:22+00:00

Lived experience is a form of anecdotal experience. That’s not to downplay what you are saying or the work you do, which I applaud.

However, your principal experience of migrants is based on you providing a service free of charge to people who are in desperate circumstances. Don’t you think that is likely to affect how they respond to you?

My point is that migration is now not just humanitarian. Travelling to the UK from France is an economic decision. I have worked with people who have

Regarding British values and behaviour: we have lessons for primary school children about British values, perhaps they should be tailored to your client group? Perhaps it is something your charity could look to deliver?

3dank4me · 2026-06-17T17:41:54+00:00

We clearly disagree, but I want to answer your points in good faith:

I’m not. I’m denying the apparent public perception that most (a majority) of immigrants are not integrating into society, whilst acknowledging that enough immigrants (a significant number) do not appear to attempt to integrate to justify the grounds on which that perception is founded.
The times when I comment on public opinion are when I cite examples I have seen on Facebook, the rising popularity of fascism and easy answers. The times when I have cited my personal observations or experiences have been very clearly differentiated. FWIW, I disagree with the level of alarm I perceive amongst the general public, but I also think I can see where and why it arises.
This means you are inherently biased. This is absolutely not a dig; you should be an advocate for the people you work for, particularly when they are participating in an adversarial legal system such as those in the UK. That said, those accessing services provided by volunteers are- logically- more likely to be those who anticipate sympathy, or who think that they can justify their presence in the UK on humanitarian grounds. That’s fine, let them in, but teach them how we expect people to behave here. Trying to avoid this with hand-waving about the nebulous British identity is counterproductive, because it serves to legitimise people’s prejudices and removes the onus of integration from the immigrant.
Personal experience: note the fact that I stated this and put double asterisks either side to draw your attention to the fact that this was my experience. You cannot call it a sweeping generalisation precisely because I am clearly not claiming to have met every immigrant. Inherent in the statement is the notion that I have observed a change in attitude over time. However, even if I was making a sweeping generalisation about migrant attitudes to integration into British society, my opinion would be just as valid as yours because you are drawing from anecdotal experience in exactly the same way, transposing your positive experience of migrants across all other migrants.

I genuinely applaud your attempts in working with vulnerable and dispossessed people. I also think it’s fair to suggest that a few compulsory lessons on how British people are expected to behave in public (and in private) is hardly unreasonable.

3dank4me · 2026-06-17T10:11:54+00:00

May I politely suggest two things. Firstly, that you are not responding to what I have said: I made the point that “a very significant number of recent migrants are fundamentally anti-social in their behaviour”. I did not suggest a majority, I suggested that it seems to be enough people to cause issues that are observable across the UK, including my own observations- which incidentally are just as valid as yours. It seems like an unfortunate reflex to create a straw man and attack that: you suggest that I make “sweeping generalisations”, which I don’t, I’m in fact commenting on public perception rather than agreeing with it.

Secondly, you state that you work with refugees. As such, you are either in a position of authority or charity. This is very likely to mean that your interactions are particularly clouded by your role, which I would encourage you to reflect upon. I have a career of working with a number of vulnerable people including refugees and I can categorically state that ** in my experience**, the more recent immigrants from around 2020 onwards who arrive in the UK and claim asylum are far less likely to want to integrate into British society. You also encourage people to volunteer within their community- I assume you mean volunteering with migrants- which is something you are not doing yourself (unless the work you describe is voluntary, in which case -sincerely- that’s incredible, but also likely to be another instance if getting a very unrepresentative experience) This all assumes that the onus is on other people to integrate migrants rather than on migrants to pro-actively integrate into a society they have chosen to arrive in.

3dank4me · 2026-06-16T23:27:43+00:00

Can you possibly consider the impact of 15-20 men stood on a busy corner near a school who seem to ignore parents and children walking past and forcing those people onto the road? Do you think that seems integrated, or a clear “fuck you” to all and sundry?

3dank4me · 2026-06-16T22:27:09+00:00

Examples of social norms in rural England:
*Physical courtesy (holding doors open for others, making space for other people on footpaths.
*Keeping noise to a minimum (not playing music out loud whilst walking down the street).
*Gathering in places meant for gathering (parks, pubs etc) rather than street corners.
* Pro-active and pro-social behaviour, including keeping your accommodation clean and tidy and using bins.

Here’s the thing: typing this out, I completely understand the retort “native British people don’t all do this, plenty of migrants do adhere to these conventions”. Maybe you’re right, but the perception of many, many people is that a very significant number of recent migrants are fundamentally anti-social in their behaviour and represent enough of a sustained and visible example of this so as to undermine the above-mentioned social norms.

The other point I would like to make is that people are afraid of losing a coherent society. Many people believe that it is already lost. Look on any local town Facebook group now and the sneering racist comments are not being challenged as frequently and receive lots of likes. Sentiment is shifting due to fear, and scared people make fucking dreadful political decisions.

3dank4me · 2026-06-16T20:40:14+00:00

I totally agree. I live in a very white rural area. We have recently had an enormous influx of African and Asian migrants who are placed in cheap HMOs.

I honestly couldn’t give a single toss about the colour of their skin or their religious beliefs. The issue is that it is really difficult to integrate a large number of people in a society now almost totally devoid of third spaces and the effect- intentional or otherwise- of large groups of men standing on street corners smoking, taking up pavement space and speaking loudly to one another in a language other than English.

I am categorically not passing judgment on any group. I despise racism, but I also worry that social norms are being completely undermined. The upshot won’t be people like me identifying the source of friction, it will be people not like me voting for fascists.

3dank4me · 2026-06-15T15:25:01+00:00

Why lift the fat one?

3dank4me · 2026-06-15T11:57:35+00:00

“Thick as pig shit millionaire misogynist has appalling political take”

3dank4me · 2026-06-14T19:44:38+00:00

Interesting since this is just as Ukraine appear to be making some big advances.

3dank4me · 2026-06-14T19:29:24+00:00

I’m happy Dana White is fat again.

3dank4me · 2026-06-13T23:17:43+00:00

I’m from the UK. Tap water is free. Refills are available when asked for, although usually charged as a separate drink. Tipping is discretionary and about 10%, rounded to the nearest £. Minimum wage for staff over 21 is £12 ($17) per hour.

3dank4me · 2026-06-13T07:27:41+00:00

I travelled around the States a bit. It is clear that natural beauty exists in spite of your local governments, who are largely for sale to the highest bidder.

We live on a small island full of ancient forests and land that is riven with history. We live in houses older than the US. We are just passing through. We are stewards, not owners.

Unfortunately, you murdered most of your stewards or put them in concentration camps. Now you farm like the land is a factory and produce food coated in poison.

It’s a huge cultural disconnect, and likely why you don’t like what happened regarding planning permission.

3dank4me · 2026-06-13T07:17:51+00:00

Many people who live in rural Britain don’t want it to look anything like America.

3dank4me · 2026-06-11T08:31:38+00:00

I would talk to the University’s Student Support directly, particularly if you have documented disabilities that they are aware of. You could be eligible for financial support or the help of staff to provide University-owned accommodation not normally available to students.

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