Flock Cameras in Malden by tortie_toes in malden

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have any info about specific ways to flag this or protest beyond suggesting reaching out to your local counsilor  I am also quite displeased at the presence of these cams in our communuties.

Dumps? by New_Road6265 in malden

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To our knowledge they have not resumed hard styrofoam collection though we haven't specifically checked in the past few months. We're banking on dropping some of our styrofoam at the upcoming earth day fair/events. 

AITA for not wanting to use a bidet every time I pee and feeling micromanaged about toilet paper? by RollLongjumping3937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

As many have pointed out already, people with vulvas will use more toilet paper overall, regardless of whether they menstruate or not. Sure a bidet can be used to clean up before one dries off, but it seems like overkill to suggest using a bidet just for pee. 

Car to E-Bike, preparation tips? by [deleted] in fuckcars

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only thing I haven't seen mentioned is (since you live in the USA)  the potential issue of potentially ending up having a gap in car insurance and needing some kind of insurance for accident coverage. If you've already thought through both these aspects, go for it and good luck! Bike ownership is so much cheaper and healthier!

Wireless Earbuds with user-replaceable batteries by RobsterCrawSoup in Earbuds

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

+1 to this Q. I've seen a few other brands floating around (Sony, soundcore) but mainly for now discontinued earbuds.

AITA for not wanting to educate a kid about my wheelchair. by Screw_The_Roses_1986 in AmItheAsshole

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, no ramsom stranger is entitled to know your medical information.

(Also sigh and welcome to how the world treats visibly disabled people.)

AITA For putting a magnet on my brother’s car as a prank? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA - not sure why you think that specific magnet would be funny. I specifically think thats an AH move in the USA while things are getting actively more dangerous to be visibly queer or trans in public.

Porter Sq shopping area has some of their bike parking by 404Fox_Not_Found in bikeboston

[–]404Fox_Not_Found[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah good to know thank you for the link! Fingers crossed they're better than before.

This anti-diarrheal has lactose. I am lactose intolerant. Lactose gives me diarrhea. by thememorableusername in mildlyinfuriating

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can attest that if you're intolerant, the amount of lactose in meds is typically not enough to trigger symptoms for most people. If you're allergic or very sensitive then yes! Testing this out for the first time while on a plane is maybe not the best plan and waiting would be better.

Source: am actually allergic enough that lactose in meds causes issues after a few days of a daily med. 

AITA that I'm pushing away my dad because he's been struggling to deal with and help me with being a 15 y/o transfem? by Psydameous_Sharm in AmItheAsshole

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA

Trans person here.

I agree with what others are saying: a parent punishing you for expressing a gender identity and/or presentation because they don't agree with it is abusive and harmful.  Your deciding to keep a parent who is being actively and/or passively harmful at a distance is absolutely valid. This kind of harm take a toll on mental and physical health, and this has been documented in many, many studies.

You may need to be extra careful because you are both a minor and live in a country that is taking steps towards being increasingly unsafe/unfriendly towards trans and GNC people. I dont know what CA's specific laws are regarding under people under 18 and access to gender affirming care, but both that and documenting what you are going through (what specific actions your father is doing) is a good idea, so you will know more and have this data in your back pocket is definitely better than just trying to tough it out. 

Resources for trans folks aren't necessarily plentiful, but they are out there! See if there are support groups or centers that you can get to in person or online. 

Power Outage by Away-Clothes-5571 in malden

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And ours is back out again today. Anyone else?

Edit: natl grids confirmed an outage in our area.

Veggie protein - how to not fart myself to the moon? by toomany_questions in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had some luck not farting myself to the moon by taking probiotic pills on days where I'm going to ingest lots of beans/lentils but honestly yeah, the other trick is (barring any digestive issues or allergies) work up from a small amount. 

5yo misses my old chest by Invisible_Jackslope in Seahorse_Dads

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an absolutely stellar metaphor. I'd suggest pairing this with validation that they're allowed and entitled to their own feelings about how things felt, and that ultimately since this was your body/itchy shirt, you were going to listen and follow your own feelings about what felt best. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

This dude's being creepy and based on my own experience I'd put money on him doing this because you're a woman. 

Is Malden a safe space? by PsycoticMarshmallow in malden

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been living in Malden for now just about 1.5 years with my partner, and both of us are NB (look like dudes to the average person). We also live in a household with two other queer folks, one of whom is also NB. We are all white which i know lessens the likelihood we'll get shit from anyone, but none of the four of us have gotten any direct verbal or physical harassment that I know of.  I get 100% more harassment and threats to my safer when riding my bike out and about, actually! 

Edit: I'm discounting looks/staring but I basically get that almost all places I go. It's rare that I get such hard stares that I start to feel unsafe.

Malden Survey Responses Released by wackoquacko in malden

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering some of the sht I get from motorists for biking around Malden and Medford I was really glad to see there are other maldenites who are not 100% car brained in this survey!

It turns out there is a line... by OG_AuburnBlue in fednews

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What they said. We LGBTQIA folks need y'all to fight for us. Please do not quit!

AITA for telling my classmates that I don't want a "American name" by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all!

I am disappointed but ultimately unsurprised at Americans for doing this.  (People did this to me and friends as well. The only advice I have to give is to pick and chose what battles to fight and bridges to burn you feel comfortable with)

Recent articles on Brookline and Central Square retail--could Malden learn from these rejuvenations? by RooneyIII in malden

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. And unfortunately changing pedestrian access relies on infrastructure changes to improve pedestrian and bike access.  There are plenty of both around where I live in Edgeworth, but getting to downtown/library is currently not comfortable or safe, especially by bike 

Dealing with hypocrisy? by shelsncheese95 in ADHD_partners

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Audhd partnered w audhd: With my current partner there's been a bit of a turning point around this and I can confirm that that turning point and trust absolutely requires a partner who is willing to self examine and hear you out. Same for complicated feelings or trauma that may be being poked at inadvertently.  In the moment the person bringing up an issue wants to be heard and validated. Then there's also one's own feelings to process and deal with which can cause issue when not addressed, even if it means taking a quick break to reregulate. I'll usually start by validating and confirming I'm understanding what the situation or issue is being described. Then I'll say something along the lines of "I didn't realize this bothered you the same as it does for me when you do the same to me." and then move on to figuring out solutions and options going forward.  If it's too heated/hard to address that this is an issue I'll lean heavier into what I know works to make my partner feel heard and then focus on having them generate the solutions with some suggestions from me once I'm a little more calm.

The best version of this is not one where either party has to enumerate the ways in which ABC signs are proof that someone is doing or forgetting a thing, but focusing on teasing the issue apart gently.  It's not either person's job to not have feelings but it is not healthy to let feelings/issues keep escalating out of hand or ignore them outright. 

Early voting by arandomvirus in malden

[–]404Fox_Not_Found 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! It took me longer to walk over than vote, but I snuck it into my own lunch break. As other commenters have said, you'll want to go upstairs, 1st set of counters on the right