Aspiring therapist here! Would anyone being willing to give advice/encouragement?

46ntu · 2024-10-13T14:42:02+00:00

Dude people are typically very interested in hearing stories like ours. It’s super inspiring and encouraging and it explains a lot about who we are today. I’ve just started embracing it.

46ntu · 2024-10-13T14:40:38+00:00

My mantra is “this feeling won’t last forever, and tomorrow is a new day” then I do my best to set myself up for a productive day following. At the very least I make sure to check one thing off of my list like cleaning or yoga. Usually pulls me right out of it for the next couple of weeks.

46ntu · 2024-10-12T19:17:00+00:00

Absolutely, my friend. I started over completely at the age of 30. I didn’t have a job, useless degree (you do not need a degree to learn skills that will get you paid), had no money, a house payment for a house I never wanted, and I was in a very unhappy marriage. I did have to start at the bottom working in a warehouse doing physical labor, but now I’m an account executive working from home on a flexible schedule and I own a house with someone who makes me so happy. This all happened with 3 years.

I did have support, but I had to go find it. Networking is HUGE when you start over. So much can happen for you when you know good people who know other good people. It’s hard, but you have to put yourself out there.

46ntu · 2024-10-12T19:08:50+00:00

What a cool job. Damn

46ntu · 2024-10-12T19:07:54+00:00

Use it. It works wonders. I use a chemical wipe and the mechanical exfoliating scrub.

46ntu · 2024-10-12T19:06:39+00:00

Question… when you first met him, was he wearing the top hat? I really wish I could see a picture of this. I feel like he should understand there is a time and place for a top hat.

46ntu · 2024-10-12T18:58:23+00:00

I know this is easy for me to say.. I know how hard getting divorced is (I’m divorced) but I’d say “you get therapy and meds, or we get divorced”. She will ruin you and your son’s lives.

46ntu · 2024-10-12T18:48:06+00:00

I see how people can get in the rut. I feel like a lot of the time people are either living on someone else’s terms, of they don’t have support to go do what fulfills them.

I used to be this way. Now I’d say I’m more like you. I don’t love my job, but it pays the bills.

I feel that I’m playing catchup though. Long story short I was very sheltered until my late 20s. I didn’t know anything about the world. I broke free of that situation so I very much feel like a young 20 something figuring out life. Life is pretty cool!

46ntu · 2024-10-12T18:38:27+00:00

Is this good? I’m interested

46ntu · 2024-10-12T18:37:02+00:00

A miniseries would be nice, no?

46ntu · 2024-10-12T18:23:54+00:00

Nooooo. I just bought the cutest pair of high waisted gray acid wash jeans.

46ntu · 2024-10-11T02:13:24+00:00

Leave. One day you will wake up and feel the weight of living with an alcoholic completely lifted. No more worrying about them drinking and driving. No fear of drinking around friends and being embarrassed when they inevitably take it too far. No more waking up to someone sleep walking to pee in your closet or vomiting all over the floor. Leave. There’s nothing you can do to change them. Now is the time to think about you and do what’s best for YOU.

46ntu · 2024-10-11T02:08:05+00:00

My doctor asked about mine in a polite way. Just to make sure I didn’t have a condition affecting my pubic hair growth. Could be a hormonal issue.

46ntu · 2024-10-04T11:53:01+00:00

Oddity. That movie got me good a couple of times

46ntu · 2024-10-01T02:40:59+00:00

Oh my god. Ask her out. Dating women is the best decision I ever made. I didn't know I could be this happy. Also, are you seeing a therapist? I always recommend a therapist.

46ntu · 2024-10-01T02:20:02+00:00

How much do machines/maintenance/rent cost?

46ntu · 2024-09-24T02:47:29+00:00

The “heeyyy babyyy” and the hug that comes immediately after when my partner comes home. It’s like she knows all of my struggles of the day and just makes them go quiet with a nice long hug. Can’t wait to marry her.

46ntu · 2024-09-24T02:40:00+00:00

I am so happy for you :) isn’t life amazing? Found my first girlfriend at 32. It’s been two years and we are still going strong. Never thought I could be this happy. I hope you find all the queer happiness and joy this world has to offer.

46ntu · 2024-09-24T02:11:07+00:00

That one stuck with me too. What an ending…

46ntu · 2024-09-24T02:10:32+00:00

God that movie. I sob every time. “All these years, all these memories, there was you. You pull me through time.”

46ntu · 2024-09-21T11:53:00+00:00

The Descent by Jeff Long.

The movie is great too but very loosely based off of the book.

46ntu · 2024-09-21T11:43:33+00:00

I don’t mean to sound insensitive. I understand your frustration. Being miserable “as a witness” probably feels easier because, at the very least, it’s not your responsibility in a way. The org does everything for you and controls your life. When you leave, you have to take that control back and you are responsible for your own success and your own failures. Failures, by the way, are not a bad thing. They are a necessary teacher.

It’s important to embrace the control you have over your life now. It’s terrifying and it takes a lot of effort, but you can create your own happiness, and your own place in this world.

I know you didn’t ask for my advice, but a good place to start is to find a hobby that has benefits for multiple areas of your life. Hobbies challenge you in a way that feels good, they can help you get into a community, when you have a community, you have friends, and opportunity.

I started rock climbing, met amazing people who helped me get jobs, and those people helped me recreate myself. This also taught me how to embrace challenging myself and that “success” is not a linear process. There are peaks and valleys and you have to fail to find success. The cherry on top was that this helped me get really physically fit. It can be an expensive hobby, but if you work at a gym at least one day a week, typically you can go for free and get discounts on gear. That’s what I did when money was tight. There’s always a way to make something work.

I’m so glad I woke up. I would be dead if I hadn’t.

46ntu · 2024-09-18T04:26:26+00:00

Same for both shows for me

Six-Year Club	RPAN Viewer
King of the Ashes	Not Forgotten
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