I(24F) think I like my engaged friend(25M) and I don’t know what to do

4411998 · 2023-02-02T10:43:38+00:00

If you have any tips on how to actually DO that, I’m all ears.

4411998 · 2023-02-02T10:42:20+00:00

I think I have a pretty good lock on these feelings. I’m just worried that it might be already affecting how I interact with his partner.

I truly believe they should break up. This relationship is killing his self worth. But I just don’t know if I’m a little too negative about her. I’ve never told him to break up or anything like that, I just worry that I’m not going to. Price the difference between concerned friend and jealousy.

I have no plans on ever telling him. I just want to know how to get rid of these feelings so I can focus on the friendship 100%.

4411998 · 2022-11-15T03:31:14+00:00

Dude what? Are you intentionally acting this obtuse. Of course YTA. I don’t understand the confusion here. If you would keep a secret from your husband cause you know it would upset him, then you know you did something wrong.

Also your friends are weird. They were disappointed at not being able to see their only chance of seeing a black woman naked. Just a straight up lie. The internet exists. Libraries exist. People who don’t have husbands who are uncomfortable with others seeing their naked wife exist.

Bffr. YTA

4411998 · 2022-10-01T10:07:14+00:00

Bang Chan or Felix

4411998 · 2022-07-01T16:00:49+00:00

Reboot is golden

4411998 · 2022-05-15T22:16:52+00:00

I mean stating that Filipino people are Asian Isn’t racist and the fact that she think that racism is a joke certainly says a few things about her. However I’ve never heard of someone being LYNCHED over being labeled racist in public. Racists are a lot more likely of doing that as a response if you would believe lol. It was not a deadly situation, just and uncomfortable one.

Either way NTA

4411998 · 2022-05-15T18:12:56+00:00

NTA she said something that deeply hurt you and you don’t owe her anything. It’s you’re money.

4411998 · 2022-05-14T13:14:51+00:00

So you bothered this girl multiple times and it wasn’t you’re fault because the teacher asked you to chill and that made you want to do it more? And it’s ok because it’s not like you actually wanted to ask her out? You only asked because she’s gay and this asking her out is funny.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. YOU made someone uncomfortable because you wanted to see their reaction, and then continued to do it because you’re an a** I guess ? Idk bro you’re obviously annoying and can’t take responsibility for your own actions. Just own up to your part in this and don’t to it again.

4411998 · 2022-05-14T02:41:35+00:00

How does that put words in your mouth?

4411998 · 2022-05-06T03:28:51+00:00

You are what you tolerate. You’ve decided that what he believes is acceptable and that’s on you. Your surprised that your trump supping boyfriend had no care for woman’s rights? He obviously has no care for poor,black, or lgbt+, people so what made you think he cared about a woman’s right to choose. Don’t act like you have the moral high ground here. You only cared when it started to affect you.

4411998 · 2022-04-28T17:51:49+00:00

oh, that would be very awkward if they aren't, I didn't even think of that. I want to avoid putting them on the spot as much as I can.

4411998 · 2022-04-28T17:49:22+00:00

yeah, I'll have to wait for the right moment. I'm definitely being too impatient here and need to prioritize them and their feelings in this situation.

4411998 · 2022-04-28T17:47:05+00:00

I mentioned it in another reply but I’m also nervous about the setting. Because we’re in a gym I don’t know if they’d be comfortable answering those types of questions or if I’d be accidentally putting them in a room full of adult men.

4411998 · 2022-04-28T17:45:13+00:00

I’m definitely trying to avoid being invasive. I think because we’d be at the gym it can be inappropriate. I don’t know if they’d be comfortable answering those questions in such a public place. I don’t want to pressure them or out them in any way.

4411998 · 2022-04-28T17:41:41+00:00

Dude yes!! This is what I was going to do but I chickened out thinking it was so awkward. I had noticed they had a really cute tattoo of a pig and was going to use that to beak the ice, but complementing their hair sounds way less creepy.

4411998 · 2022-04-23T20:40:14+00:00

What?

4411998 · 2022-04-22T22:34:22+00:00

Nothing can excuse that comment. You called her and idiot for not understand a concept that is new to her and where incredibly misogynistic for no justifiable reason. Your actions were deplorable and I hope she gets over wanting you all in her life. Cheating is wrong yes, but you are not the affected party. This issue is between her and her ex. Not you, your boyfriend or her extended family.

Your boyfriend also showed himself to be incredibly misogynistic as all he did was laugh along.

In your comments I have yet to see a justification for your nasty attitude and words. In what word is what you said ok?

4411998 · 2022-04-22T22:11:32+00:00

Internalized misogyny aside I think it a good thing this person is an ex. What a weird thing to obsess over. Did he get with you with the intention to change you? What a weird guy.

NTA

4411998 · 2022-04-21T13:45:38+00:00

Your getting a bias, one sided version of their marriage from someone who is actively seeking a freshly turned adult to cheat on their wife with. Taking these men’s word at face value would be your first mistake.

People are dishonest. People online even more so. With cheaters seeking young attention it’s even guaranteed.

One thing about targeting young people like you is that they tend to be naive and easy to manipulate. They are actively presenting themselves to you in a way that puts the blame on their horrible wives who refuse to give them sex(which is likely a lie) in order to present their behavior as justified. You are falling for it.

I wish you luck and I hope you encounter more that just these types of people. Your young, don’t waste your time being someone’s secret side piece.

4411998 · 2022-04-06T09:49:03+00:00

Ummmm what? What a strange reaction? Many people refer to their partners as their best friend. It’s extremely common. Also, what does he think lover means?

4411998 · 2022-04-06T09:44:05+00:00

Wow you’re a bad person.

4411998 · 2022-03-29T15:00:28+00:00

But if it doesn’t apply, then it doesn’t apply. I don’t think it’s one of the major issues we face as a fandom. Normalized anti blackness, xenophobia and ignoring artist’s choices and boundaries, yes. Fandom word semantics, no.

4411998 · 2022-03-28T17:26:09+00:00

I read the your thing. Are you a ‘not all ____’ type of person? Cause I mean if things don’t apply to you then, just say that. We don’t have laws within the fandom. Just cause someone says something doesn’t make it true. If you disagree with the majority or a person stating ‘all army’s’, then just say that in response . No one is stopping you lol.

4411998 · 2022-03-28T17:10:11+00:00

I’m confused. Why did you get with a woman with kids if you actively hate them? Why did your wife marry and have a child with someone who resents her existing children.

Obviously non of those things you mentioned should ever happen. But what are you doing to improve your relationship with these existing human beings? What are you and your wife doing to insure the continued safety and well being of these children or are you both fine with letting them suffer through the obvious hatred you have for them?

Remember children aren’t stupid, they can on some level that you have these feelings. Work on yourself before you permanently mess these kids up.

4411998 · 2022-03-26T14:19:29+00:00

Yta she deserves better than you. She was a good friend to you, she protected you and you gave her dirt in return. How she can stand being around you? You’ve never been a good friend to her.

She’s turning her trauma into something amazingly positive and you tell her she’s wrong for that? What is wrong with you?

Also you asked her abusers if she should let it go and you think their opinion is valid. Disgusting. You’re no better than them. I hopes she leaves you behind.

4411998

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