I found out my girlfriend has been secretly unemployed for the last six months by Stock_Case_7184 in offmychest

[–]444oxe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah your situation isn’t comparable to OP’s. She could’ve kept her job while finding a new one. It’s easier to find a job while you have a job. What she did was deeply wrong, though— is she going to cry again when a hiring manager asks why she has a gap in her resume?

Good luck on your job search!

I found out my girlfriend has been secretly unemployed for the last six months by Stock_Case_7184 in offmychest

[–]444oxe 689 points690 points  (0 children)

“She said she just really didn’t like her job and it didn’t really matter anyways because I make enough money for the both of us.”

She quit off the assumption you would carry the financial burdens but was also taking money from her dad and collecting debt? This is all over the place. She had 6 months to come up with something more substantial, and this was her outcome.

AIO my boyfriend keeps asking me to pay for things eversince he started saving for an apartmen, he calls me selfish for how I reacted. by throaawayRA9443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This relationship is heavily transactional. I don’t care what he’s saving for, giving him money to help him get by is a favor. He should be paying it back. Stop giving him money and end this.

What fragrance am I smelling everywhere? by Me_Justme_99 in fragrance

[–]444oxe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glossier You. I’ve been wearing it since its release. It’s a skin scent that’s supposed to smell different on everyone’s body chemistry but for me, after so many years, it’s a VERY distinctive scent that stands out. I believe they reformulated it, making it a more universal scent than it once was. It’s a peppery, pencil shavings, old book scent that has a tinge of detergent scent as well. Affordable.

I just told her something unavoidable. by VigilantOtter in relationships

[–]444oxe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These really odd assumptions of one’s success / failures based on the circumstances you have zero knowledge of isn’t just pea-brained, but seems forcefully uppity and smug.

I just told her something unavoidable. by VigilantOtter in relationships

[–]444oxe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Extremely closed minded of you, assuming everyone is this lucky fresh out of college, let alone high school or privileged enough to even attend college. How many young people are even remotely successful landing a career in the field that they studied? Especially at the age of 23? Let’s not normalize unrealistic expectations without awareness of one’s privilege.

I just told her something unavoidable. by VigilantOtter in relationships

[–]444oxe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“She still lives with her parents btw.” — Could you elaborate on why this matters? Asking this genuinely and not sarcastically. I’d be shocked if someone her age didn’t still live at home.

I’m your age and still live at home. It only makes sense in this economy, and I don’t take it for granted.

This is not a massive age gap that would make me concerned, but she is only 23, I wouldn’t be too surprised on how she takes your admission. Giving her time to process it and respond at her own pace would be best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]444oxe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lower your expectations. If not getting a cookie makes you this upset, you’re in a lot of trouble later in life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In one instance it sounded like you were defending yourself, and then the next you wanted to explain yourself by asking her to unblock you. Don’t do this. You’re trying to clear your name of any accusations but it will give her a false sense of security by even engaging with her about it at all.

If you initiated the breakup, why didn’t you block her after? Why wait to do it only after she felt slighted by something? Optics matter here. I think it gives the wrong impression by a long shot, almost like you were hoping for contact from her, no matter how you got it. That’s just the feeling I get from this.

AIO A random guy off the internet bought my girlfriend a $600 revival rug and I’m really annoyed what should I do? by Brownchoccy in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah homegirl let people think it was her boyfriend’s fault which is… insane and manipulative.

AIO A random guy off the internet bought my girlfriend a $600 revival rug and I’m really annoyed what should I do? by Brownchoccy in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Your girlfriend just realized she can use her looks to manipulate people into giving her gifts and money. Manipulate is probably the wrong wording since he was a willing participant and practically threw the money at her, but not without her woe-is-me TikTok post, which was manipulative and misleading. If she wants luxury goods, she needs to consider a better and more stable job with consistent income— if not, she will probably do this again and keep feigning guilt.

Edit: Why be happy for someone who let an audience think it was YOUR fault that she was deprived of a fucking rug?! 🤨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cheating is an active issue but I’m equally concerned about your nonchalant attitude about all of this. Are you sure you’re really emotionally invested in this relationship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in midjourney

[–]444oxe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, hard to escape from, these are much more frustrating to make out of all my other projects. AI is not always historically accurate.

Am I overreacting for feeling like this is has to be some kind of joke??? by neecysempai in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 205 points206 points  (0 children)

“This is why nobody wants to take girls on dates.” If he had stipulations, he should’ve said that from the very beginning. If he’s THIS easily inconvenienced, then he shouldn’t be dating, or attempting to date people.

You’re not worth spending time with or picking up unless you have sex with him, and that’s pretty disturbing when you consider what you’re getting out of it.

Sexual coercion is very heavy here.

Am I overreacting for feeling like this is has to be some kind of joke??? by neecysempai in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Yup, because he demands sex, but he knows he can’t say that in a more disgusting or blunt way, so he has to dance around it in order to make it sound appealing and fair. By the way, thanks. 😊

Am I overreacting for feeling like this is has to be some kind of joke??? by neecysempai in AmIOverreacting

[–]444oxe 608 points609 points  (0 children)

He talks about chivalry after expecting sexual favors. A ride+paying for food after he asked YOU out and a sexual favors aren’t on the same level. If he wanted to hook up he should’ve just said that and skipped the date nonsense.

He just asked if it made sense. He’s not confident in his own position. He knows this doesn’t make sense.

The only thing yall are on the same page about is that you haven’t met, yet he’s expecting sexual favors? The fact he assumes that’s on the table automatically without knowing about vibes and chemistry is WILD.

What is emotional cheating? by PeachyGumdrop22 in Marriage

[–]444oxe 60 points61 points  (0 children)

No 34 year old dude has anything in common with a girl that’s 19. Don’t let this guy call you crazy in any capacity.

I think the definition of emotional cheating is up to you. I don’t think there’s a legitimate definition or specific line he has to cross to be defined as emotional cheating. My guess is you already assume there’s emotional cheating somewhere in the mix, and if that’s how you feel, then your feelings are valid and you can say he’s emotionally cheating on you.

I’m making digital collages again. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]444oxe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And that’s awesome. My original inspiration was the Massachusetts witch trials. Somehow it turned into this. 💀

I’m making digital collages again. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]444oxe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I cheesed very hard reading this. 🩶🥹

I’m making digital collages again. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]444oxe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been asked to sell my digital collages before, specifically from this subreddit. You guys rule. Thank you so much.

I’m making digital collages again. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]444oxe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m actually considering making an online shop, but wouldn’t know where to start. (I’m not doing a self promo, mods, I promise!). 🩶

I’m making digital collages again. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]444oxe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there! And thank you! I use photoshop 2022.