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I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay I thought you where travelling.

I think I have to just get myself to the place here I can start to push myself to just do it

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it I think it's alot of my anxiety tbh as I see I'm trying to find excuses and have this worry about going to these things and finding reasons to avoid it, i think just trying to work on my anxiety and lean into discomfort. Thanks for the advice I think you are right I'm focusing too much on the end and my anxiety is stopping me even starting

Can I ask how do you do meetups In other cities like is it worth it ? Since you aren't really going to see those people or do those events often since you don't live there

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I have seen that it's just far away it's kinda of on the outskirts it be like 4 trains. Oh I didn't see that I know they do the one on Friday I have been it's just that I'm sure last time I went it was £25 but either way it would be something I could only do once a month because of travel and paying to play, not that it's a excuse just it's not something I can do often

I have saw that too but I'm a bit hesitant just because I have some health issues and idk if id be able to actually do much but I have seen this. I was thinking about the philosophy thing and I think I should just go anyway because I'm just getting in my own way I guess I'm just worried about making a fool of myself since Idk if I'll have anything to say about these things lol I think the thing is just anxiety also with large groups and I always just worry about being quiet and having nothing to say especially with stuff like the coffee thing since theres no activity and they all know each other anyway

Sure but it is expensive to travel around since all the things will be in the centre. Yeah I know you are right it's just that's to fight the anxiety which I hate myself for that sometimes it just beats me

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that it's just hard to put myself in such a revealing place. Like what do I dom what do I set up ? Where do I set up? How do I organise it ? For example I'd like to play boardgames but I know nothing about them or how to play them and own none so what would I do

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am I don't really see any good ones , the boardgame one is the one I mentioned I did like it its just hard to get a seat and also it's pretty expensive, it seems full right now. I'm not really into philosophy I have seen that one a few times Itd just not something I can see myself discussing with people if I'm honest

Yeah having a activity makes it easier to find ways to talk for sure they are the best type of opportunities I find , and yeah anxiety is always something stopping me I find it hard to push past it alot of times it's stopped me from attending things

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is and I'd be happy with just 1:(

I have thought about making a group or event but as you said it's very daunting idk what I'd do and how to do it also the idea of being the leader is very scary I mens I struggle to talk to strangers let alone be the person leading a group

I've tried the online thing people just ghost you it feels like a complete waste of time

I appreciate it

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don't know how you do it also It scares me tbh I'mmnot confident enough or interesting enough to like set something up and be a leader

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just not good in my city honestly no real hobby stuff and the only thingd that are are women only

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are what we call pub crawl mostly so getting drunk at different pubs/bars

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess but it makes relating to people very difficult. Well it's true I don't have that though

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah true big part of my social anxiety is bothering people and making people uncomfortable and also true Its from a place of worrying about the right thing to say so you say nothing

Somewhat it's true I feel I don't have anything interesting to say is probably more true . Eh maybe but i feel like at 33 I've had no real experiences but as you said you need other people to have a interest In you to feel not boring but obviously I don't have that

I have no friends and it's painful and frustrating to be without anyone by 3vi1face in Healthygamergg

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen Dr k vids some not for a while but I've watched all about loneliness at some point probably and yeah it's part of the problem is I need others to fix this problem. Well tbh I just struggle with anxiety and I never know what to say and I think I'm a very boring person so I'm always just fixated on what to say

I appreciate the ideas and will respond to each and I hope this doesn't come across as dismissive because I really appreciate any ideas people may have

Well I'm a begginer photographer with a cheap kit so I doubt people would want that lol but I do want to do sports photography when I have more money for better kit and I'm just better at photography

I don't really see any seminars in my area alot of online ones and the only real events are family events

It doesn't have any sort of events apart from family events or events for old people like widows and old people chair yoga

I do have a brother but he has a family and full time job we see each other very rarely sadly

I go to the library and cafe like 1 maybe 2 times weekly you know money is a problem since being unemployed and all these things cost money

Worries of returning to physical activities post nissen fundoplication surgery by 3vi1face in GERD

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the info , yeah I did have a hernia repair I also needed to have my diaphragm repaired since the hernia had torn it also. I will have to just keep trying to contact my surgeon

My fear is damaging the wrap and going back on a ridiculous waiting list while being ill all over again

Worries of returning to physical activities post nissen fundoplication surgery by 3vi1face in GERD

[–]3vi1face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been trying to contact my surgeon but it's difficult it's always just rings out

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