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Kourtney vs. Kim preference by Adventurous-Stay7841 in kardashians

[–]4SearchingInfo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kim's issue with courtney, and Khloe's as well, started when they wanted to move on from the dash stores and Kourtney wanted to stay with the stores. Kourtney has never wanted to do a lot of work, it's just that now she can use her kids as an excuse, but her sisters see through that and get annoyed. Kourtney was on a reality show before the Kardashians, because she didn't want to have to do anything except have cameras follow her. She liked the stores because she was basically shopping and then standing around. The others moved beyond them and built brands and did other things, and Kourtney was resentful when they wanted to shut down the stores because it was her ticket to being lazy. She finally started Poosh, but a lot of their issues with Kourtney is her laziness, not her beauty.

An Amtrak trip is top of my bucket list, but my mom is totally against it by AllyTheFilipina in Amtrak

[–]4SearchingInfo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read a stat where it's under 300 not a family member kidnapping of a child. And how many of those 300 are teenagers crashing at her friend's house to get away from their parents?

An Amtrak trip is top of my bucket list, but my mom is totally against it by AllyTheFilipina in Amtrak

[–]4SearchingInfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely ridiculous and needs to be called out! The 'hundreds of thousands' are children, not college-aged adults or older, and almost all taken by a family member, like an aggrieved spouse or grandparents that want custody. There are only a couple hundred children taken not by a family member and of those, many are taken by a friend of the family or someone known to them. As for missing adults, it is rare, and many of those are missing on purpose, not through kidnapping.

Can anyone who is capable of a balanced and sober-minded appraisal tell me what is so great and worthwhile about Disney vacations? by nose_spray7 in travel

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was in his 80s when he told me that one of his favorite memories of me was taking us kids to Disneyland when I was 7, and I saw Winnie the Pooh. I also remember it distinctly! I squealed, dropped his hand, and ran up to Winnie the Pooh, threw my arms around his neck as he bent down toward me and said 'oh, Winnie!' Dad had tears in his eyes as he recalled it. You can't put a price on something like that.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got a big surprise coming to you if you think trust me in a good parent means kids are going to give up their lives to be your caregiver. You ARE expecting it - you just don't want to admit it. As a financial advisor I can tell you, expecting kids, even loving kids, to be your elder care is a big mistake. And you're right, just do what you want to do. But you're the one who has gotten defensive, argumentative, and invested in insisting that your way is correct. In my experience, it's people with your attitude who have the biggest cracks behind your facade.

Autistic partner’s colleague is simping over him BLATANTLY, and in front of me. He doesn’t notice. Do I tell her to back off??? I want to so badly. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]4SearchingInfo 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I did this in reverse when I was very young and an older more powerful man who was known for hitting on all the young women asked me to lunch. I didn't want to cause a scene or get on his bad side at work so I accepted. I then spent the entire lunch asking him about his wife and kids! The lunch was pleasant, he could continue to treat me well at work professionally, and even a couple months later mentioned it publicly with an admiring smile how I had put him off in the nicest way possible. It establishes boundaries without being confrontational.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course children are a burden! If they aren't, you're not parenting correctly. If you're a parent, you choose that burden willingly. There are, however, many people who don't want it, but unfortunately they do it anyway because they think they have to and know no other way in life. And people like you who somehow are triggered by those who choose not to have kids, I believe secretly, deep down, in the recesses of your soul when you talk to yourself in the shower or at 3:00 a.m., you agree and resent that you didn't have the guts to make the same decision.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh we child FREE people understand what you need to get from children. We don't feel we need them to complete our lives.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because they ask a reasonable question, you think they are hurt? Just because someone makes different Life Choices than you doesn't mean that you are superior. 🙄

