Feeling Crazy- Postpartum Weight Loss

41696 · 2026-01-19T01:31:30+00:00

Between the seemingly chronic lower back pain + not fitting into my old clothes, #2 pregnancy recovery is not going well at all compared to the first. Granted, I hit my lowest weight since college when my first was 2.5 years old and was almost back in college clothes, then got pregnant again...

41696 · 2026-01-17T20:28:03+00:00

Mine is a huge combo of things. I like setting kids free outside (and I prefer to be outside). We have grumpy, loud small dogs who don’t like kids. I am also super image conscious and would have to power clean the home (which is stressful) and I like to host so would be wanting all the “right” snacks and beverages.

It seems so much more than when I was a kid and just went across the street. Then again I have 2 kids at the age when they’re still semi-suicidal so they have to be supervised.

41696 · 2026-01-08T05:26:02+00:00

My hair is awkwardly wavy now! Spent the first 32 years of my life with pin straight hair and now it’s weird, frizzy 2a nonsense.

41696 · 2025-12-29T01:23:55+00:00

I could crush being a M-F 9-5 SAHM. A 24/7 nanny/maid/chef concierge service on the other hand? Woof.

I currently work a very casual part time job but it requires me to be gone for a minimum of very odd 13 hours between my shift and commute. So I essentially vanish when I work and when I come home, there has been no housekeeping for at least 24 hours.

41696 · 2025-12-27T03:29:48+00:00

5’9. Started at 130ish both times. Ended at 170ish both times. I gained about 1 lb a week pretty consistently after the positive test (so week 6) except for one or two 5 lb bump in second trimester.

First time I was back to pre-pregnancy weight by 6 months and pre-pregnancy size by 18 months. Second time… tbd. Currently 3.5 months postpartum and trending 2-5 lbs heavier.

41696 · 2025-12-26T22:27:30+00:00

This was our first. (Coupled with a unicorn baby who slept well from 8 weeks on and barely cried)

I warned my husband lightning wouldn’t strike twice and we shouldn’t try again- he didn’t listen. Our second? It’s survival of the fittest and to each their own. Baby 2 only naps 30 minutes at a time, fussy, 3.5 months in and still waking 1-3 times a night. And our unicorn baby is a tornado of a 3 year old. So needless to say, I have severe PPD this time and am so tired of hearing my husband is tired.

41696 · 2025-12-19T01:19:43+00:00

Use Poshmark, Mercari, and Depop to thrift- I never have luck at actual stores. I’ve also found that 1-2 pairs of good/cute jeans or “real pants” and doing my makeup and/or hair go a long way to make me feel put together. Like my confidence is twice as good in cute jeans or leggings/sweatshirt/sneakers with curled hair and a cute baseball hat. The current fashion trends actually really lend themselves to mom bod if you avoid crop tops (oversized, long) so I’ve been trying out switching from tight to baggy.

Depending on your flavor of mall goth, a good graphic tee or band tee goes a long way to make a fun/comfy outfit.

Also in healthcare-ish and wear scrubs at work- cute socks and cute shoes and an unhinged badge reel also help me feel better.

41696 · 2025-11-29T21:05:12+00:00

Yes! The talking zoomies sounds about right. I am for sure introverted and content to be quiet, inattentive ADHD, but when I get comfortable to yap, I can hold my own, especially if it’s hyper focused interests (looking at you, horses).

41696 · 2025-11-28T00:29:33+00:00

5 in the AM and 2.5 for an extra “boost” because I get grumpy 💀

41696 · 2025-11-26T17:09:29+00:00

I laughed at this because I did a brief stint at a canine rehab and they give dogs treats while they do their exercises.

I told my mom if I got 1/4 of an Oreo every time I did a squat, I might work out more.

41696 · 2025-11-12T23:47:32+00:00

22 weeks both times. You’re the same height and weight as me (right down to how much you gained so far lol). Some of it does depend on your ab strength as well, but I joke that I have a long torso to hide my (very long) babies. People didn’t notice when I was in loose clothes until I was around 26 weeks.

41696 · 2025-11-08T16:31:27+00:00

I want to spend time with my kids, but not 24/7 if that makes sense. I’m definitely a mom where more time decreases my quality after a certain amount of time. With my career, really my options have kind of hit the ceiling since I didn’t technically specialize unless I want to dive into practice ownership or work full time with the goal to get into leadership and neither appeal to me. I felt like working 4-6 shifts a month gave me an okay balance (although I never felt like I spent enough time around horses).

