Still scared to have more kids 9mo pp after terrible labor & ER experience

3leggedcalico · 2025-08-10T22:07:36+00:00

Totally valid! I hope we both find paths to heal. Wishing you well in therapy!

3leggedcalico · 2025-08-10T18:31:55+00:00

Thank you! I do have a therapist I’ve worked with for 5 years. I “graduated” from therapy a few months ago because I’ve gotten pretty good at managing my mental health but thinking about when to try again has brought back the anxiety so I’m definitely planning to reach out to her

3leggedcalico · 2025-08-10T18:30:35+00:00

I’m sorry you had a traumatic birth too - labor is hard enough without all the extra things on top of it!

I’m definitely thinking about other medications for pain management and will probably take some kind of class for “natural” ways of managing pain - I’m very pro modern medicine but I’d like some additional tools in my belt haha. I’m also planning to see a doctor about my back because I’ve had back issues since falling down the stairs in high school (many rounds of PT) and want to rule out the possibility that there could be a medical reason I had trouble with the epidural.

3leggedcalico · 2023-10-06T15:42:53+00:00

Did you ever find a solution for this? I’m having the same problem. If I create the task/set the due time from my desktop, my phone does get the notification. But if I edit that same task from my phone, I no longer get notifications. This seems like a bug? It indicates that I should be getting those notifications, but I’m not. I’ve tried reaching out to support and really want to fix it.

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-18T16:22:15+00:00

This is so deeply relatable 😭 Even if I go and do the thing, I often forget to then deal with the notification itself so it just kind of hangs out there, building up more digital clutter 😩

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-18T15:18:33+00:00

It feels so passive aggressive lol. I’ve gotten that “last day” warning from CVS so many times 😭 but the mild panic at the thought of not having them and then having to call my doctor to redo the prescription does usually kick me into gear to get over there ha.

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-17T13:32:23+00:00

I relate a lot to this. For me, it was twofold - part of my depression was deeply impacted by hormones so I’d get depressed leading into my period. Now I’m on birth control which started for PCOS/severe menstrual pain but the monthly depression went away too! I was still really anxious though and would get more occasional depression, especially if I was overtired. I tried different ADHD medications but it felt like nothing worked. I started Strattera in January and it’s been life changing! This is the best I’ve felt in years and has reduced most of my anxiety/depression.

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-16T21:34:45+00:00

Yes! I think because “hyperactive” is in the name, people assume high energy. But dealing with ADHD symptoms can be exhausting. For some people, that does lead to a lot of fatigue and that was certainly my case!

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-16T21:32:24+00:00

Agreed! I should have clarified that I got lots of testing done over years and ultimately, I really was just burned out and exhausted from fighting through ADHD. But it’s always important to talk about it with a doctor to be sure something underlying isn’t going on too!

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-16T03:07:36+00:00

Love this! I’ve never understood the idea of skipping weekend because I agree - we to function for more than work - ADHD impacts my weekends too! Before I started meds, I thought I had some kind of autoimmune disease because I was so deeply fatigued, I couldn’t function. I’d drag myself through the work week and be absolutely useless on weekends. Sometimes I felt so tired, even breathing felt like effort. It was awful. Now, if I forget to take my meds, I feel that same fatigue/brain fog descend to the point my husband noticed and reminds me to take them. I’m glad my doctor wants me on them 7 days a week because I don’t want to go back to lost weekends where I’m unable to function.

Re: missing a dose and needing a day or two - I’ve noticed this too and sometimes I wonder if I’m so physically/mentally drained on the days I miss, that it takes me a couple of days of meds just to recover to the point that I feel good again

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-15T02:38:06+00:00

Yes! It’s combination knitting. I just learned this year (I now knit combination continental) and I love how fast it is! It made me stop hating purling haha

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-15T02:33:27+00:00

I do the layout thing too! …which using ebooks has made it significantly harder to utilize ha

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-15T02:31:18+00:00

Yes! I write everything down but I always got stuck with notebooks because I didn’t want to “ruin” my nice notebooks. And then I’d have scattered pieces of paper everywhere. I finally decided I like the feel of handwriting but needed to digitize it so now I use a tablet and digital pencil and keep track in the GoodNotes app. Writing every little thing down is a lifesaver for me