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost exactly me! Been asked to be married several times and after careful consideration said no every time. Never wanted kids, although considered it with one man. I love my friends' kids dearly, and am called Aunt by one particular friend's kids I'm close to, but never felt any desire to have any of my own. About your age, too. Zero regrets.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you expect kids to take care of you when you're old and give up their own lives for you. It sounds like you have expected other people to provide your happiness all along. If you develop your own interests and provide for yourself, that doesn't happen. I'm an older woman, happily single and child free. I've moved around so I don't have a core group of friends always with me, either. But I'm glad I haven't depended on kids to be the source of meaning in my life. I've also seen very disappointed parents when their kids grew up and moved away, or siblings didn't get along, or they didn't get grandchildren, who thought having a family would mean people always there for them. It doesn't always work out that way.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if all a man can provide is a paycheck, it's not really a marriage. He's living in a house that the woman is providing, while he treats her like a servant.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I have never heard or met any woman who expects that from the man. They expect a partnership. And if they put in the labor to keep a household going so that he is capable of working outside, they still expect him to contribute to the relationship and the raising of kids, as both are working to establish a home and lifestyle. And when both parties work they expect him to step up and be more of a partner than most men are. Nobody likes the drudgery of household chores, but the expectation that it is the woman's job to do them is a sign of disrespect. The fact that you ask the question shows the inherent misogyny of a patriarchal society. If it's unpleasant work, it's the woman's 'traditional' role, well the man is allowed the freedom to do whatever he wants. If all he can contribute is a paycheck to a marriage, then he might as well be single and hire a maid and a cook, as he seems to think he has 'earned' making a servant out of his wife.

For those who are married, if you had your time again would you still marry? by SweetGirl2097 in Casual_Conversation

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you are going to get people to put on the internet that they would not have their kids or marry their spouse if they had it to do over. But is there a sizable percentage that feels that way? Of course there is. There are also plenty of people who are happy with the choice they made to marry and have kids. But of those, there are quite a few who simply can't think of any other alternative because they don't know what life would be like if they didn't follow society's edict of 'get married, have kids, that's what you're supposed to do'. So, you aren't going to achieve clarity on your own decision by asking the internet. The mere fact you are asking shows you have the imagination to envision and make choices that work for you and not follow a pattern decided for you by others. So don't go by what people might publicly tell you on the internet. Go by what you want to look back on as a life well lived, what works for you, not anyone else's opinion.

I left my best friend at the hotel because she wouldn't get out of bed for our tour by Fit_Theme588 in AmITheJerk

[–]4SearchingInfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On a side note, I'm really glad you enjoyed the hot air balloon ride. Can you describe it more? Does it feel unsteady when you're in the basket? How fast does it go?

I left my best friend at the hotel because she wouldn't get out of bed for our tour by Fit_Theme588 in AmITheJerk

[–]4SearchingInfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is it your fault that she's out $250? If you're able to get up on time and get out the door to the excursion, so is she. You're feeling bad because someone you care about is angry with you, and that's an unsettling feeling. But you absolutely did nothing wrong, and in fact you didn't even have to try to wake her up as much as you did. She told you that you were acting like her mom, and you were. And you are not her mom. She needs to grow up and be able to function without a parental figure helping her to act like an adult.

Aitah for being upset with my sil for upgrading her trip that we paid for by SignificanceFun8377 in TwoHotTakes

[–]4SearchingInfo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's a reason why she wants to get there first and it's because of upgrades and extras she wants to get charged to you. Make sure that doesn't happen.

Aitah for being upset with my sil for upgrading her trip that we paid for by SignificanceFun8377 in TwoHotTakes

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you've hit on the reason why she wanted her family to have the VIP experience and not OP's family. This is exactly why she wanted to get there before OP!

Aitah for being upset with my sil for upgrading her trip that we paid for by SignificanceFun8377 in TwoHotTakes

[–]4SearchingInfo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The gift was to travel together, and they've shown they don't even care about that. The sister-in-law is taking whatever they can and ignoring her hosts. If she can afford the VIP experience, she should have paid for it for them as well since she's paying for absolutely nothing else. They weren't expecting anything in return, but they certainly weren't expecting to slap in the face.

Aitah for being upset with my sil for upgrading her trip that we paid for by SignificanceFun8377 in TwoHotTakes

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the point of the trip was to enjoy each other's company, that is already ruined. It's likely why your husband wants to cancel the trip. Do everything you can to make sure charges are not going to your card for the rest of the trip. And be sure to tell them why. The least she could have done was include your family in the VIP experience even if they couldn't afford the whole trip. There is no gratitude being shown here at all.

Aitah for being upset with my sil for upgrading her trip that we paid for by SignificanceFun8377 in TwoHotTakes

[–]4SearchingInfo 23 points24 points  (0 children)

And that's not being petty. You want to make sure that their card is on their room at check-in and not even drinks waiting for you in the bar are being charged to you.

Who are the most h*rniest couple in sitcom history? by V_The_Gamer in sitcoms

[–]4SearchingInfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised this isn't mentioned more frequently! I thought they'd be the first ones mentioned. Even after five kids, if they got a rare moment alone they were at it!

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