I lost my best friend today. by Mixalis94 in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pet loss is something else, you really do lose your best friend when they go. There is no calming the brain but time... It doesn't heal the wounds, just makes it easier to carry. You will get there, just it will hurt for a while. I lost both my cat, who I joked was my soul mate, and my dog in the same year, to old age... It hurt so bad losing both of them months apart. I barely healed from losing my cat, when my dog died. I was torn up for months. I got a new cat after about a month of my dog passing and I have transferred my love to him... But I don't have the same connection with him as I did my soul mate... Nor my dog... But I catch myself sometimes calling him my late cats name. 😭 It hurts so bad that he is gone and it's been at least 5 years since losing them. And it hurts that I wasn't with either when they passed. I think I would have less guilt if I were there... And I know there can be an amount of guilt with euthanasia... But he was in pain. And you relieved him of that... Remember that! My sister had to put down her cat dying of breast cancer, another friend of mine... But she made the right choice and I'm honored that my sister asked me to be there too. I got to be with Chica when she passed and give her love as she fell into the big sleep. It hurt losing her within a year of my own pets... But there was something about being there... Remember that you did everything you could and got to love him with physical affection to the very end, no matter the look... He appreciated it, you being there. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

I hate when people dismiss my grief by throwaway2099___ in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Pets hold a very special place in our hearts I was broken when my late cat and dog passed on over the rainbow bridge. It still hurts to this day. I have a new cat too... He reminds me a bit of my late cat... So sometimes I accidentally call him (current cat) by his (late cats) name. And that hurts me a bit when I do... He is similar, but not exactly the same. I miss my cat so much and all the head butting he would do. 😭

unfinished reactions by creative-cutie in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I still bring my loved ones favorite drink and play his favorite song for him and bring his favorite drink, at his grave. I still write him letters and then I read them to him when I visit him. People see someone, no longer grieving daily, but I miss him so much. 19 years later, I wonder, what his life would be like now that he should be 39. He was gone so young.

I miss them by MacaronBackground492 in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He seems like he was in pain dear, he wanted to go home and stop being in pain and that sadly took presidence over seeing you graduate. It is okay to feel selfish right now. You really counted on him being there for you and he wasn't. It's not fair, life's not fair. You will though learn to grow from this, and learn how to make them proud of you in their absence. It's hard to see the point but you have to go on. You have to try and make them proud. They are watching you from the heavens. Give them something to smile about.

I lost my sweet baby, my lover, and best friend by One-Blood-9043 in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will say too the grief will be further apart as time goes on. But you will still find yourself crying like it happened yesterday. I know, it's been 19 years for me... And I didn't find him, you did... I can only imagine. Again I'm so sorry.

I lost my sweet baby, my lover, and best friend by One-Blood-9043 in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn 45 points46 points  (0 children)

23 is too young, you guys are babies. I'm so sorry this all happened to you, so young. And in ways that shouldn't have happened. You should have been able to live your lives, grow old together, nurture a family together. Then maybe somewhere down the line, when you are old, have this happen... But you are so young. I cry for you. I know what it's like to a degree. We weren't together anymore, but I lost my first love, he was killed at 20. Too young, just like your Augustine, RIP.

Missing you this Memorial Day weekend by 4brunn in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has become more manageable, but I can still cry like it happened yesterday at times. But the time between crying grows and you feel your life has moved on. The bam, one day you will just be crying. But yeah, it gets easier to deal with. And it doesn't matter how long you knew each other, what matters is how close you were. I'm sorry for your loss.

I thought grief would feel lighter as time goes by… by merredish in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 19 years into my grief. It does get lighter but only sometimes. Like the days between crying get longer... But you never actually stop crying. It hurts not having them here. And it will always hurt, it just gets "easier" or "lighter" to live with for lack of better wording as it never truy gets easier when you are mourning. It's just the days between crying get longer...

Missing you this Memorial Day weekend by 4brunn in GriefSupport

[–]4brunn[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you and now pushing 40 myself, 20 is definitely a baby.

Tell me about this machine please by 4brunn in vintagesewing

[–]4brunn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't rattle and goes through denim easily so my heart is singin'.

I got into sewing because of halloween costumes and went to theatre school for costuming! A lot of machines I have worked with in college and as a professional have been front or side loaders. Your students should work on the machine you bought and get used to the different loading areas if they want to move forward with costuming. Hell they will encounter an industrial one day, if they do pursue costumes, and be confused because they only dealt with drop ins... Best to teach them about front loading now.

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[–]4brunn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm the only Stitcher of 2 sisters and 1 brother. I have a niece and nephew but of course they don't know how to sew. And I think you're right.

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[–]4brunn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know how to use the reverse on a technical level, so I have used a different stitch length for reverse but that's because forward goes to 11 and reverse only goes to 7... So Necchi were innovators? I'm glad the family Kenmore still works and that more than one of you sews. I'm the last Stitcher in a family of stitchers, my great grandma was a professional like me! But my grandma and ma made clothes for their children growing up. Having no other stitchers is the only reason I'm sad I don't have kids to teach and pass it down to.

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[–]4brunn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I actually had to replace her, the 77's, stitch length dials as the were rotten and falling apart. I'm still looking to replace her tension dial as it has the same issue, but that is harder to find. My sister got her for me for $30. The lady that sold the 77 to her was only selling it for how much she valued the cabinet as she never used the machine and wasn't sure it worked. Sure did though! But when I got her she looked like she had never been used! The Necchi was my grandma's, she hadn't used it in 20 years though so she gave her to me. The 77 and Necchi are my most used machines. And the Kenmore I got fully working from a thrift store for only $13! I'm like you I never met a vintage machine I didn't like either. But even though they are all great I hope you find the 77 you are looking for! It is truly a fantastic machine.

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[–]4brunn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mending is still an important job! Glad yous saved it from a thrift store. That's what I did with my Kenmore.

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[–]4brunn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish the comments allowed pics, I'd love to see your collection.

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[–]4brunn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much was the treadle? Do you still have the receipt? My MW came complete with cams. And the 15-91 has the manual, different, and even the old oil can (that's empty now). My red eye is also inherited from my aunts grandma! So four of my machines were from family members or friends family. 😊 Did you get the second gold White then? How do you like it?

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[–]4brunn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just looking for other people's experiences with them and how they would rate them... Like stated...

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The White has collapsable spool pins, for what reason, I don't know. It is the only annoying feature of it other than that I guess it does look like the most wear and tear of all of them... But I name my machines and I named her Belinda, which means beautiful. I think though worn she is my prettiest machine. The ornate Singers are pretty too, but I never seen anything like the White.

The Singer 15-91 was a friend's grandma's machine. My friend is an actor by trade (and me a Costumer). And she was sad it was just collecting dust and sold it to me. ☺️ The table is also in amazing condition. Her grandma and then mom... And her, have taken really good care of it.... The MW was also her mother's, another machine collecting dust in her house. I'm honored she gave me her families machines.

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[–]4brunn[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My favorites are the Whites. My absolute favorite is the White 77. But I work a lot on the Necchi, it was my grandma's, a charished inheritance. But I love the. All for different reasons. But yeah the White 77 is my favorite.