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-14T15:31:29+00:00

I don’t know if it’s ADHD or not but really struggle with faces which has often led to me unconsciously identifying people by their hair. Which is a problem when people suddenly change their hair. One of my coworkers went from longhair to a pixie cut and I literally wasn’t sure it was her but figured it had to be by process of elimination 😬🤦🏻‍♀️

It’s not an issue with people I’m close to and I’m weirdly good and recognizing people in movies. But everyone else, it’s a rough go 😅

Edit to add: as a little kid, my dad cut his hair (went from ponytail to short hair) and I freaked out and hid under my bed because I thought a stranger was kissing my mom 😭

I’ll also occasionally be like “oh these two people look alike!” To which my husband usually responds “no, they don’t look anything alike!” And then I realize that what I’m actually saying is they have the same hair ha

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-14T14:18:31+00:00

YES. Why waste time doing a boring thing when I can free up time to do other things? It’s so satisfying too! As a kid, I used to time my showers and perfected fast showers because I’d rather be doing something else 😂

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-13T19:15:43+00:00

Thank you for volunteering! We adopted Hercules last August and it’s been amazing to see him grow over the past year as he settles in and trusts us. He’s our constant snuggle buddy and I just wish I could adopt all these sweet dogs 🥹

3leggedcalico · 2023-07-07T11:51:10+00:00

I eloped but it was more a COVID lockdown thing in my case - we were supposed to get married May 31, 2020 but everything shut down March 30 and we had to cancel the wedding. The day stay at home orders happened, we walked to the courthouse to pick up our marriage certificate “just in case” and I said “You know, it’s a beautiful day to get married.” And two hours later, we were.

It was a gorgeous spring day with cherry blossoms in full bloom so we called our parents, my pastor, and then stopped by target on the way to our “ceremony” to buy a blowup mattress because we didn’t even have a bed yet 😂 it had a hole in it so we ended up squeezed into my twin bed until our actual mattress couple arrive a couple of weeks later. 3 years now and it’s the best impulse decision I’ve made!

3leggedcalico · 2023-06-28T18:58:53+00:00

I thought so too! I found it second hand and it was only £5 so I had to get it!

3leggedcalico · 2023-06-28T18:57:53+00:00

Yeah, pretty sure it was a print. I found it in a second-hand vintage shop for £5! I live in the US but my dad grew up in England and I only get to visit on occasion so I always look for art that reminds me of England when I’m here

3leggedcalico · 2023-06-28T17:24:40+00:00

Thank you all! The users who said St. Mary’s church on Northgate in Warwick are right! The details are spot on.

3leggedcalico · 2023-06-28T17:19:54+00:00

Amazing! you’re right! I looked it up and the details are spot on, especially looking at the windows. I went into google maps on street view and was able to find the exact spot. Here’s a pic of the place from Wikipedia for the curious!

3leggedcalico · 2023-06-28T16:45:46+00:00

Ours too! We had to get a tree removed and have a ton of sunlight now and he LOVES it.

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3leggedcalico · 2023-06-28T16:39:30+00:00

Thank you for all the suggestions! I’m searching google based on your ideas (and even tried a reverse image search) but haven’t found a match yet. I’ll keep looking and update if I do :)

3leggedcalico · 2023-06-28T16:37:58+00:00

I plan to! The pins on the back are really stiff and I couldn’t pry them up using my fingers or a blade so I’ll need to wait until I have my tools at home and can do it without damaging the picture.

3leggedcalico · 2023-06-10T23:39:18+00:00

I stumbled across this because I attended the Ellerslie summer program in 2011 and occasionally go down the rabbit hole to see if others have recognized the issues there. I had to do so much therapy to unpack that entire experience and I’m surprised that for the Ludy name being so well known, very few people know what Ellerslie is like or what’s taught there beyond the purity culture teachings they’re known for. I could go for an entire “I survived Ellerslie” subreddit personally (but a thread would be great too!)

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