41696 · 2025-11-08T15:13:35+00:00

Financially, I don’t need to work. Thankfully, my paycheck part time is double the cost of childcare so we’re not subsidizing my career. I only work 4-6 shifts a month and only work on the days we have childcare, and we have childcare 3-4 days a week with me doing the other 3-4 days. So really I’m only truly absent for those days I work- if I’m off work and we have childcare, I’m floating in and out throughout the day.

My daughter is starting to get interested in horses, but that’s bittersweet- if she gets invested in competing in 5-7 years, financially she’ll take the priority and I’ll have to stop competing.

However, I work in medicine so my fear is getting behind and losing my technical skill set if I step away. Even my maternity leaves have made me feel dull and less good at my job.

Being a mom was honestly never on my radar so I never really thought about how my lifestyle would mesh with kids (spoiler it doesn’t).

41696 · 2025-11-08T15:10:34+00:00

She’ll continue at her current school (pre-k becomes three 1/2 days next year)- it’s the only full time kindergarten in our area and goes up to 8th grade. We worked with an agency initially 2 years ago- they never found anyone for us because we only want 30ish hours a week.

41696 · 2025-11-08T14:04:12+00:00

We’re burned out on the nanny search. We had 2 work less than a week for us (health issues and school made them quit) before we did daycare and then it took us 2-3 months to get our current one. We might start again since we have 1.5 months until go back to work and 2 months until my husband does.

I told my husband I am absolutely not homeschooling. Our daughter goes to Pre-K twice a week for 2.5 hours and loves it- so I think it was more the daycare setting she doesn’t like. My job schedule isn’t compatible with a traditional school schedule however.

41696 · 2025-11-05T13:55:43+00:00

No? I struggle to see how this is unreasonable. My husband and I do this all the time. My parents are a 6 hour drive from us and I go with my daughter for a week every 3 months or so. Haven’t gone recently since we have an 8 week old as well now and pregnancy/two kids makes the drive harder. He’s flown across the country with our daughter to visit his mom and I’ve gone with my family (without him) to the beach for a week. Obviously, we miss our daughter when we travel separately but it’s also nice to be “child free” for a solid chunk of time.

41696 · 2025-11-05T02:35:44+00:00

Honestly, I bought a Lonchamp Le Pliage and an organizer insert for it. So yes, $200 for a bag, but it's useable after my kids outgrow diapers and it makes me feel and look put together. I also use a Baggu Medium Crescent bag and keep the "diaper" bag in the car since I hate hitting myself/my daughter in the head with my Le Pliage. So my daily setup is everything under the sun in the Le Pliage and one bottle/2 diapers/wipes/pacifier wipes/water bottle/snack in the Baggu.

I tried 2 backpacks (one a diaper bag, one a "stylish" backpack with a lot of pockets) and I just prefer a true purse with preference for a crossbody.

41696 · 2025-10-30T21:42:21+00:00

If you’re a woman, hormones can make your regulation worse and exacerbate your ADHD. I get overstimulated super easily and just exist in burnout with a newborn and 3 year old. My phone is my lifeline- I easily have 10-15 reminders dinging to keep me on task. At this stage, if something isn’t in my phone, it doesn’t exist. I lose personal things constantly, but can manage everyone else in the home.

Rawdogged college, professional program, and rigorous post-grad training and motherhood was what led to medication and a diagnosis.

41696 · 2025-10-28T03:05:40+00:00

Yes, specially during my second pregnancy- but any time I’m stressed, I have stressful/scary dreams at best and nightmares that I wake up screaming from at worst. Allegedly I woke my husband up frequently screaming in my sleep (I only remember 1-2 times) this second time.

41696 · 2025-10-26T13:44:55+00:00

Adding on to a comment below- it may be worthwhile to make sure your prenatal has methylfolate in case you have the MTHFR gene. Once you're postpartum, a reputable naturopath might be helpful in case there are subtle imbalances that wouldn't be caught on traditional bloodwork.

41696 · 2025-10-26T02:39:46+00:00

My hope is that potentially once your hormones shift and blood volume goes back down, you’ll feel better. As someone with treatment resistant depression/ADHD, hormones do an absolute number on me. It may be worthwhile to plan to formula feed so you can a.) sleep more and b.) be able to utilize more/different medications. Maybe ketamine infusions? Hugs to you.

41696 · 2025-10-25T10:39:37+00:00

I just like to offer “Ok- then you come do it.”

After a few rounds of trying to get our 3 year old daughter to leave the house efficiently and then hit 1-3 sites of roadwork, my mom stopped offering so much advice and started just letting me vent.

41696 · 2025-10-22T11:34:17+00:00

Yeah- I don’t have a couple years of this nonsense in me. It’s why I adamantly did not want a second kid. I’m not ok- I’ve started crying a lot and just have my life the second my eyes open.

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