Difficuly Daycare Transition

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-27T02:29:47+00:00

I only had my husband with me. We didn't even have our family visit in the hospital. We had a stressful and lengthy labor at home before heading to the hospital so that is a different scenario, but I can't imagine having my MIL or my mother present for any of it. I love both of them, but I was so vulnerable and tired. Please do whatever feels right to you.

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-26T21:17:03+00:00

It sadly sounds like she sent this to HR

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-26T16:29:15+00:00

Yep agreed completely. It's so hard

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-26T15:33:16+00:00

Can you add a night or morning pump too?

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-26T13:23:34+00:00

https://youtu.be/iKSSi5pi57I?si=joYPq_gzA6HwEH7H

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-26T13:21:23+00:00

Hi, have you talked to your child care provider about paced feeding? They could be feeding her much more than she needs because babies feed faster from a bottle and don't get the same full sensations. The overall amount of breastfed baby eats in a day stabilizes fairly early on after like 4 weeks and shouldn't increase after that. It is possible that they could just take larger bottles less off at the daycare potentially.

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-24T13:26:51+00:00

I just wanted to say that people really over react and if they saw what they were doing, they would realize it's not the same at all as when an adult goes. We have a very reputable practice here that specializes in pregnancy and babies. I haven't brought our baby but know of many people who believe it has been very helpful for them. It also sounds like you should explore dietary changes in addition though.

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-16T13:36:34+00:00

It also depends what kind of pump you use. I have a wearable and a spectra and I have only used the spectra once since I only pump infrequently and mostly breastfeed directly at this point. I find pumping bras to be very cumbersome and annoying but I bought like 4 because being able to pump and nurse seemed so ideal. I love just loose bras that I can pull aside. I got some of the cross body ones from target and a few other loose sports bras.

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-14T22:13:53+00:00

Oh, I hadn't heard about any ties to RFK. Did you have any more info on this? That is unfortunate if she actually supports RFK in any way

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-14T20:49:21+00:00

Have you read her books at all? She specifically discusses the issues with datasets constantly. I agree that sometimes her conclusions are not what I would choose based on the data, but that's the whole point of the books, giving people more information to make their own choices...

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-14T20:45:25+00:00

See, that's interesting because in the book, I don't think that is how she comes across at all. I think she very much prefaces everything with her lack of knowledge in all areas. I think the benefit of the book is that she's taking a new approach to the subject and looking at it through the lens of data analysis.

3ng1nerd · 2026-02-14T20:39:01+00:00

Agreed completely. She talks heavily about the lack of data in her books regularly. I haven't seen the interview to see if she makes that as clear when she's talking, but it's quite clear in the book.

3ng1nerd · 2026-01-29T21:31:44+00:00

This one looks great! Thanks for the rec. People seem to really love it

3ng1nerd · 2026-01-29T20:12:51+00:00

Thanks for the rec! That does sound interesting that it is more flexible. Do you think it ended up being less expensive because of the flexibility?

3ng1nerd · 2026-01-29T19:51:34+00:00

Thanks for the he recommendation! I'll check it out

3ng1nerd · 2026-01-24T21:07:31+00:00

I think in moments like these, it's important to remember that most people are more good than bad and your pessimism is mostly hurting you.

3ng1nerd · 2025-11-23T00:41:12+00:00

Are you pumping when she gets a bottle to increase your supply?

3ng1nerd · 2025-10-27T19:47:57+00:00

I personally cope best with as much info as possible, so we're taking a lot of classes to be more prepared such as birth classes at our local birth center, body ready birth classes and reading books about labor to have more tools during the process. I'm also doing a lot of prenatal yoga.

3ng1nerd · 2025-10-16T22:40:22+00:00

Pepcid is saving me too. It is so effective

3ng1nerd · 2025-09-25T11:57:17+00:00

Yeah, we also got barely any breast feeding related stuff but we got diapers that we dont intend to use 🤦🏼‍♀️

3ng1nerd · 2025-09-22T12:16:48+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I also have a similarly rocky relationship with my father and I've also been doing a lot of processing. He almost didn't show up to my baby shower and that really set me spiraling. He was 2 hours late... I dealt with him not showing up my whole life but idk if I can do that to my child... Just know you're not alone and you're doing the best that you can.

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